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[Shirl]

Thanks for the hugs everyone but what I really need is a kick up the backside. I can't seem to pull myself together at the moment. I go from being absolutely fine to tears in 5 seconds flat.

[Egluntyne]

Thinking of you.

 

Sounds like you are suffering from a delayed reaction. You've coped and held it together fantastically, but eventually something has to give. Take care of yourself. xx

[Chook n Boo Mum]

....no, can't find a smiley for KUTB......you've been so strong, you need to take some time-out for youwhere you don't have to think about anyone else...easy for me to say, I know........I sometimes find that if I'm in a state, either walking for miles with just my dogs for company or digging a huge hole (preferably with something nice or useful to put in it at the end, not just digging !), something physical helps if I need "sorting out".

 

Daft as it may sound, I also find writing my thoughts & feelings down is very therapeutic especially if I'm tearful, I've never been one to write a diary, but how about writing to Tom...obviously he won't be able to read it now, but it may help you in the short term.

 

In the meantime another {diddy hug} is winging it's way to you

 

Sha x

[Helly Welly]

You don't need a kick up the backside, you need to let it out. You've been being strong for weeks and it's catching up with you. So cry, let it out, don't keep bottling it up. And some sort of physical activity to take it ut on is a good idea, especially walking as it gives you thinking time too.

 

So no hugs today, but a great big hanky instead.

[Lewis]

Still thinking of you, even though the others say they aren't as good, have a young 'un hug

[theherd123]

Lewis im sure Shirl will appreciate all hugs - young, old, middling, tiny, huge,

 

Keep going Shirl we are all thinking of you xxx

[Lewis]

Lewis im sure Shirl will appreciate all hugs - young, old, middling, tiny, huge,

[Shirl]

Thanks all hugs welcome.

 

I haven't been to see Tom today because it isn't my turn but I got to see him yesterday. He isn't too well. He has an infection (did I tell you already? I'm losing my marbles!). They don't know if it is chest or urine but they are treating him with double antibiotics to combat either. His heart is also working overtime despite the fact he is on beta blockers. Poor Tom is having such a rough time. There are 2 other people on the stroke ward that have traumatic brain injury but both of them are beginning to recover and are able to eat small amounts now. One had his accident 8 days before Tom and the other a month after. Both were given similar prognosis to Tom. It breaks my heart because we all so desperately want Tom to beat the odds too. Sorry, I'm moaning again.

[Scramble]

Feel free to moan.

I hope things begin to look up soon

 

((Hugs))

x

[jlo]

You are not moaning. You are doing your best to cope with an horrendous situation.

 

Thinking of you.

[Ain't Nobody Here]

You're certainly not moaning. You've all been through so much it's heartbreaking to hear of the setbacks . I wouldn't set too much store by the recovery of other patients - people heal & recover at different rates I would imagine, so try not to worry yourself about that .

[Seagazer]

Shirl, you are not moaning and even if you were so what? Where else can you do it? We are all here to support you during this horrendous time you are having. You can say whatever you like. Have a middle aged {{{{hug}}} from me.

[Lesley]

As ANH says, people heal in their own time. He sounds as if he's fighting as hard as he can......just give him time.

 

More hugs - lavender watery ones

[theherd123]

Shirl you are not moaning, just sharing your thoughts and worries. You can do that anytime here

 

Tom will recover in his own time. It must be very hard to see those around him progressing a little quicker than he is but everyone is an individual and as mentioned previously Tom obviously likes the scenic route.

 

More hugs - big bear ones!

[Shirl]

A lovely Omletter pm'd me and asked i there was an update on Tom's condition so I thought I'd update everyone.

 

It's been 7 1/2 months since Tom's ruptured aneurysm. We have really been through the mill in that time. On October 27th Tom moved from hospital to a specialst neuro nursing home. There has been no improvement in Tom's condition. We still don't know how much awareness Tom has. He doesn't seem to respond to us at all. He still has a trache but we have been told there is no reason that in the future he might cope without it.

 

Tom has suferred terribly over the last 7 months. He has had numerous chest and urine infections. He has been constipated so badly that he has vomited faeces. He has had a blocked catheter so often they had to remove it. I am at the point that I am wishing my brother would die. I know that seems a horrible thing to write but he suffers so much and has no quality of life. I know he would not want to live like this and he is in pain every day.

 

I don't know if people heard about this case but I really understand how the mother felt. It also happens to be the place where Tom has been moved to. http://www.hertsandessexobserver.co.uk/hertsandessexobserver/DisplayArticle.asp?ID=475266

[Ain't Nobody Here]

I'm so sorry to hear things haven't improved for Tom . It must be so hard to watch him suffer like that .

 

I saw that story on the news just a few minutes ago.

[Charlottechicken]

Thank you for taking the trouble to let us know the latest news, Shirl.

 

I am so sorry to read this, it must be heartbreaking to watch your brother in such a terrible condition.

 

Wishing you and your brother peace and strength.

[Groovychook]

I'm so sorry to hear about Tom, Shirl.

 

I've thought about you many times over the past few months. It must be so awful for you and your family to see him go through all of this.

 

Just wanted to let you know that you are often in my thoughts.

Sending you love and hugs xx

[Happy chickens!]

I'm so sorry to hear that, Shirl, it must be so hard to cope with and see someone you love go through such an experience. I hope things improve for you all. x

[Lewis]

I'm sorry.

 

I was only thinking about this recently.

[Goosey Lucy]

I am so sorry. I can only imagine what you, Tom and the rest of your family are going through. I have also wondered how things were for you, thank you for taking the time to update this thread.

 

With love x

[bluekarin]

I just wanted to say how sorry I am for what Tom, and all of you are going through. I was also thinking about you a few days ago, wondering what had happened. It sounds absolutely horrendous, and must be really hard to see a way forward.

 

Sending you all my thoughts (((hugs)))

[Chickvic]

Sorry to hear that, sending you some (((hugs)))

[Lesley]

I'm so sorry to hear that things haven't improved.

[theherd123]

Im so sorry that the last year has been such a bad one for you all.

 

I do hope that 2010 will bring new hope.

 

Thinking of you and lots of prayers x