Janepie33 Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 DD split up with her boyfriend just before Christmas and he took it very badly. They had been going out for about 6 months, including the first couple of months DD was at Uni. Ex boyfriend has recently been sending very abusive and threatening e mails and nasty postings on Facebook to DD and her housemates. She has forwarded some to me and I was rather alarmed, so I sent him a brief e mail saying that I thought he was a nice guy, but it had to stop or I would tell his mum and the police. Haven't heard anything back and hope there won't be any repercussions for DD (sent email for her approval before I sent it). If things get worse I will be tempted to call his mum - who I have only met once very briefly. Has anyone else dealt with this sort of thing? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadietoo Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 First up to say I don't have any similar experience but I think you are handling this very sensitively, and hopefully the BF will realise that he is overstepping the mark and rein in his emotions...I might be tempted to have an off the record chat with the BF's Mum as well (although I do have to say that a friend of mine has had to deal with a similar situation and found the Mum quite hostile but that isn't always the case). As a beacon of hope my DD and her BF split up very acrimoniously, but are now able to chat by e-mail and facebook... so there is light at the end of the tunnel... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Goodness - he is acting like a spurned 14 year old! I think you have done the right thing,& I am sure he will now back off a bit. I haven't had this experience with my girls yet (my eldest has been with her boyfriend for 2.5 years,& they are still under 18),but I have had similar when friendships break down between girls. Letting the offended (& offensive) party know that there is an adult on the case will do no harm whatsoever. I would also be tempted to speak persuade your daughter to speak to a tutor or whoever is her mentor at Uni,just so they have the full story too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 I think you acted very wisely - hopefully this will scare him off. Sadly not all problems with children can be solved so well as I know to my cost - good luck and hope thats the end of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
