The Dogmother Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 I always hastily arrange a previous engagement at times like this. Same here - whilst I don't mind social gatherings at all, I really don't do girly things either. I have to ask a question. You're obviously now in this lady's bad books, but how much do you actually care? I can understand your not wanting to make it difficult to maintain contact with your brother, but how far backwards do you wish to bend? I'm not advocating any particular course of action, but I do think it's worth getting straight in your mind how important all this is to you. If it were me, I'd be greatly concerned to make sure I'd acted honourably, fairly and politely, but if I was satisfied with that then I'd let the rest just wash over me. Several of my friends, however, are far too family oriented to risk a falling out, so would go out of their way to make amends even though the friction wasn't of their own making. More or less what I was thinking; as I've got older I have become more picky about who I spend my time with; sounds a bit ruthless but my spare time is very limited and whilst I'd happily put myself out for a good friend, I certainly wouldn't go out of my way for anyone who acted like that. I am reminded on a daily basis, by similar events, that my decision not to be on facebook is a good one. I wouldn't worry about it Sarah; it doesn't sound like she's someone whose opinion you need to worry about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted February 16, 2013 Author Share Posted February 16, 2013 Exactly. She is not someone I intend losing any sleep over,as she can't see past her own needs or take into consideration the thoughts of others. I am sure I have acted as well as I possibly could have......as I said before,she has the problem,not me. I still love Facebook,but it does being out playground behavior in some. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted February 16, 2013 Share Posted February 16, 2013 She couldn't be bothered to invite you in person, got a friend to do it and now she's offended? You're well out of it, in my opinion! passing of wind (it seems) has to be celebrated with a party. Do let us know when you get an invite to this . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charly1979 Posted February 17, 2013 Share Posted February 17, 2013 Hope it all gets resolved one way or the other but I cant see that you have done anything wrong and to be deleted from FB seems extreme ......... oh the joys of having in laws hey speaking of which mine are visiting now so I suppose I ought to leave the Nesting Box and be social no really I am going honestly I am Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted February 18, 2013 Author Share Posted February 18, 2013 I have sent her a brief message via Facebook,explaining my reasons for not coming,but to be honest I don't think she will understand With SAD & other similar conditions there is always the 'pull yourself together & just get on with it' point of view & I do feel that she will be of this camp....still,I have said my bit,so I am happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted February 18, 2013 Share Posted February 18, 2013 I'd draw a line under it and move on Sarah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted February 18, 2013 Author Share Posted February 18, 2013 Have done,now that the message is sent. I have not apologised as such,but explained why I could not go. I am lumped with her now - she is part of this family like it or not,so the sooner she realises that I am not a social butterfly like her,the better. I think it is important that she knows this & now she does Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WitchHazel Posted February 18, 2013 Share Posted February 18, 2013 Hopefully she will understand...although I doubt it. In the positive side, she'll either not invite you in future, or will expect you to decline... so future misunderstandings will be avoided. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted February 18, 2013 Share Posted February 18, 2013 a win-win situation then! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted February 18, 2013 Share Posted February 18, 2013 a win-win situation then! Agreed and definitely not worth worrying about any more Sarah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
