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[Guest]

James' stutter has suddenly got really bad again. I'm not entirely sure why but it may have something to do with his teacher having been off for 2 weeks (doing her B placement!) and his class being covered by the schools (regular) supply teacher. I know he struggles very much dealing with change and over this period we have also seen more "soiling" than usual.

 

Being at home with him is driving us to distraction - he is off at Kids Club at the moment and Mum thought I'd booked him in for too many sessions but she said this morning it was a relief to get time off from him.

 

The stammer is terrible at the moment and if he thinks you are not concentrating on listening to him he gets VERY frustrated. Therefore whenever he talks he wants you to stop what you are doing and give him your full attention. As he is stuttering over practically every word just a short sentence can take some time.

 

He is seeing the "fluency" specialist at the moment and we are doing "special time" for 5 mins a day where one of us plays the game of his choice and we ask him closed questions only to back up what we are doing. When we were videoed playing with him by the therapist she told us we are doing all of the right things but since the last session it has got worse, I'm wondering if he doesn't believe his teacher will be back after the holidays.

 

Has anyone got any tips on how they have coped with a similar problem? Its him wanting the attention throughout his sentences that causes the problem, literally he wants you to stop whatever you are doing and look at him. Very difficult when you are driving etc! This doesn't happen with his friends, carers etc just with us - he will have a happy day at kids club without expecting anyone to stop to listen to him. When I left this morning they were playing british bulldog on the bowling green (its an all weather bowling green that is NEVER used by anyone actually bowling!!)

[Egluntyne]

Poor little lamb.

 

It must be very frustrating for him.

 

I hope you can find the advice you need.

[Paola]

Poor little lamb.

 

It must be very frustrating for him.

 

I hope you can find the advice you need.

 

Ditto. Sorry but I have no advice.

[jackiepoppies]

Hi Pengy,

 

This might be a totally useless suggestion, but have you tried singing some of his favourite songs with him?

 

Sometimes this helps with stutters and the child doesn't feel so frustrated because he can actually get the words out. If it works, it could be invaluable when you're driving.

 

Also how about a calendar where he can mark off days until his teacher returns.

 

My thoughts are with you.

 

Jackiex

[cammy73]

Hi Pengy,

 

My nephew who is 6 stutters and his is on and off. He too gets worse when he thinks he's being ignored. Saying that, and I know you know this its just giving him the time to get out what he wants and not do it for him!!

 

He is happy but if something does change then the same thing happens, he'll stutter!

 

We also play the games with him and he has improved very much...

 

Good luck!!

 

Sharon x

[Guest]

He doesn't stutter when he sings and we do sing a lot.

 

He's used to a life surounded by music and will happily sing along with no problems.

 

I keep telling him Mrs C will be back after the holidays and he says he knows but I'm sure inside that's what the worry is.

[Looney]

It must be incredibly frustrating for him (and you) Poor little man. Hope you find some useful advice.

[cammy73]

Oh bless him....hope he settles down

 

Sharon x

[rusky123]

So sorry for your son, he must be so frustrated knowing what he wants to say and not being able to say what he wants to when he wants to. I had a neighbour in his 40's who stuttered, he was a delightful man. The first few weeks I moved into the house I am ashamed to say I found myself finishing his sentences :oops: . My neighbour was also very shy, but once he got to know people and thought of them as friends and relaxed, no stutter. He also used to play the piano and organ beautifully. We never noticed his stutter after a few weeks of meeting him. Perhaps music is the way forward.

[Couperwife]

my brother occassionally stutters, and has done for years. (I also teach children with really bad stutters)

 

it gets a lot worse if he is worried or tired.

 

the worse thing we can do for him is finish his sentences or tell him to hurry up.

 

what I normally do is just wait for him to get his mouth round what he wants to say, and then answer him as if it hasnt happened.

 

a "routine" that a child at school does if he cant get the words out is:

Stop speaking, take a deep breath, work out in his head exactly what he wants to say, then start again.

he normally gets the words out after his.

 

this child is also a fantastic magician (Paul Daniels style) so the "acting" part realy helps his confidence (he NEVER stutters when he is performing )

 

dont know if this will help, but at least you know that we understand

 

(((hugs)))

 

cathy

x

[moochoo]

I friend of mine has a son who really stuttered and also had a problem with bed wetting. She took him to see a hypnotherapist on her gp's advice. The therapist gave him some 'tools' to use when he felt nervous or worried.

He has not had a problem since, in fact he seems much more focussed and confident.

[Guest]

Now that is interesting MooChoo - he doesn't bed wet but he does soil when he's in a state. He's done it again today.

 

The last few days he has also had something against me - he gets lots of attention but is constantly trying to hurt me physically (grabbing my legs which he knows are very bruised) or just be naughty constantly when he is with me. I really can't do anything with him. I picked him up today from kids club and he didnt' have his coat, the girls said he must have had it on when they went swimming and left it in the changing room so I asked him to go and get it. He refused, shouted, stomped and hit me when I said I couldn't get it - it was in the MENS changing room!!! Eventually Mum came over and he just went straight to get it as soon as she spoke to him and offered to walk him to the changing rooms, I had already made this offer before he turned nasty.

 

Somethign is clearly going on in his head but I have no idea what.

[Looney]

Sorry to hear that Pengy. Just a thought, does he know you've been out on a date? Maybe the thought of you wanting to spend time with someone else...... it just sprung into my head when I read your post - I've heard of similar reactions by children in similar situations.

 

x

[Guest]

No he didn't know about the date - I only told Mum yesterday and I told James I was going out to meet someone from work.

 

I don't go out often but normally he is OK although last night he was fretful about it.