tara Posted September 2, 2010 Share Posted September 2, 2010 One of our girls died yesterday my partner took her to the vet to be cremated as l dont want to put any animals in the garden.Today she asked why did dad take her to the vet she's 8 nearly 9 and l did'nt want to mislead her so l told her they turn her into ashes bye burning her body but that they do it very respectfuly it was one of those moments how hard was that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 2, 2010 Share Posted September 2, 2010 I think it is best that way when you tell the child the truth about a pet. I know when I look back and my dogs were put to sleep I was upset but I love the fact mum and dad told me what was actually happening and not lying. She will look back and be thankful Im sorry for your lose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bramble Posted September 2, 2010 Share Posted September 2, 2010 Oh bless, I really feel for you. My Dad died last year and my youngest nephew (who was then aged 6) asks often about "where is grandpa buried", none of us can bring ourselves to explain cremation to him - it sounds so brutal to me, I can't imagine how it would sound to a (now) 7 year old. How did your daughter take the news? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarkBevBen Posted September 2, 2010 Share Posted September 2, 2010 Aww I'm so sorry to hear about your sad loss and I think you did the best thing with your daughter. Children, I find, are very resiliant even at a young age (I'm a paediatric nurse). Big hugs to you all xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roobaloo Posted September 2, 2010 Share Posted September 2, 2010 Sorry to hear about your chook When I was a little girl and my cat died, my parents told me that he died peacefully, in his sleep as he sunbathed at the top of the garden, between the fruit trees. I held on to this for years, so happy my beloved pet was blessed with a beautiful and peaceful end. It was only last year, twenty years on, that I discovered that this image couldn't have been further from the truth. By trying to protect me from pain, they ultimately made it worse...thinking about my beautiful cat now fills me with such sadness and regret, as fresh as if it happened the day I discovered the truth. It's difficult but you did the right thing telling her the truth. It's better she's aware about it now then shocked when she discovers the truth later down the line. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tara Posted September 2, 2010 Author Share Posted September 2, 2010 She covered her ears near the end of what l was saying but she did ask and l dont want to lie certain things l wont discuss with her but this seemed sort of ok as she's older then her years in certain things.Her little friend was asking her mum all about donors and her nan giving away her eyes and she was told everything l would not want that conversation but at least they hear it from us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
