charly1979 Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 I suppose Facebook is a bit like marmite you love it or hate it !!! I love it and heres one example why: Just under a year ago a lady put up a status about having her washing on the line and was she being brave etc etc my good neighbour commented that it was the High Park law that if there was a glimpse of sunshine washing had to be on the line, as it was a public status I added my jokey comment that this particular neighbour was to be known as the ''High Park' authorities (prior to this my neighbour had commented on the lack of bunting during the jubilee weekend that we both didn't have, I quickly draped some on the house to please her because it was the High Park law ) Anyway through the status about the washing me and the other lady created a friendship and added each other as friends on facebook. This neighbour was out of action with a bad back so I delivered her some home made welsh cakes and so on etc. Over the year we have now got a very close friendship baking for each other and most importantly supporting each other when we are love and congratulating when something amazing happens. I have just been through a few weeks of hell and she has been my rock likewise when I lost my uncle in April. If it wasn't for Facebook I wouldn't have this, also I now have the reputation for being the Pavaola Fairy heaven help me when the High Park authorities Husband sees me delivering some up the road meaning a quick dash to their house to keep him happy . I know that some people have had bad experiences of Facebook and you need to be very careful, I just make sure I keep my personal details personal, security settings up high (even with the countless changes please note always check who the audience of your status is just noticed my last few have been public whoops) and anything I put of say on Facebook is what I don't mind anyone knowing about me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 What a super story, & I totally agree with you - Facebook is what you make it. Keep your privacy high & there is no need for anyone to worry about security. I love it too, & find it a really great way to keep in touch with friends, acquaintances,companies whose products I enjoy & work colleagues. I have been watching 2 young friends of mine travel the world for the past 6 months ,I have seen photos of my newborn baby cousin in Australia who I will never meet & I have hopefully offered support to a couple of friends who are struggling with life at the moment (as they did both for me,when I had a bad time last year) But it's Facebook - haters gonna hate! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted July 26, 2013 Share Posted July 26, 2013 Lovely story. I agree, keep your security high and don't give away too much and things will be fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kissinuk Posted August 4, 2013 Share Posted August 4, 2013 With regards to security, there's an excellent blog post by Scott Hanselman who works for Microsoft. Did you know for example that by default apps that other people install have access to some of your data (dob etc)? Yes, so if your friend installs something annoying like FarmVille it can see your personal data (even if you never go near those apps/games). Luckily you can disable those settings, follow Scott's advice here to switch off (and no this isn't a scam like the usual security posts you see on FB, this is real!) http://www.hanselman.com/blog/FacebooksPrivacySettingsAreTooComplexForANYONEToUseChangeTheseSettingsToday.aspx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charly1979 Posted August 4, 2013 Author Share Posted August 4, 2013 Thanks That's a great article just read through it and it appears I have already followed all the steps YAY The one thing annoying me with FB it keeps occasionally putting my status to public yet I have got it in settings that all statuses are to be friends only, I don't ever really put anything controversial up but as I am job hunting I don't want any future employers seeing my posts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kissinuk Posted August 4, 2013 Share Posted August 4, 2013 Are you using the FB app? If so I'd try just using the website (even from a phone). Do you have any other apps that can post on you behalf (Instagram etc)? They can sometimes change the default to public. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted August 4, 2013 Share Posted August 4, 2013 Thanks so much for that link - explained it very clearly. Most of my settings were as I would want them to be, but I have tweaked a few. I've also listed some of my friends as 'acquaintances' so that sometimes I can post things that they won't see. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavenders_Blue Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 That's a really useful post, thanks. A lot of my settings were as per the post, but I changed all my app settings and am now off to downgrade some (lots!) of my friends to acquaintances - thanks Olly! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 I love Facebook, especially for keeping in touch with family and friends whom I don't see very often. A couple of years ago when I was fairly new to it, I accepted as 'friends' two work colleagues, and I really regret that now - I would 'unfriend' them, if it wouldn't be noticed and commented on. They are people that I'm genuinely friendly with, and I don't do anything controversial (or at least I don't post about it on Facebook! ) but I really like to keep my home and work life very separate, and I don't want them commenting on what I did at the weekend unless I've told them about it myself. Making them 'acquaintances' will, I hope, cut down a bit on the amount of things they see. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kissinuk Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 There's also a handy 'restricted' list for people who you don't want to defriend, but who you don't want to be able to look through your photos etc. They will only be able to see your public posts, comes in very handy at times... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavenders_Blue Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Yes, I found that when I found the 'acquaintances' list. Some people have gone on the 'restricted' list too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chortle Chook Posted August 6, 2013 Share Posted August 6, 2013 I'm not a Facebook hater but I found it just did not work for me. I tried to answer my friends' posts as I found there were a lot of rather sad little posts out there that never got acknowledged (other than by that rather vapid like button) but as the number of my friends increased (and I was always way under the average), that just took too long. I also kept my settings high which ended up meaning that I did not really meet anyone new on Facebook and the only time I did (by asking a friend of a friend to be 'my friend'), when I did actually meet the person in the flesh, I clearly did not measure up to expectation as I was totally blanked which I found rather hurtful I keep meaning to go back when I retire but think it won't be there then Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
