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[Janty]

My psycho ex has a brother and a sister.

[Janty]

Do you think it may have anything to do with the name Vera?

 

Apologies to any Veras on the forum ... just a theory!

[Couperman]

Do you think it may have anything to do with the name Vera?

 

Apologies to any Veras on the forum ... just a theory!

 

No, No Noooo, I am sure there are plenty of lovely Vera's out there.

 

Kev.

[Jules.]

I don't have a MIL any more- she died 8 years ago.

[Shirl]

My MIL and I got on really well before I had children with her son, now we barely see each other

[rusky123]

Wish I could stop this woman ruining our lives. My MIL always hated me, but not my husband. We have built up 2 very sucessful businesses these past few years, well the 1st one was 30 years in the making, worked very long hours, I had 3 jobs and 3 babies, did not mind any of it, but ever since we have had money his family are on the phone wanting something. Send my son to re-hab, pay into my pension etc. \pay into my pension?, you just bought 2 cars worth £125K. NO WAY.They can have what they want, I only need enough to keep me and MY family happy. They want blood.My husband is amazing, can see nothing wrong with anyone. He loves life and his family, thats why I love him so much. I want to kick him and scream at him at times. He is being walked on and lets it happen, "Shes not nice but shes my Mum." GGRRR She had her georgeous dog put down a few years ago because he was white and moulted on her black drive!!. Asked me to buy her a new drive, its HUGE!. Feel very guilty about dog. A 1/3rd of it will be yours when I go. I said I will pay a 1/3rd.

I would love my home to be as tidy as hers, no chance, we live in my house, we have fun as a big family. Got my 82 year old Mum in Granny flat at side, she is as deaf as a post, irritating, salt of the earth, tells really filthy jokes, and we all love her to death. She is such an Angel. Remo says he will be much more upset when my Mum goes. Adored Remos dad, , a womans Man, kept MIL in check. I have got another Daughter getting married next Friday, her hubbie to be looks like a Mauri rugby player, grabs me and gives a kiss whenever he sees me, so happy for her.

Couperman just read your posts LOL, my favorite duck was called Vera

[Janty]

Your family are so lucky to have you. You are a saint!

I would have put my foot down and snapped a long long time ago.

 

Keep your chin up and do what you feel is best.

Think about what makes you and your family happy.

 

Enjoy the wedding,

 

Jan

[Ain't Nobody Here]

I wonder who's going to be bitter, lonely and unhappy in their twilight years ?

Not you, I suspect .

[rusky123]

I am no saint Jan, just loyal to all my children, DH who does not deserve the "Ooops, word censored!" he is getting off his money grabbing family, and my Mum and her family. , have 45 first cousins, we are all best friends. Lost my twin brothers not long after they were born, devastated, but after seeing DH and his siblings perhaps I am the lucky one. Dont mean that, would have loved a brother or sister, just not meant to be.

[..lay a little egg for me]

Er, I know etiquette observance isn't what it was but doesn't the father (your husband, in this instance) still take daughter to the wedding venue? Your OH has to tell your MIL that she is not the bride this time and must not spoil his daughter's day. Grandma's "status" and "respect" doesn't come into it. It is grotesque of Grandma to try to usurp the bride's place. Or have I missed something.

 

I wondered about that too...

 

Remind her that your OH has to go with the bride and point out that surely someone else could take her or she could take a taxi. (Let her pay though!)

[keyhole kate]

Rusky123

 

Tell her where to go. it is your Daughters and your family's day you can put up with her controlling and manipulating ways or not the choice is yours and yours alone your OH and Children are old enough to make there own choices. What is the worst that could happen she doesn’t speak to you again lets hope your that lucky but I doubt it she is a manipulating attention seeker, make a stand and refuse to give in the her blackmail if she wants to cut her nose off to spite her face let her you only have to stand up to her once, she is a bully call her bluff I had a similar situation going on for years until I liberated myself (see below) and it has been the best thing I ever did she may even respect you for it in the long run

 

I get on great with my MIL unless the three witch of Macbeth SIL's are involved then she is completely intimidated by them and goes along whatever there latest nasty plan is. They have hated me from day 1 and didn’t think I was good enough for there only baby brother.

 

They have over the years deliberately not invited us to family events, christenings, weddings, birthdays (we found out afterwards) they have walked past me in the street, plus far more incidents than I could list. For 30 years I bit my tongue for my OH sake as he wanted to believe it was magnifying it in my imagination.

 

The last incident for me was the straw that broke the camels back it was the 1st Anniversary of when my FIL passed away, my OH visits his mum every Sunday eve without fail and still does, nothing re flowers newspaper memorial was mentioned leaving us to believe everyone was doing there own thing, when I bought our local paper on the Thursday there was a combined family memorial We had assumed that as the anniversary was on the Tuesday that it would be put in the Thursday local paper 2 days after and not before even aunts & uncles were mentioned but not our family.

 

We then felt that if we put in the paper on the Thursday it would look like an afterthought, if we didn’t put anything in the paper it would look like we didn't care or had forgotten, basically we were damned if we did and damned if we didn’t. On taking flowers to the cemetery again there were florist’s flowers from everyone even distant family and family in other parts of the country, again we had been deliberately excluded.

 

I was so upset but not for myself I haven't ever cared what they thought of me but I was devastated for my OH who pretended not to care he is the quietest, kindest soul and also for my children who adored there granddad. I just cannot believe his mother is so weak that she would just go along with there nasty spiteful point scoring games and especially as using such a day to do so.

 

I now absolutely refuse to have anything to do with them! My OH and children are free to make there own choices. I still grit my teeth and invite my MIL to events in my home for my OH & children’s sake but I have vowed I will never set foot in her home again.

 

Janty you are unfortunate to have my youngest nasty SIL in your home town and your welcome to her

[tweecy]

Oh dear, that lot sounds like the script for a soap opera.

One thing that is apparent is that this woman has 'got to you' big time. That means she is winning the spiteful game that she started, she is in your head even when she isn't in your presence.

It's very easy for an outsider to give advice etc., but from what I've read about her, I'd be inclined to have a 'straightener' with her. She is obviously a very sad, lonely, lady, and possibly does not realise how badly she is behaving, it could have started with little things that she got away with and has now escalated into vileness that she can't see. Sometimes the age of a person is no indication of their maturity. Is it possible to have a serious one-to-one conversation with her, and let her know how hurt you feel, ask her to help you out as you've obviously upset her deeply at some point but don't know what you did?

Yes it is nauseating, but at least you will have taken control of the situation, at the moment, she is controlling you.

btw Men never deal with this stuff, women have to do it, don't know why, but we always do.

Life is just too short for this sort of unhappiness.

Weddings are such a bore though..........I nearly never bothered going to my own

[Janty]

Now I disagree about weddings.

 

I could get married at least once a year.

 

And all with different colour schemes. When I went to try on some dresses for my last wedding (that sounds so bad!) I saw some amazing black and purple dresses. I'd like a purple theme next time (same hubby though).

 

[mrsallen08]

I hate my MIL.

 

Again very controlling and very intimidating. She only made 2 hours of our wedding before going home 'ill' even before toasts! Hurrah!

 

Out of 4 children me and hubby are only ones who haven't expressed a need to procreate and we are hated for it (well i am).

 

We live furthest away (for a reason) yet its always hubby who has to go round to fix/mend/repair everything. And with no pay or even a bacon roll!

 

When we first moved in together and hubby was on earlies MIL would phone him every morning at 3.30am to chek he was awake!?!

 

Oh and she used to cook meals for him to collect on way home so he could have a 'proper' meal! Yeah thanks!

 

There are too many things to mention but just take this saturday for instance. She came up to visit (for a whole 26 mins) and insisted on smoking underneath all my washing that was hanging out to dry! Not just one cigarette but 3 roll ups in 26 mins!

 

I keep telling hubby that she needs to watch out for any houses falling on her! She is the wicked witch from Oz!