ClaireG Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Help! I'm not sure what to do for the best. The situation is that Dad always has a yearly wine tasting that DH and I work at for him. This is Dad's most important event of the year. I normally work all day and evening as there is also a lot of preperation that has to be done on the day and DH comes direct to the venue later, when he has dropped Adam at his parents. Adam has been invited to a childrens christmas party at the castle who own our house. We knew about the party but not when it was untill today and Adam has been really excited about it. The problem is it's on the same day. The party doesn't finish till 6, which is the time Dad's tasting starts. It takes us appox 1.5 hrs to drive to the inlaws to drop Adam and then another half hour to drive to the venue where Dad's tasting is so by the time DH had driven there the event would be nearly over. Who do i upset? Do i tell Adam he can't go this year but there will be other parties or do i tell my Dad that DH can't work for him this year? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Instinct says let your little one go to the party and explain the situation to your dad. Is there a friend who could talk your OH's place? This is a toughie, only you know how your dad will react if your OH doesn't help this year. I would hope he would understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhapsody Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Oh dear. I dont know how old Adam is but my suggestion would be to ask the parent of a child who is also going to the party (if you know any) if you could drop him at their house and they take him along with their child and pick him up afterwards, then you get him from their house when you are done. I've done this before when school stuff always clashed for my sons, the mums in question were always happy to help and got a Return The Favour Token from me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Oh dear. I dont know how old Adam is but my suggestion would be to ask the parent of a child who is also going to the party (if you know any) if you could drop him at their house and they take him along with their child and pick him up afterwards, then you get him from their house when you are done. I've done this before when school stuff always clashed for my sons, the mums in question were always happy to help and got a Return The Favour Token from me. I'd agree with that too. Hard call to make though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 I hate children's parties - they always clash with something! Is there another family going that Adam can spend the day with and go to the party with? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 Oh dear. I dont know how old Adam is but my suggestion would be to ask the parent of a child who is also going to the party (if you know any) if you could drop him at their house and they take him along with their child and pick him up afterwards, then you get him from their house when you are done. I've done this before when school stuff always clashed for my sons, the mums in question were always happy to help and got a Return The Favour Token from me. I would do this but we don't really know anyone well enough and it would be gone 10 before we could pick him up, i feel this is too late to be picking him up. He would be staying at the inlaws overnight. Also all the helpers, reps etc go back to my parents for a meal etc afterwards as a thank you and DH and I would either be staying there or joining Adam at the inlaws. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 I hate children's parties - they always clash with something! Is there another family going that Adam can spend the day with and go to the party with? It's a friday so DH would pick Adam up from school and come over afterwards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Just a thought, but could the inlaws collect him from the party? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 Just a thought, but could the inlaws collect him from the party? That would be another ideal Clare but MIL will be at work and FIL doesn't drive anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chick wiggle Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Is there anyone who could take your DHs place at your Dads 'do'. It does sound like the only option, would your Dad be very upset? Not much help really, sorry, just feel for you as these things always happen at the worst times, shame we cant split ourselves in two sometimes. I hope you manage to sort something out. good luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 I think the only thing i can do really is to speak to Adam later and see how upset he would be if he couldn't go to the party. If he is very upset then i'll have to bite the bullet and phone Dad and explain that either DH can't help at all this year or that he will be very late and only able to help with cashing and clearing up. All the people who could replace DH are already helping! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A chickychickychick-ENN!! Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Would a hired babysitter with a driving licence be an option if you can't get out of your dad's thing? Will there be an invite to the castle next year? Would one soul down at your dad's make a huge difference? I hope you find a solution that works for everyone without too much upset. Gah! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
