Janepie33 Posted December 4, 2010 Share Posted December 4, 2010 I am doing Christmas at home this year with my parents, sister, brother and his new wife coming too. It's my brother's turn to have his children (aged 18 and 15) for Christmas, but due to a massive row about money, my brother and niece have not seen each other or spoken for nearly 4 months, both thinking that the other is in the wrong. Although, sadly, I am not close to my niece and nephew, I would like to welcome them into our home for Christmas for my brother's sake. I was thinking of contacting my ex sister in law, but she made it very clear several years ago that she dislikes our family intensely and want's nothing to do with us. At 18 my niece can make up her own mind, but her brother probably won't want to come without her, my children are a bit older - 18 and 20. Anyone been in a similar situation? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve the Gas Posted December 4, 2010 Share Posted December 4, 2010 Not that I can remember, my take would be, let 'em sort it out - see who turns up. Not likely to come if they wanna argue, but some people.................. No skin off my nose type of attitude..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chucky Mama Posted December 4, 2010 Share Posted December 4, 2010 I would lay down some ground rules and say that all are welcome but any disputes or arguments need sorting out beforehand and that your home is an argument/feud free zone. Providing some sort of entertainment or games and restricting the alcohol on the day might help Good luck. After having to ensure so many family rows when I was a child I refuse to spend Christmas with anyone who is up for a barney. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted December 5, 2010 Share Posted December 5, 2010 Do your children have contact with their cousins? I wonder if you could go down that route. Mine are in contact with theirs through facebook etc and mobiles. Perhaps have a word with your children to see if they can persuade the niece that it would be lovely for you as a family to all be together at Christmas. Families eh? Who'd have them? I hope you get it sorted out, these situations can be so tricky (I come from a divorced family and now have a Dad who won't come to family gatherings etc) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janepie33 Posted December 5, 2010 Author Share Posted December 5, 2010 Yes, I have asked DD to contact her cousin via Facebook - they are only 3 weeks apart in age, but sooooooooo different. I think they quite like each other though. Rather like Steve the gas's reply! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
