Guest Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 Thanks again for all the support! Chookiehubbie has chilled out a bit today - we got a bit tiddly last night, which helped us both sleep a bit better, so things seem a bit better today. He has told people at his work about what is happening, and has received lots of advice and support from people who have 'been there', but I just can't bring myself to tell anyone. I know I should really tell my work, in case I need any time off, but I just can't bring myself to. Maybe it would be like admiting it to myself - at least telling you here on the forum was easy - no tears to cope with, no uncomfortable silences as people try to think of something to say. Also, at work, my manager is off sick (who said stock control wasn't a dodgy career choice?!), and I sat tonight trying to work out what other manager I could talk to, and I've got to say, I'm not sure I would feel comfortable telling any of the other managers. I may just leave it until I hear from the hospital, and in the meantime, keep my head down at work, and try to get on with things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chunkin Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I'd do exactly the same Shona - wait and get some more concrete information before talking about it at work. I think that's because I'd feel more comfortable once I knew what I wanted/needed rather than having to have a more general conversation that would make me feel awkward. Especially if it's someone you don't know well. Maybe that's the control freak/stubborn and secretive side of me coming out though so not sure it's good advice! Hopefully it will turn out to be nothing anyway, as most of these things do. In my experience with my son, if doctors do find anything they think is sinister they can make appointments and investigations happen quickly. Very best wishes to both of you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I was just thinking, pregnancy causes all sorts of changes for work colleagues and company's and women generally leave it for 3 months to tell others. Sitting tight Shona may well help you feel in control and then 'if' you need to speak to work you can do it with all the facts. I think it's more important to share it with someone who can support you during this period and I hope that the forum is going to be of help also. it's good to just have the freedom to get those 'things' said. It's got to be your choice at the end of the day and what's best for you. BBx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Wise words about waiting you lot Take care Shona XXXOOOXXX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 Got my appointment letter from the hospital today - have to wait till the 16th before they can see me. Not sure I can wait that long, given that the only way I can sleep is by drinking huge amounts of wine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sheilaz Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Oh that must seem ages away when it's on your mind all the time. I can understand the wine to get to sleep...I wish we just had an off switch on our brains when we're worried about something. What about a difficult sudoko, I always fall asleep trying to work it out, and it stops other thoughts coming into your mind. Or, I could post lots of jokes and anecdotes for you on the forum...you'll soon drop off. Or reach for the wine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 We're waiting with you. Aconite is good for stress, homoeopathic remedy. I like to be in control, after going out of control, when I am worried. Perhaps face some things that you have been putting off, research, information. Is there a forum that could help you be in touch with others in a similar situation? BBx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 (edited) That must feel like an eternity Shona but there is some good advice from BB and Sheila to help. The forum sounds like a good idea. We're all thinking of you. Edited November 30, 2005 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Hi Shona I seem to have missed this post completely and I am sorry. Just to add my thoughts and cyber hugs to all those who have gone before me. Take care and chin up my girl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Shona, I know the waiting is really dreadful and you must be so anxious at having to wait so long, but bizarrely it is good news. Priority appointments have to be given to those with suspected cancer- those people must be seen within 2 weeks, and that is an NHS directive in amongst all the millions of other targets, directives and guidance that we keep getting landed with. Which means that when your GP referred you he/ she did not mark your referral as suspected cancer- your GP must suspect a benign lump. All breast lumps are seen as fast as possible, but priotitising the potentially scary ones does mean that less worrying ones (& that's less worrying to the docs, not the individual with the lump I'm afraid ) are put a bit further back in the queue. Hang on in there, keep busy, I know you can't stop worrying about it, it must be nagging away at the back of your mind constantly, but try as far as possible to keep it to the back of your mind. There's lots of good advice on the other postings here, and we';re all thinking of you with crossed fingers and toes (& beaks & wings ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Fingers, legs and everything crossed here for you Shona. Try taking some Kava kava before bedtime, that helps calm your mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Sending big hugs to get you through the wait, Shona. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 OK, so here I am panicking at the thought of impending bad news, assuring myself that if the worst came to the worst, I'd have left the world a better place, by leaving behind 3 beautiful children that would go out into the world and do good things, when I realised that I had been ignoring the fact that I was a wee bit late..... The doctors kept asking me at my initial appointment if there was any chance that I could be pregnant, and I kept saying no, only I've just discovered that I am....... My GP is now almost certain that the lump is an infected duct (bleugh), and that antibiotics of some kind should clear it up. Now I'm just left with the job of working out where on earth I'm going to squeeze another person into the house!! I may be moving the kids into the eglu! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 How Wonderful What a great outcome. You've had every emotion possible haven't you. How are you both feeling? This is a very fertile forum , the pugs been done so no surprises here BBx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 What a wonderful relief Shona! I know what you mean about squeezing in another person, but it's worth it. 4 children is fantastic and quite easy really although life is even fuller than you can possibly imagine. Evenings? What evenings! How old is your eldest? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 What fantastic news Shona - brought teensy tears of relief and joy to my eyes. I LOVE babies. Do keep us all informed and take care of yourself - have to take a couple of bricks to that chookiehubbie of yours! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 My eldest has just turned 8, my youngest is just about to turn 3 - not sure she's going to be impressed with a new addition! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 You could always post it down to me - I'd have loved another! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 Hi Shona! My eldest was 9 when I had my youngest. It has been hard sometimes being a family with such an age range. The older ones weren't impressed with playgrounds very much! But I have always taught them it's a matter of give and take. Sometimes we do things where the younger ones have to behave and there isn't much for them and at other times the older ones have to put up with activities which are too young for them. I try to teach them to make the most of any situation Now life is a lot easier. My children are 16, 13, 10 and 7. Although I don't usually leave all 4 at home on their own, I can leave 3. This means the youngest one doesn't have to spend so long in the car going to and from other activities and I am less stressed. Also I can leave the older ones to finish preparing the meal while I'm out ferrying! I hope you'll have plenty of help and support around you so that you can enjoy this baby just as you did the others. Good Luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Louise Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 Oh Shona that is good news and what a relief Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 What fantastic news Congratulations Shona! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 Shona I'm so pleased for you !! Congratulations and thank goodness everything's OK!! BIG HUGS!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahJo Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 .... Congrats on the babe, and a hug of releif, for the non-scary result re. the boob . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berkshire hens Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 CONGRATULATIONS! I have read through this whole thread and it's amazing how the emotions can go up and down. I'm sure 4 children will fit into the house - you might just have to let them 'free-range' a bit more and 'clean out their droppings tray' more often! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicola H Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 CONGRATULATIONS Shona what a huge relief for you and how exciting to have another baby on the way...........Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
