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  1. Thanks everyone Feeling a lot calmer now : I have been to her school and spoken with her head of house, who was very understanding and reassuring, he said she always seems happy and with a good bunch of girls and from his point if view there certainly no indication of this at school. They are going to keep an eye on her and have a word. He said I have done everything correctly. Today I have cleared her room of items that I feel are a privilege as I feel she needs to earn them back. We have just sat down and had a long talk, she doesn't know why she did it and seems very remorseful. I have asked if she feels she has anyone in the family she can confide in , she said no one is very serious so I have made it clear in these situations we would be very supportive etc. I have also asked her that in the future if she ever feels she has made a bad decision/ mistake to tell us straight away as I would rather her from her then anyone else. We discussed the birds and bees etc I have told her I have made bad decisions regarding this area so I know how difficult it can be (sorry to the male population, I did say 90% of you are after one thing and when you get it you tend to drop the girl very quickly) All in all it's been a very calm discussion, I haven't hidden how upset I am from her, I have told her I'm very ashamed and that I feel I have done something very wrong as a parent but I still love her. Finally along with her only have internet for homework and downstairs with me, I have asked her to write me an essay detailing about butane abuse the effects with a conclusion as to why it's not a good idea. My gut feeling is this has been an experimental thing for her and I feel she has learnt her lesson, but only time will tell
  2. Thanks I will speak to her head of house and I have been on the Frank website. As for work I am on a zero hour contract sort off and luckilly they seem focused on other areas so my work is starting to thin out we just have some events coming up and I will have to tell them I am unavalible which will also be good as they seem to have taken the micheal recently. Better try and get some sleep it may look better in the morning ??
  3. Thanks Those are questions we have asked ? I think when Hubby read all the risks etc reality hit home but I suppose the next few weeks months will show wether it has or not . Just so upset
  4. Hi guy its been a long time since Ive been on ! My worst fears when becoming a parent seem to be coming true and I would love to hear peoples advice etc : I recently bought a butane weed killer device which came with spare cans. This evening my husband could smell butane and quickly found out our 12yrold daughter had been 'playing with it' I did a count of the cans and to my shock found 2 missing after asking her many times she finally admitted to having them and bought down from her room 2 empty cans. It has become very clear that she has been inhalling them (I cant stop crying and feel sick to the core) My mum came over and we sat her down had a long talk etc, my husband read out the dangers from websites online, at this point she did go very pale and I would like to think the reality hit home . We have taken certain privelages away from her, her computer will be on lock down she will have an allocated time to get homeowrk done etc and will no longer be left in the home unsupervised (not that she really has been) I think she was also very upset to hear that I am now debating handing my notice in at work as I feel I need to have my priorities with family. We have explained that whilst this is part punishment it is also a direct result of her actions and how we feel we can no longer trust her etc.... I am just so worried, this has only happened within less than a week but have we caught it early enough ? how did we not know until now, is it a sign she has an addictive personality . I know I can get help from school doctors etc but is there anything else we could do, have handled it correctly I love being a mum but in the same breath I hate it my heart feels like its shatterd into a million peices, shes only 12 I have years off worry ahead and we have 2 younger sons 5 and 8 so what joys will they throw at me Sorry its not a happy post x
  5. No idea whats going on at home as I am currently in Galway Ireland with work, but I can report that the hotel is toasty warm
  6. Its looking good I am hoping that I will get to watch it but I am working in Galway for the week, will be interesting to see what Matthew Wright is like ?? As for Ant and Dec well for me it is just one big SWOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOON ahhhhhhhhhhh Ant and Dec how I love those two and would very much like them gift wrapped for Christmas
  7. Wow I think this topic may have just solved the mystery of where all my Glasses, Mugs and Teaspoons maybe ... time to tackle ED's bedroom ............. mind you its soooooooooooo minging I am sure we have a few decaying tramps hidden underneath all the junk !! If there is NO Omlet activity from me for months can someone try and locate my family and tell them I have ventured in to her pit and have got lost or trapped
  8. Well after the shock of us working together I am now back to my usual miffed state with the hubs ! I haven't got any better, really weak just about got asthma controlled by resting (haven't been this bad in years) however I am now really frustrated ceiling is finished we have new bed waiting to be put together if I was well that would have been done now along with putting all the boys junk back into the room thus regaining my sewing room (shows how unwell I am as normally would carry in regardless!) The hubs has just asked what do want me to do with the paint brushes rollers trays etc ? Well DUH really do you need to ask, I have managed to tell him politely what he should do although I was tempted to yell 'Leave the festering in the boys room with some added abuse and sarcasim. Love him to bits but surely for once he could just do things unprompted, I have no time next week and then will be working away for a week so goodness knows when it will get finished. Lets hope im feeling better tomorrow
  9. Shock horror ! both me and hubby have undertaken in joint DIY !! We have just done the 1st coat of the sons bedroom ceiling !! I was cutting in and hubby was rollering, we actually worked in harmony however I expect that may be because I am struggling really badly with asthma and a cold so if hubby did mention anything he would have been on his own, and I did collapse in a heap on the floor when I had finished leaving him to negotiate me whilst he was still painting, I am now sporting a pebbledash white effect on my skin (im too lazy to find painting clothes so I was painting in a vest top and pants ) Oh well time to rest before the next coat
  10. That's when Christmas really starts Exactly ! However now adding John Lewis adverts to the big build up along with Toys R Us but the official start for us is the Coke advert Anyway back to the John Lewis advert I LOVE IT !
  11. I also have a bunch that seem to love to run around in the rain, on the rare occasion they will go for shelter but a few still like to have their feathery backsides hanging out in the rain ! Now if we get a slight bit of snow then nothing will coax them out !
  12. Felling your pain ! I m lucky my hubby is practical etc however it just takes him forever to finally do anything and I am the one who does a lot of our DIY having said that I have been 8 years without a working hot tap in our bath (We use the shower with head removed to fill the bath !) Hubby can do this repair as it is a washer that has gone, my dad is a plumber so could do it but I save the jobs for him to be bigger ones (a new kitchen extension etc etc !) plus we do hope to get a new bathroom in the no so distant future (another 10 yrs or so I expect ) so not worth repairing it would seem
  13. The partridge ones look a paler version of my Clarabel who is a Gold Partridge I have to agree they all look lovely x
  14. I watched it and found it interesting, the lady from Newport made me chuckle with her night watch and washing line pole then too see that it was a neighbours cat filmed doing the deed on the lawn (mind you they did say that she may have had foxes in the past) But what I found really bizarre being a chicken owner I am very careful about leaving food out in fear of encouraging rats, and as we all know keeping chicken will put you in the frame for neighbourhood rats etc. So seeing all those people chucking cat food out had me in a little state of trauma but then I suppose the foxes are eating it all so maybe there is no issue (who knows hey)
  15. Of my clan I would have to say the cuddliest are Marilyn and Connie. Marilyn is a Black Tailed Columbian and Connie is a Goldline. They are as dim as anything will try to pretend to run away but the moment you get close they coopey down and hey presto lovely cuddles Look forward to hearing what you choose to get and the tales you will tell us oh and I beware of the good ol 'More Hens disease' !!! I started with two and said I only ever wanted two yet 5 years later I seem to have 7 of the feathery ratbags
  16. I have done the survey, hope that you do well xx
  17. Plum that is amazing I have pallets and sand paper and an NVQ level 2 in Engineering Manufacture but I doubt I could create anything that would look as good as yours
  18. Of the 7 I have a few dimwits !! Connie can get out but it is beyond her to get back in for bedtime so I have to scoop her up and take her to bed !
  19. I sent them an email last night and cancelled the direct debit etc. The instructor has emailed me today saying that he would 'sponsor' the £10 as Alex has potential and the £10 is to cover insurance but this doesn't tally as in the original letter it implied the insurance was part of the monthly payment luckily my husband thought the same so at least that's not me misreading it. Also another mum said she wasn't asked for £10 when she used a 2nd hand uniform which again is odd. For me its the principle of the whole thing, I will consider letting Alex carry on as they have said they would pay the insurance to keep him as he shows 'great potential' (being cynical I think its more his monthly payment will bring more potential !) I will point out that I have found it misleading as well Your replies have reassured me that I'm not a grumpy ol' moo which as the days go by I do find more and more things will put me in a mood or have me ranting like loon
  20. My MS who is 8 was given a months free trial for some martial art club after school, he loves his sports so I let him do it and yes as you can imagine after the month he wanted to continue which I agreed to knowing that would be another thing we would be forking out for. Last week my friend gave me a uniform as one of her daughters had given up, today I filled out the registration forms and noticed that the cost of a new uniform would be taken out with the monthly direct debit so I emailed explain that we already had the uniform, well I had a reply saying that if it wasn't one of theirs then I had to get a new one as they like all the children in the same, I can complain at this that seems a fair comment but what has really mad hopping mad is that they also stated if it was I had to pay them £10 !! Now how on earth does that work !! In all the paperwork I had nowhere did it state the uniforms were theirs and if you quit they had to go back, it did say that if your child gave up they would buy them back so I am confused as to how this works. Anyway as I feel this is wrong and we only said he could do it knowing we wouldn't have to buy a new uniform so I have cancelled the who shebang ! Alex is going to be absolutely gutted when I tell him but I just feel so angry about it all. I also am fed up of being a bottomless pit for money
  21. Typically just before I was going to leave for the school run there was an almighty racket coming from my girls ! I went to investigate to find Pricilla doing her nut in, now I can not decide if she was purposely alerting my to the fact the Connie, Isla and Trixie had escaped and were happily FR in the garden (Connie having a good attack at one of my pot plants) Or if in fact she was just in a 'foul' mood because she hasn't got the brains to get out herself ! Either way I gave her Annie, Clarabelle and Marilyn some of the kids left over cereal (all soggy just how they like it) and the naughty escapees got nowt I do need to so some serious wing clipping !
  22. Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh I like that ! Looks like I may have just started my Christmas wish list
  23. DM Thanks yes your right ours will only be for kindling don't think I trust myself with a chainsaw especially as recently I have been quite distracted . I have noticed we have been acquiring lots of blankets and I think I may be bringing a duvet down to cuddle under I was also told by a cashier in Primark (so of course it has to be true!!) its meant to be getting warmer by the end of the week ???
  24. Still managing to keep mine off, but have lit the log burner and I am thinking I need more wood and an axe to break up all the fence panels we no longer need ! I did put the under floor heating on in the kitchen because it was like a fridge in there and hubby spends most his evening in the garden room next to it, even he has been feeling the cold I have caught him huddled under a blanket. Shame they don't make the Eglus bigger as the warmth from my Clarabel would be enough to keep me warm, hmmmmmmmmmmmmm wonder if I can make her a temporary house chicken/hot water bottle (I would have to pretend to be an egg though !) I am hoping the reports of a cold winter and snow etc in November are wrong !

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