Guest Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 getting into such a state must be draining for him and upsetting him. I got myself into a proper tizzy recently over being ill and having to have hospital tests. I am very highly strung and possibly a little obssesive, although not to the extent of cleaning the loo seat every time, I do like the house to be clean. I was more obsessed about this when I was ill as I didn't want the doctor to come out to a dirty house! Anyway, I was prescribed some diazepam to calm me down and it does work. I've stopped taking it now all my tests are outof the way but I have it on hand should I have another freaky episode. Would he maybe have a chat with his GP to see if diazepam might help him at all? he definitely needs to do something or he's going to work himself up into a state where he might make himself ill. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 Jay, I am so pleased you posted. I was really concerned that you'd had a little moan and - whoosh - the whole country was telling you how to manage your marriage! Things can escalate so quickly here and I was worried you might wish you'd never said anything. Have a good day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xScrunchee Posted November 28, 2007 Author Share Posted November 28, 2007 Jay, I am so pleased you posted. I was really concerned that you'd had a little moan and - whoosh - the whole country was telling you how to manage your marriage! Things can escalate so quickly here and I was worried you might wish you'd never said anything. Have a good day I do understand that people worry and offer support and advice. I think that I may have worded it wrong to give an impression that I was crying out for help and was suffering terribly. God knows he's a moaner and he does makes some days tricky but certainly not my whole life-or the lives of my children. I am not the type to be a 'victim', I am quite level headed and know how much is too much. I do not deny that he has problems most of which I believe stem from his childhood but I am not terrified of him in any way, shape or form. I do think that he could be a complete bully if allowed but trust me-he could not bully me! I do love him (Sounds like a Jeremey Kyle line there ) and I am here to help him learn the joy of life and love, how to chill out, how to enjoy being a Dad etc and YES sometimes I feel like attacking him with a blunt object but it is not all bad. He will never change-I know that and I know that you cannot change people but I hope to help him mellow into something a little less loud and excitable!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 He's lucky to have you Jay. (I hope he knows that at least!) He needs love, care and understanding. I wish you both well! You didn't opt for an easy life, did you . . .?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beauty-Box Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 He is lucky to have you Jay. I hope you can find happiness with him, but don't carry on if it all gets too much. Thanks for your advice too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 28, 2007 Share Posted November 28, 2007 He's lucky to have you Jay. (I hope he knows that at least!) He needs love, care and understanding. Forgot to say: SO DO YOU! I wish you both well! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xScrunchee Posted November 28, 2007 Author Share Posted November 28, 2007 I would just like to say a HUGE thanks to everyone who read and replied to this post and I hope that you can all forgive my moan!! I try not to moan to often but every now and then something happens and you just fancy a good old rant to get it all out of your system. I really appreciate you all being there for me with either my chickens or my fella. I vow to shut up whining from now on. (Well at least till after christmas anyway!! ) Have a nice evening all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
