scarlettohara Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 My divorce petition goes out at the end of this month. The financial statement that goes with it needs so much information The only consolation is that it will cause him more trouble and shock than me I suppose My ex has lied and tried to manipulate me so much but I have remained polite (guided by my solicitor) but now the gloves are off. Be glad when it is all over - I shall have a party to celebrate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 lots of love and hugs (I think you deserve it) cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omletina Kyckling Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Sending you lots of hugs of support....my journey started a year ago next week when the fateful letter came from "his" solicitor informing me that he wanted a divorce .....be strong and determined and you'll get through it.....I didn't believe it when people told me that, but I got through, better and stronger for it. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quickcluck Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 I remember when I did mine, I had to put loads of stuff in, and was constantly reminded to put on the form out goings such as toiletries, cosmetics, clothes, all the things that you buy without thinking, car maintaince, petrol, plus all the big stuff like your utility bills. It's very stressful, but don't sell yourself short now as it's hard to go back later...... Good luck! K Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted January 15, 2011 Author Share Posted January 15, 2011 Thanks for all the support I put everything down but did baulk on putting in money for flowers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Good luck, will be thinking of you. I've been doing my own divorce and filling everything out by hand in triplicate has been a right royal pain! Hopefully I've not got much longer to go, race you to the nisi! BeckyBoo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omletina Kyckling Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 My ex husband's financial statement was laughable, he put down he spent £100 on eating out and socialising (we never went anywhere), £150 a month on food (he only ever bought 20p yellow label food from Asda and if they didn't have it, he didn't eat!), £100 for presents (I certainly never got any), £100 for holidays (didn't have one in 17 years, unless you count 3 days in a roof tent in Scotland), £150 for clothes/toiletries etc.(the man was dressed solely by George at Asda sale rail) and £500 a month on car maintenance (he serviced all of our cars himself).....reading his statement provided me with one of the few laughs last year....!! Anyway, more hugs coming your way, I got so much support from people on here last year, it really pulled me through so if you need to blast you know where we all are! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Good luck Scarlet - you have been so brave - I would be a wreck - you know we should have a London meet - I was looking in get togethers - nowt for London and Hertfordshire. Good luck dont work too hard tonight and remember we are behind you Love Ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaireG Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Thinking of you and sending ((hugs)) xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted January 15, 2011 Author Share Posted January 15, 2011 Don't worry I've done the wreck thing I got my girls to give me a focus after he left and they worked - perhaps a bit too much as now have 19 You must all come to the party - it can be an omlet get together. We can have tents as long as you don't mind the neighbours seeing you in your pjs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted January 15, 2011 Author Share Posted January 15, 2011 My ex husband's financial statement was laughable, he put down he spent £100 on eating out and socialising (we never went anywhere), £150 a month on food (he only ever bought 20p yellow label food from Asda and if they didn't have it, he didn't eat!), £100 for presents (I certainly never got any), £100 for holidays (didn't have one in 17 years, unless you count 3 days in a roof tent in Scotland), £150 for clothes/toiletries etc.(the man was dressed solely by George at Asda sale rail) and £500 a month on car maintenance (he serviced all of our cars himself).....reading his statement provided me with one of the few laughs last year....!!Anyway, more hugs coming your way, I got so much support from people on here last year, it really pulled me through so if you need to blast you know where we all are! It amazes me what they think they can get away with My ex recently put my half of some savings in a 'special needs' account. Summed himself up perfectly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PapaJuliet Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 ...you don't mind the neighbours seeing you in your pjs Don't mind the neighbours seeing them in my whats? PJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 Now theres a treat for them - I dont do PJ's - no I'm not au naturel too cold (and tubby) prefer nighties buts thats another thread. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiggy Posted January 17, 2011 Share Posted January 17, 2011 fingers crossed for you, I remember it all too well, my ex did his utmost to get away with as much as he could, eventually the tax man caught him there is some natural justice in this world Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
