Nicola H Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Kate I feel the same way, you explain it so much better than I could.............I also come from a family who don't hug or kiss I can't remember my mum ever getting very close to me when I lived at home. I am determined that my children won't feel the same way as I did when I was growing up, all I ever wanted was a hug or kiss to reassure me. I hug and kiss my children all the time but feel very awkward about hugging anybody else even close friends and if somebody attempts to kiss me on the cheek I don't know what to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 I will always return a hug but am not very good at being the hugger! My boys are very tactile and love being hugged and cuddled but my family aren't huggers so it's always been a bit strange for me. I don't mind a hello hug or a goodbye hug at all but find it very hard to be the one who does it first! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted November 17, 2005 Share Posted November 17, 2005 Kate and i are still at the shaking hands stage when we meet up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 18, 2005 Share Posted November 18, 2005 I hug - I guess that it's the mediterranean blood. Certainly the Italian side of my family are v tactile. luckily Phil is the same, Rosie is just a cuddle bunny ans says that she'll still want her hugs when she's grown up - thing is she's nearly the same size as me now! I hugged Lesley when I first met her, as I felt that I knew her well enough (through the forum), also, her forum persona isn't as shy as her real one. I think that happens on the phone too - the body language issue is cut out of the picture and things seem really different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted November 18, 2005 Share Posted November 18, 2005 Kate and i are still at the shaking hands stage when we meet up We're not even that intimate ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Blue Sky Posted November 27, 2005 Share Posted November 27, 2005 Ha ha I was just looking back at this thread and really enjoyed the hug/no hug debate! I quite like a hug myself but you can usually tell when it isn't going to be welcome... I often get wrong the social kissy kissy thing - you know when someone homes in for a MWAH! and you present the wrong side of your face and end up in a lip lock no-one wanted? That is something I can just never get right. Although I have been better at it more recently, but I've embarrassed myself and others on countless occasions. So much so that I think people feel I do it on purpose I hope I don't come across as a closet lady snogger (not that ther's anything wrong with that and I do have a particular favourite girlfriend who I am happy to snog at any time), but is there a rule about which side of the face gets the mwah?? If there is please tell me! and don't be afraid to meet me! Kiss kiss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicola H Posted November 27, 2005 Share Posted November 27, 2005 I am laughing at your posting mrs BS I have done the same thing my self turning your cheek then ending up getting a smacker on the lips then feeling embarrassed............It happened at a party last week and it was somebody elses husband I didn't know which way to run, good job he was very drunk and I was sober.......Even more embarrassing when it happens with another female............ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheilaz Posted November 27, 2005 Share Posted November 27, 2005 Know just what you mean, Mrs.BS & Nicola. I grew up as "no hugs" and am probably still quite reserved. But, more uninhibited now & also tend to live on my emotions, so may burst into spontaneous hugs unexpectedly. (You've been warned.) I now kiss my parents & siblings (I must have started it)...one cheek only. I absolutely hate the 3 kisses on greeting thing, but find that I just do it through expectation now. But goodness knows which side to start...I recognise exactly that experience described above I'm very close on occasion to saying when someone heads towards this practice, to push them away & say "I'm not French you know" I've honestly nearly done this, but some little social warning alarm went off in my brain. Sometimes it feels OK & just friendly, but I hate the false awkward ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted November 27, 2005 Share Posted November 27, 2005 Nicola - next weekend - NO HUGS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popcorn Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 Kate and I had a successful hug on Saturday...infact we had two! We drew the line at snogging though You just sort of know instinctively when a hug is right. Mind you, saying that, most people I know from the West Mids are big huggers and whether you know them or not you're normally in for a good old back pat! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 Yes, we definitely didn't snog ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicola H Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 Phew thanks Lesley no snogging either....................... You can have a peck from a chook though...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 Fine by me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted November 29, 2005 Author Share Posted November 29, 2005 I now kiss my parents & siblings (I must have started it)...one cheek only. We are talking face cheeks here I hope!! Like Gina said the midlanders like a hug and a kiss actually and you have to have a cuppa too, otherwise you are odd. See Sheila you are fine, if you like tea then hugs come naturally! BBx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted November 29, 2005 Author Share Posted November 29, 2005 I am laughing at your posting mrs BS I have done the same thing my self turning your cheek then ending up getting a smacker on the lips then feeling embarrassed............It happened at a party last week and it was somebody elses husband I didn't know which way to run, good job he was very drunk and I was sober.......Even more embarrassing when it happens with another female............ Hate it when someone holds your face and kisses your lips...YUK!!! It's really offensive, sorry but I might make the exception for Johnny Depp and Mikey can do it of course!! Also wet kisses. Like kisses and hugs just don't slobber on me!! BBx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 KWYM Buffie - when Rosie was a baby her kisses were all slobber and snot - YUK! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 I'm a Midlander but don't like kisses from strangers - and I don't drink tea - do you think I need therapy? Don't answer that one! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicola H Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted November 29, 2005 Author Share Posted November 29, 2005 I'm a Midlander but don't like kisses from strangers - and I don't drink tea - do you think I need therapy? Don't answer that one! Oh a classic case of snogaphobia with repellent tea disorder - Nasty and not an area I cover!! fluffy my heart goes out to you!! BBx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheilaz Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 Mmmm, you're right, Buffie, probably no cure for Fluffie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted November 29, 2005 Author Share Posted November 29, 2005 Ah yes the next stage, uncontrollable laughter! Oh my god have I caught it! BBx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 javascript:emoticon(':lol:')javascript:emoticon(':o') Gina thats funny I'm from the west midlands and yes we do seem to be very much into hugsjavascript:emoticon(':wink:') Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted November 29, 2005 Author Share Posted November 29, 2005 Oh you've gone all odd fluffy chick, javascript: emoticon weird (lesley you are now fluffie to save confusion) bbx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 don't know how that happened I'll try again.javascript:emoticon('8)') no still happening Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
