Karen & co. Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Clare, there is not much I can add to this but to let you know you are in everyones thoughts. Do remember that you need to look after yourself too, it's easy to forget to eat properly when you are so worried about someone, but it's important to take care of yourself, so that you have the strength to carry on caring. Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soufflé Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Clare, I just want to add my love to everyone else's. We are all thinking about you and your mum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Clare, I'm late joining this thread, and everyone has given such wonderful advice that there's very little to add, except that you and your Mum, as well as the rest of the family are in my thoughts. I do hope that you all find the strength and support from each other, as well as all your friends on the forum to guide you through the tough times. The treatment is arduous and demanding, there's no point pretending otherwise, but these days it's incredibly effective, and a huge number of people pull through. About parking, 'tis a little known fact that many hospitals rarely clamp or do anything more than leave unpleasant little notes if you fail to pay, certainly the 2 I know well don't, and I have been known to park all day for study days etc, and have never recieved more than a note. They are too afraid of negative publicity.... the I took my desperately sick child to A&E and they clamped my car headline story. It's probably wiser though to negotiate with them about reduced parking fees for regular visitors, or start exploring the local side streets Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
motherhen Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I've just caught up with your post Clare - my heart goes out to you. My mum had cancer and I just want to pass on something that made an enormous difference to her quality of life - Macmillan nurses. She had Jenny as her community Macmillan nurse and Jenny was there for all of us and brilliant at supporting us all, but especially mum. She also sorted out some practical things for the home. In the hospital there was another Macmillan nurse who again was great at sorting out the little things that make such a difference. I don't know what the situation is with Macmillan nurses where you are, but I really recommend enquiring about them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I'll second that - my neighbour's wife had cancer and was in and out of hospital; the MacMillan nurses were what kept her and the family going. Our office regularly raises funds for MacMillan nurses as there is a centre near us. My neighbour said: 'Angels on earth, that's what they are'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheilaz Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 About parking, 'tis a little known fact that many hospitals rarely clamp or do anything more than leave unpleasant little notes if you fail to pay, certainly the 2 I know well don't, and I have been known to park all day for study days etc, and have never recieved more than a note. Kate, not everywhere! Sometimes the car park is run separately & it's def not worth risking clamp/fine (they have to charge to avoid commuters/shoppers).... It's probably wiser though to negotiate with them about reduced parking fees for regular visitors,... but, asking inside the hospital, there probably is a scheme for regular patients, def. worth enquiring. quote] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Clare I am so sorry for being so late on this thread. I just wanted to add my thoughts, love and prayers are with you, your mum and your family. You know that this forum is full of your friends who are always there for you. Take care Mel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hellcat Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Clare, My heart goes out to you. My mum has been fighting Ovarian cancer for 3 years and the fight goes on. When I first found out I felt just like you. All the advice on the forum is sound. get in touch with Macmillan nurses. They are also there for you, not just the victim. Be strong and cheerful around your mum, especially during the darkest day (of which there will be some) and don't let her know how much you are hurting. TALK to your partner, friends, doctor, counsellor etc. Feel free to pm me and we can have a cyber sob together. I never cry about it in public. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
