Tiggy Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 I wont go into the details but my mum was separated from her parents & sibblings when she was a child & brought up by and aunt(who apparently was a bit strange - explains a lot) and has always been very bitter about it. She has always wondered what happened to her brother and a year ago I posted on the Genes Reunited web site & forgot about it. Yesterday I got a reply. moms brother & his daughter, I'm meeting them next week Mom is a little more reluctant I suppose she is a little taken aback Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 Never been in this situation, but I hope it all turns out well for you and Mum comes round. Sha x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 Wow . I hope it all works out for you and your mum. It sounds like your mum might need a bit of time to get used to the idea. Try not to expect too much, in case you're disappointed. These things can be tricky. (I've had the experience of meeting my "birth" family and it was a success but I know it doesn't always work out.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 Ditto to what ANH says. It worked out beautifully for me.....but it is a leap into the unknown. Useful advice that was given to me was to meet on neutral territory, and don't give too many personal details at first in case it turns out not to be what you are hoping for. All the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiggy Posted September 12, 2008 Author Share Posted September 12, 2008 thanks for the advice, we are meeting in a local pub to have a chat & a meal, my sister is coming with me, my new aunty sounds very sensible and has said that Mom & her brother need to sort things out between them, they both have each others contact numbers and we are going to leave them to it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 I hope all goes well for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paola Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 How exciting. Hope that it goes well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenlass Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 I do hope that you can all build a relationship and look forward to the future as a "new" family. Will keep everything crossed for youall. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisa33 Posted September 12, 2008 Share Posted September 12, 2008 Hope all goes well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiggy Posted September 18, 2008 Author Share Posted September 18, 2008 I met my cousing last night we seemed to get on really well, her sibblings and mine sound very similar that is difficult her Dad & My Mom sound very alike again very difficult, it was so nice to know that her experiances were so similar to mine, she is one of 4 and the only one to have become independant of state benefits & build a career, just like me. She is also very much an outsider in her family, just as I am. We don't look alike at all but I think we will be friends, we are planning to meet again in my Dads local. Oh and her children all have red hair - I wondered where mine came from Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 That's good it went well and you got on . How has your mum reacted to the meeting? Is she showing any signs of wanting to meet them too? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Posted September 18, 2008 Share Posted September 18, 2008 I am glad things are going well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiggy Posted September 19, 2008 Author Share Posted September 19, 2008 apparently there have been a few phone calls between them & they both have allotments, so her brother is going to meedt her on her plot & take her to lunch - oh I do hope she behaves according to his daughter her Dad is very shy around new people my Mom is exactly the opposite still fingers crossed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
