beach chick Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 on facebook, there is a private group for old girls from my old school, which I joined today thanks to old schoolfriend who was down last night. it is absolutely HYSTERICAL, given that I left school over 30 years ago, to catch up with people's memories etc and am really enjoying it (dont necessarily want to see them all again, but you know...) the funniest thing of all is that a boy who we used to hang out with 32 years ago has now ended up as a judge on MasterChef Australia, where he has become famous for being a rather camp englishman, and his web page even has a feature on it called "cravat-a=licious" which has photos of him wearing all his different cravats, each of which has a name. we are laughing our heads off!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reikiranf Posted August 2, 2011 Share Posted August 2, 2011 I met up with a lot of old school friends through friends reunited, it was great getting together it was like we'd never been apart and we had such a laugh talking about old times, if they have a reunion go along, we all got on really well at ours, even with people that we didn't particularly like at school Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squiffs Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I find it strange - even at my young age - looking at girls I left high school with 6 years ago who now have several kids in tow (some I definitely didn't see coming - my old best friend who is still studying at kent uni is now married with a baby) and some of the skinny bullies have become obese single mums. 6 years is a longer time than I ever realised. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 On facebook I have friends who I know what is going on in their lives without facebook. I also have friends who I used to know and like well at school / work etc and for one reason or another we have not kept in touch. Whilst these are people that I wouldn't meet up with or ring on a regular basis, it is nice to see what they are up to. Some people really surprise me with what they are doing now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyhunnypie Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Me & my sister sometimes talk about our school days & teachers ( we went the same schools). I would never go a reunion as I don't like all the I am, I have. It's bad enough seeing it all on facebook & god, how people change! I am in a minority too, as I don't have or even want any children. Ex class mates just wouldn't get that.. a lot of people don't! I don't think I'd want to meet up with anyone who would challenge me over my decision or anyone who tells me that their little one has just filled their nappy. I choose my friends carefully these days - the whackier & more interesting the better! I like people that have hobbies or a sense of adventure & good stories to tell about their lives, aside their children. Does that make sense? Emma.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I choose my friends carefully these days - the whackier & more interesting the better! I like people that have hobbies or a sense of adventure & good stories to tell about their lives, aside their children. Does that make sense? Emma.x Perfect sense to another non-child wanter!! Both my sisters have young children (between 18 months and and they are mostly great (in limited doses!) but I have never and still don't want my own. I had years of people grining daftly and saying 'you'll change your mind when your biological clock starts ticking' Here I am, fast approaching 35 and I think my clock must be broken Animals yes, children no! Fortunately hubbie feels the same as me although admittedly he was not as anti children as me to start with. The more I read threads like these the more I am glad I don't have kids of my own. You may teach your own children to be well mannered and well behaved, but what do you do if their best friend is really bad and they keep coming to your house causing havoc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squiffs Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 (edited) You may teach your own children to be well mannered and well behaved, but what do you do if their best friend is really bad and they keep coming to your house causing havoc I don't think in that situation people are powerless - you can just put a ban on friends coming over. That's what my parents used to do if any friends that came over were naughty. Edited August 3, 2011 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redwing Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 My best friend is a friend I had in school and I am in touch with a few other schoolfriends When I left school we had an American style yearbook made up with articles, quotes and pics and in the front of everyone's copy is a post-it note saying we all need to meet up in 20 years from our leaving date on a certain Paddington platform at a certain time Thats only four years away now, I really hope people turn up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I don't think in that situation people are powerless - you can just put a ban on friends coming over. That's what my parents used to do if any friends that came over were naughty. No, you can always put your foot down and say that a particular child is not coming round anymore, I do wonder how that would affect your child in that scenario though, to always be invited to a particular child's house yet never have them round to their own house or their parties etc. My young nephew's best friend is a nightmare, I know my sister feels the same way but he is still invited to my nephew's parties as my sister does not want to upset what is a very strong friendship between the two of them. He is not a 'bad' child as such that is going to lead my nephew off the rails, he simply has absolutely no manners or discipline. Is it worth risking your child's friendship simply because you don't want to have to deal with the child's lack of manners, I wonder? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 When I left school we had an American style yearbook made up with articles, quotes and pics and in the front of everyone's copy is a post-it note saying we all need to meet up in 20 years from our leaving date on a certain Paddington platform at a certain time How exciting! Will you go? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 I would love to go to a school reunion now, although I am several stone heavier than I was back then I am so much more confident and I woule love to know how people's lives turned out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squiffs Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 No, you can always put your foot down and say that a particular child is not coming round anymore, I do wonder how that would affect your child in that scenario though, to always be invited to a particular child's house yet never have them round to their own house or their parties etc. My young nephew's best friend is a nightmare, I know my sister feels the same way but he is still invited to my nephew's parties as my sister does not want to upset what is a very strong friendship between the two of them. He is not a 'bad' child as such that is going to lead my nephew off the rails, he simply has absolutely no manners or discipline. Is it worth risking your child's friendship simply because you don't want to have to deal with the child's lack of manners, I wonder? My parents used to say to me - You can't have Sarah round because she's too naughty when she's here. I agreed that she was naughty. I even told her 'Sarah you can't come for tea because you're always naughty' - I think she told her mum, which made her mum very embarrassed, and a while later, after I'd been to a birthday party that Sarah had also been invited to, my parents saw her behaviour had improved and said I was allowed to invite her to my birthday party. I think children who have manners and behave well do understand that other children are badly behaved and that it isn't right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 My parents used to say to me - You can't have Sarah round because she's too naughty when she's here. I agreed that she was naughty. I even told her 'Sarah you can't come for tea because you're always naughty' - I think she told her mum, which made her mum very embarrassed, and a while later, after I'd been to a birthday party that Sarah had also been invited to, my parents saw her behaviour had improved and said I was allowed to invite her to my birthday party. I think children who have manners and behave well do understand that other children are badly behaved and that it isn't right. Everyone's different, most kids will grow out of naughty behaviour, some never will. When I was younger I was also banned from having a certain best friend round or going to hers. At first my parents said we were too busy, after a while I asked why we could not go to each others houses anymore and was told it was because of how badly behaved she was. She was eventually expelled from school, ended up with a drink and hard drugs problem before eventually turning her life round. I look back now and wonder what my parents saw in her to make them so adamant that we weren't spending time together outside school but at the time I really resented them for it. I have two other childhood friends, we weren't 'naughty' as such more like cheeky children who encouraged each other's cheekiness when the three of us got together. In fact we were probably in our 20's when we finally grew out of it. Had our parents tried to discourage our friendship, they would have been waiting an awfully long time for our behaviour to improve when we were together and I would have missed out on the two friendships that to this day I still value the most. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squiffs Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 There's a marked difference between being naughty and being 'cheeky' though, I think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Depends on how far the cheekiness goes, I think Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squiffs Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Depends on how far the cheekiness goes, I think Of course, I was very cheeky in school - I went to an all girl's school and we used to wind any male teachers up something rotten, but there's always a line that once crossed means you're in trouble. I never crossed it, but I walked it plenty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Of course, I was very cheeky in school - I went to an all girl's school and we used to wind any male teachers up something rotten, but there's always a line that once crossed means you're in trouble. I never crossed it, but I walked it plenty. Yes, I was the same, the newly qualified male teachers, we must have terrified them My policy was always to have a friend who was more naughty / cheeky than me, it never failed me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
squiffs Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 Of course, I was very cheeky in school - I went to an all girl's school and we used to wind any male teachers up something rotten, but there's always a line that once crossed means you're in trouble. I never crossed it, but I walked it plenty. Yes, I was the same, the newly qualified male teachers, we must have terrified them My policy was always to have a friend who was more naughty / cheeky than me, it never failed me The best one was the science teacher who didn't bother learning myself or my friend lucy's names - or got us confused - we'd just palm it off on the other Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majuka Posted August 3, 2011 Share Posted August 3, 2011 The best one was the science teacher who didn't bother learning myself or my friend lucy's names - or got us confused - we'd just palm it off on the other Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
