Chickendoodle Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 My ED (she is 25) has spent the last 5 days sitting in her 87 year old Grandads hospital room with her Dad and Auntie waiting for him to pass away. They were told on Monday that his condition had worsened and that he was going on to palliative care and that he would die in 24 hours or so. She drove straight there and has has been with him ever since only leaving to sleep and eat. She said she felt like she was acting as the United Nations as her Dad and Auntie have a few issues (largely to do with her Dad having left me and 2 babies for a woman who has not made herself popular with his family over the last 20 years - that is another story!) so she made sure that they were never alone together. They were in a side room and were able to have Classic FM on all the time and just talk and reminisce while he went into a deeper and deeper sleep.He was a musician and they said he was aware of the beautiful music around him. He finally passed away very peacefully yesterday evening. He was an absolutely lovely man, possibly the nicest man I have ever met and he was a wonderful grandad - helped by the fact that he looked like a cross between Santa Claus and Captain Birdseye! He lost his wife of 60 years 2 years ago and my ED and I were actually with her holding her hands when she died. Again, she was on palliative care and it just happened that it was just us there at the time she died. It is so sad as it is the end of an era -he was the last grandparent -but he was so lonely without his wife as they were completely devoted to each other. I think that you can have all the money there is (they had very little) but if you can leave this world surrounded by people who love you then you are very rich indeed. So proud of my girl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 That brought tears to my eyes . What a sad but lovely story. She sounds like a fantastic young woman and I'm not surprised you're proud of her . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reikiranf Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 What a lovely girl your ED is, I hope that she's coping ok. You'll just have to keep telling yourselves that he's back with his wife, which is where he wanted to be. I know how hard it is as I lost both of my parents within 7 weeks last year, thinking of you all and sending you ((((HUGS)))) Amanda xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 Well done to your ED, it can be very hard to watch someone pass away. It sounds like he was a lovely granddad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chucky Mama Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 You are quite right to feel proud, what a lovely girl. Children don't grow up like this my accident though, your input as a mother will have shaped her and so some of the credit has to go to you Sorry for your loss, it sounds like he was surrounded by love at the end and who could wish for more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickendoodle Posted March 18, 2011 Author Share Posted March 18, 2011 ED has worked in Social Services for the last 5 years and is now halfway through her degree to become a Social Worker. She is going to specialise in elderly mental health and I think she will help a lot of people. And this from a girl who was such a worry as a teenager - very bright but dropped out of school/college with barely a qualification and was quite wild for a time. Take heart all of you with troublesome teens Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 Sending best wishes. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jools Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 Me too, hugs to you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
