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[Hen Watch]

Laura,

 

Chin up - in all your posts I've read on this forum you come across as a very sensible, mature, thoughtful young lady. Keep that in mind at all times and rant to us when you want.

 

Sometimes when we grow up it is hard to start to realise that adults make mistakes and have their faults too. I am not excusing your parents at all, they should be listening to you. Can you write them a letter and explain how you feel. Sometimes face to face gets out of hand, but they can mull over a letter.

 

It is unfortunate but girls do mature much earlier than boys. Your brother may never change whilst he is at home. But he will be in for a shock when he does. It may not be now, it may be when he's 30, but he will get his comeuppance.

 

I am 39 but I still remember with shame when I was at home I NEVER washed up, cooked, cleaned or ironed. Mum did it all and at the time I never thought I was doing anything wrong. I moved in with my financee at 21. He was the same, never cooked or anything. Both of us had a steep learning curve. We took it in turns to cook. After a few weeks we realised my cooked stuff was burnt and his edible. So for 18 years now he has done ALL the cooking. I am just the re-heater in this house. So if your brother gets saddled with a wife like me, then he's going to learn fast.

 

Don't make any hasty decisions about leaving home. Think of yourself first. When you do finish your education and get a job, staying at home and paying a small rent means you will be able to save shed loads of money (after all that is what your brother is doing) and build up a nestegg for driving lessons, deposit on a house etc. Be shelfish and think of yourself only. Ignore your brother. Don't let him force you to make a decision that will cost you in the long run.

 

Big hugs......

[..lay a little egg for me]

Well what does he need it for??? If it is not for something essential whereas your need is, then he should give it up to you anyway regardless of what had been discussed before. Your coursework comes before him playing/facebooking or whatever. However, if he needs it for something v important, then that is different.

[milli]

Sounds like you need suppernanny in there

 

Have you tried discussing or writing out a set of house rules and a rota? Maybe if you could write down what you think would be fair and then get everyone to agree then you would have something on paper to show when things are going a bit pear shaped.

 

It definitely seems like you need some time apart. Do try not to react negatively though, I know it's hard, but if you can stay positive and polite then you will always know that you tried and there cannot be any reason for come back.

[Plum]

Your poor dad (cant believe I said that). I remember my son ringing me at work to tell me his brother had hit him. What could I do from there except worry. I expected bloodshed when I got home.

 

Yeh get supernanny. Wish she was around when my kids were young.