bluekarin Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 We have a lodger though who is a slob, and he has a boyfriend who used to stay ALL the time, who was worse. Both of them were prone to dropping things and just leaving them there, bags and shoes everywhere, washing up never done, laundry always left in the machine, carpet in bedroom never hoovered (to the point where I had to treat it for flea infestation), it was just a nightmare. Boyfriend doesn't stay so much anymore (thank goodness) but lodger is still a pig. Thankfully, he has to move out so we can turn his room into a nursery. I'm assuming that babies don't make that much mess Before our kids were born we had various lodgers which were actually friends. One of which was such a messy so and so and left beer cans, pizza boxes mugs, plates, bowls etc etc where he had finished with them. After mentioning it to him several times, I got so mad, I stopped talking to him (for other reasons too, but won't go into that here) and started putting the stuff on his bed. It was much more effort on my part to do this, but it was rather satisfying to have the tidy(ish) living room and his bedroom be the tip My hubby has housework blinkers on most of the time. He doesn't see the washing that needs bringing downstairs, the bathroom that needs cleaning, the windows that need cleaning, floors that need sweeping or hoovering. He does do things, but mostly only when asked. Our brother in law however, is marvelous. He does the washing and hangs it up to dry! He does the dishwasher and puts everything away Properly! All we need to do is find the particular gene and bottle it. We'd be millionaires Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimmyCustard Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 The very same cousin has been at it again. Her OH swept their garage and left a pile of dust,leaves,bits of paper etc in the corner of said garage. He then had the audacity to leave it there without 'dustpanning' it into the bin. He went off to work the next day. On the way home, he went to the gym. Gets gym t-shirt out of gym bag. Out comes the t-shirt covered in the pile of garage dust he omitted to tidy into the bin. Not happy. They also have 11 (yes, you read correctly- eleven) cushions on their bed and if he so much as thinks of not putting them back on the bed in the correct order, then God forgive him. She also tells him off for lifting the duvet too high when he gets in bed, but thats another story................ Should we start a sweepstake for when the divorce is announced?! (Theyre happy really). Kimmy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 The very same cousin has been at it again. Her OH swept their garage and left a pile of dust,leaves,bits of paper etc in the corner of said garage. He then had the audacity to leave it there without 'dustpanning' it into the bin. He went off to work the next day. On the way home, he went to the gym. Gets gym t-shirt out of gym bag. Out comes the t-shirt covered in the pile of garage dust he omitted to tidy into the bin. Not happy. They also have 11 (yes, you read correctly- eleven) cushions on their bed and if he so much as thinks of not putting them back on the bed in the correct order, then God forgive him. She also tells him off for lifting the duvet too high when he gets in bed, but thats another story................ Should we start a sweepstake for when the divorce is announced?! (Theyre happy really). Kimmy x OMG!! Would love to be a fly on their wall. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimmyCustard Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 You wouldnt, bluekarin, cos she'd have you sucked up the Dyson in a jiffy. Kimmy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 You wouldnt, bluekarin, cos she'd have you sucked up the Dyson in a jiffy. Kimmy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 After recent events in our household I am wondering if your cousin will start courses for the rest of us. I admire her actions sooo much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janty Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 My other half is good but he is also one of those people who doesn't notice mess. His favourite line, like many others is, 'Just tell me what needs doing and I'll do it'. My argument is can he not see it? He does all the hoovering and polishing, I have to admit. I do all the DIY and car maintenance (I teach woodwork and he has accidents even with glue guns...he's not good, bless him!) We share the cooking and washing and dishwasher packing/unpacking and I do all the ironing. My main bug bare is that he leaves a trail of what I call Johntyc**p everywhere he goes in the house. He's like a little slug leaving a slime trail....a bag here, a coat there, a cup, a plate. You can trace his movements through the house. I have started to ask if he has left anything anywhere when packing the dishwasher and he will move them but he doesn't think. I like the kitchen table to look good. I used to live in a two up, two down that didn't have room for a table and I had to wheel one out from underneath the stairs every meal time. When we got the big dining table at this house it was a luxury to me and I went to town on the table linen. Hubby comes in from work (with me - we work together) and just dumps his stuff all over the table. He has his own study! Why wreck the table? The other thing is putting stuff away. Whether it's ironing, dishes or whatever, he seems to lack knowledge of where anything goes. Sorry dear if you read this but it's fairly accurate. You are lovely but messy and all over the place. Wouldn't swap you though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Webmuppet Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Don't get me started on stuff being left lying around. LMW comes home from school and dumps her stuff just inside the living room door. Leaves her coat on the floor, foot wear wherever she fancies leaving it. Occasionally her lunch bag makes it to the kitchen. At the moment she has a telescope, pair of sailing boots (clean ones) and a pile of junk ( I don't even want to go near that) in the living room. The OH isn't much better, comes in from sailing and leaves a trail of kit from front door to back door. It's not unusual to find a sail draped somewhere in the vacinity of the kitchen or bits of rope from the boat in the washing machine...................Best not tell the washing machine repair man that ( washing machine has expired yet again) As for housework, he does do the washing and cook a meal ( of sorts). The rest is down to me ( I'm not entirely sure he knows how to use a hoover). I can fix most things given that he bought me a tool kit for Christmas........I draw the line at electrical stuff though ( hence the washing machine repairman). My Dad taught me the basics of DIY so that I would never have to rely on a man...............I have had plenty of practice at repairing chicken houses! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 I think the problem is that generally speaking, men see things in the big picture without details, and women see the details. I like my house to be clean (it mostly is), it may not be massively tidy, but li like things put away so that I know where to find them. Rosie has inherited her dad's mess making abilities and we currently have a 'discussion' going because I leave clean, ironed laundry inher rom for putting away.. three weeks late it is sitting on the floor in a heap, horribly creased and she refuses to wear it... go figure....! I try not to nit-pick, but suggest that she would feel far more organised if she actually put things away so that she knew where they were. My house and I;m the only adult here, so all the other tasks fall to me, as well as working full time. A little bit of help to keep her corner of the house tidy would be appreciated. The ongoing building mess doesn't really help though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 Sounds just like my YD, her room is the smallest in the house and we have spent ages getting it furnished to maximise space and storage. She will tidy it which takes her ages because she finds something and gets distracted. Her clothes drive me mad even if I put the clean ironed clothes away she just rummages and jumbles everything up until it looks creased and horrible. My son is also a nightmare, I stripped his bed today and found 6 pairs of undies and 4 pairs of socks stuffed down the side of his bed, and he had filled the washing basket the other day with his dirty clothes, well the ones that were easy to find anyway I also hate the way that all the other family members decide that all the clothes on the floor need washing all at once. I have a rule that when they come in on a Friday evening they have to tidy their rooms and this involves a full wash basket which I have just spent all day emptying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
