Lapinou Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 Got back from holiday late last night and came out this morning to loads of clucking from the chickens whenever we came out of the house - obviously keen to be let out to free range. We had a few things to do first, though, so decided to close the kitchen door and stay out of the garden so the chickens' didn't make a noise and didn't disturb the neighbours. Worked a treat However...I don't know why I was worried! They were only clucking - our next door neighbour has been letting her toddler have a tantrum OUTSIDE for the last hour without trying to calm him down I have no problem with nice, happy, children noise and am well aware that children will kick off easily, but I really don't think it's kind to a toddler for a start to not try to calm him, and kind to your neighbours to subject them to such a horrid noise At least if she's prepared to make us all hear her poor toddler screaming his head off, she can't complain about a few chickens clucking every now and then! Chooks are free-ranging now, btw, and very happy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 our new next door neighbours are lovely they have 2 little people, aged about 2 and 5 (ish) they are very quiet, just the normal little person noise. but the other day, they had visitors. with children, they were noisy and as it got later, the children got noisier and higher pitched, so by 11pm ( ) the children were screeching and not very happy surely, its only fair to put the child to bed when it was tired and not when mum decided that she had drank enough sorry, rant over. I know exactly what you mean... cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ajm200 Posted July 26, 2008 Share Posted July 26, 2008 Maybe your neighbour was struggling to cope with her toddler having a particularly bad day and had to put some space between her and her little one. I'm lucky that my little one is very placid and doesn't act up very often but I've seen other children at playgroups who can keep a full blown tantrum going for hours and the more their parents/carers try to comfort them the worse it gets. Ignoring them might have a better effect if they work out that their behaviour doesn't get them what them want and it's no fun to get hot and bothered for nothing It may seem unkind but I'd rather see a mother walk away and watch from a distance than see red and lose her cool. Sorry you had to put up with the noise for so long Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lapinou Posted July 26, 2008 Author Share Posted July 26, 2008 It may seem unkind but I'd rather see a mother walk away and watch from a distance than see red and lose her cool. Oh me too! But this particular mother has no qualms about being very horrid to her children at very high volume at other times too. Believe me, I'm the last person to jump to conclusions about mum shouting at their children when you have no idea how their day has gone, but these children get yelled at *a lot*. Mine get yelled at a fair amount, but I have been known to pick them up and take them indoors to tell them off so as not to offend our neighbours' ears! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbaraJ Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 yes i'd say calming them is the last thing i'd do because they would have got zero attention here BUT i would not have left them in the garden doing it , put them in their bedroom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jomaxsmith Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 My neighbours have to put up with the noise of me having a tantrum when the children are mis-behaving Jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Hmm. I was in the garden today, next-door neighbours' little boy (two and a half) was having a tantrum of epic proportions. He was in the house, but with all the windows open I could hear it all too clearly! Must say, he seems to have an awful lot of these, yes I know it's his age and all that, but I think they are the sort of parents who never say 'no' ... anyway, he got over it. Did I mind? not really, I don't have children but I like having families around me and I guess the odd tantrum is part and parcel of the other times when he's playing happily outside. THEN I heard shouts - and it must be at least three houses away - which I can't repeat on here because it's a family forum. The phrases used indicated that it was someone speaking to a child, but the language was so foul I couldn't believe it. Now that DOES upset me - how can anyone use those sort of words in front of a child, let alone directed to them? I think I'd rather hear the tantrums any day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 We get our fair share of tantrums. He had one 2 years ago on holiday and the people in the next cabin knocked to complain about the noise. Throughout the trip he hadn't been noisy but he'd had a tantrum this particular morning and we were struggling to calm him down. It wasn't early - it was about 8am. They complained that it was a bit much "after last night". The previous night we had picked him up from the nursery as per usual and brought him back down to the room, more than half asleep in his buggy. I'd then gone back out for a wander around the boat (read a quick hand in the casino!) After I'd gone he had (very unusually for him) woken up and become upset that I wasn't there he had cried for a while apparantly, Mum had no way of getting me back to the room so there had been little she could do - you guys know what it's like sometimes when they are overtired the cannot be pacified. This had gone on for about 20 mins at just after 10pm, not particularly late! Actually reading this now the morning tantrum was probably because he hadn't really had enough sleep. Now Mum gets twitchy when we are all in the hot tub and making a bit of noise as John nextdoor has his rooflights open (he lives in a converted swimming pool). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 My neighbours 2 doors up have 2 girls which are 2 and 4, and we see them quite a lot. Whenever they are in the garden they get up on the climbing frame and start shouting for me, even if I'm not in the garden. So I have to go out and wave to keep them quiet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I have a 10 year old, 8 year old, 5 year old and 18 week old, so i have my own fair share of tantrums here - mostly mine.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
