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[Phonix]

Hey guys

Sorry for my long(ish) absence and lack of posting. I have been trying to pop on and keep up to date with the posts but to no avail as I was still swamped with red bits today lol

 

Its been so hectic lately and im feeling sooo down that I just want to curl up in bed and stay there - permenantly.

 

My best friends dad (who's like my second dad) was diagnosed with leiukemia in December so since then ive travelling from Liverpool to the Lakes almost every weekend and then to newcastle when he's been in hosp for chemo. Had exams after christmas but i just couldn't get my head down and revise - it just didn't work. To top it off I got the results - 2 were ok and 2 were awful - and I hadn't put in a mitigating circumstances form because my head was such a mess and I could barely remember all the normal stuff. So now the uni will just look as them results as me doing badly and not the situation into account when i get my final classification at the end of the year so its probably going to pull me down from a 2:1 to a 2:2 and law is soo competative that I really need that 2:1. Its made sooo much worse by the fact that I just can't do anything about it.

 

On top of that iv just applied to do my LPC and its costing almost £10,000 so im soo scared that if i don't get the 2:1 i won't get a job at the end of it and im going to have wasted all that money and all my dreams wll have just been flushed away....

 

In the middle of exams (i didnt have on this day) my housemate, getting ready for exam, managed to slice her hand open on the bathroom mirror, so I spent an hour before her exam patching her up so she could get through it and then had to go meet her afterwards so take her to the Drs because she was scared she might need stitches...She did need them cos when they took off all the bandages teh blood just ran down her arm - so they sent us round to the hosp (she's petrified of hospitals) and had to wait in A&E for a while, then see a nurse (who was quite rude) then to X ray and finally got it glued and little sticky things put over it! All while I tried to revise medical negligence lol!

 

Also, following my friends dads diagnosis, i decided that I should do what ive wanted to do for ages and donate blood and register as a stem cell/bone marrow donor. So i got myself prepared and went along, waited, filled in the forms, had the pin prick test and all was ok. So moved back to waiting for a spare bed to give blood. My turn - and NO veins in either arm. One nurse couln't see anything so she got another to have a look and she said she'd have a go. So i sat there while she poked around in my arm with a needle for what felt like forever only to say that she couldn't get it! BUT my arm was bleeding! argh!

Also, because I couldn't give blood I couldn't be registered as stem cell/bone marrow donor because they need a blood sample to be sent off and tested so you can be matched to potential recipients. It was sooimportant to me I ended up just breaking down and crying infront of the whole room. I felt well .

 

 

Sorry about the majorly long post i just needed to get all that out to people that would listen and not judge or just think I was being silly

 

xXx

[Seagazer]

Oh Stacey, you have had such a rough time lately no wonder you feel down. Why will the uni not take into account your circumstances? You would think they would be able to mark it down somewhere.

 

You sound like such a good friend, try not to worry about your friend's dad too much. Medicine has come such a long way now. I hope he is ok.

 

Can I ask what an LPC is?

 

My DD is in her 3rd year of her degree and living in France. She has her final year next year and I know there are lots of worries attached to it all without extra worry about illnesses. Please take care of yourself as well, you've obviously worked hard to get to where you are now.

 

Sending you a big (((hug))).

[Lesley]

What a dreadful time you've been having Stacey! - why does all the rubbish happen at the same time

 

nice to see you back - make yourself a nice hot drink, find a couple of biccies, and most importantly.....click the Mark All Topics Read button on the forum and then settle down to a good read of things you want to look at on here.

[Phonix]

LPC is Legal Practice Course to be a solicitor.

 

I think ill email my personal tutor and try to arrange a meeting with her and see if there is anything the uni will do. I just dont want to get to the end, having worked soo hard (the idea that students do nothing but go out - soo doesn't apply) i just don't want to get to the end and miss out on the 2:1 classification by a few marks and them not alter the classification because I was soo messed up at the time that i didn't put the note in!

 

I think im feeling particularly bad because I was ill last week (neice gave me a horrid bug) and just got over that and got cold lol and to top it off its lent and ive given up bread and fizzy drinks and im on a diet! Argh!!!

 

Thanks for the support guys

 

x

[Seagazer]

I think its definitely worth talking to your tutor. They do have things in place for exceptional circumstances.

 

You do sound as if your immune systems needs a boost at the moment. Plenty of fruit and veg and perhaps a tonic or vitamin.

 

Thats a lot of money for a course. My DD was going to do the legal degree but changed her mind. I'd hate to have to come up with that money I know the legal degrees are usually so oversubscribed.

 

Good luck, I hope you feel better soon.

[Egluntyne]

Chin up. Sorry to hear that you have had a rough time.

 

Definitely have a word with your tutor, you have nothing to lose.

[Ain't Nobody Here]

Poor you, Stacey . What a rotten time you've had . I agree, you should definately talk to your tutor. I'm sure you'd regret it later if you didn't at least try .

 

Good luck .

[dancing cloud]

Sounds like you're having a rough time at the moment, so lots of ((hugs)) from me and mine. As others have said, talk to your tutor - maybe you could resit the exams in those units?

 

Don't let it stop you pursuing your dream though. Once you're in a job and doing well, no one will care what class of degree you got way back when.

[Plum]

Good to see you around again.

You are so kind to keep supporting your friend and her dad at this terrible time for them, but it must be exhausting. Have you got anyone to support you because you absorb a lot of the stress and anxiety and need to let that out. Make sure you talk to someone (and us).

Don't despair about being a donor, it may have just been how you were on the day. Why not try again. If you have drinks beforehand and dress warmly then your veins are easier, that or the nurses were rubbish

And must be worth seeing that tutor. Go and give one of your virtual hens a hug - will make you feel better

[Phonix]

Thanks guys! Everyone on here's sooo nice and always manage to make me smile (or that may be the result of hugging a virtual hen!!!)

 

I think i'll email my tutor and try to set up a meeting with her later this week!

 

xXx

[Olly]

Definitely speak to your tutor - the fact that all this is going on must affect how you're doing, and it's a perfectly reasonable explanation for why you didn't actually say anything beforehand and ask for help. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's dad.

 

Don't worry about the 2:1/2:2 thing. Yes there will be some employers who won't look at anything under a 2:1, but there are plenty of others who will look at you as a whole person, your skills, attributes etc and not just the degree course. If you can get through the LPC then you'll find work somewhere I'm sure of it.

 

Hope you're feeling better.

[chelsea]

Crikey what a time you have been having, poor you.

 

Just sending a big hug and wishing you and your friend's dad all the best.

 

As Eglutine said - chin up hun and you will get through this I promise. xx

[MedusA]

Bless you! I just wanted to give you a huge hug when I read your post. You are going through the mill, aren't you? *HUGS*

 

Don't give up with the blood donor idea. I had an awful time to begin with, but then somehow it all started to work. In my case, the first time I tried, the blood wouldn't flow because I was so nervous (and cold), my veins had "shut down". The next time I went, it was in the summer and I had no problems.

 

I do hope you get the career you want. DD did her Psychology degree but couldn't get a related job for ages, so she paid to do a one year Masters degree, and now has a job as an Assistant Psychologist, which she loves. Follow your dream. It will be worth it in the long run, I'm sure.

[Phonix]

Thanks guys - your replies just about made me cry lol

 

Ive emailed my tutor trying to set up a meeting - just waiting for a reply!

 

Its soo lovely to know that your all out there to listen and that you actually care.

 

x