Single hen

[AJuff]

I am reeling from just a week as a single mum with three kids and a full time job. DH was called off to work unexpectedly and the first I knew about it was when he didn't show to pick up the kids from school. Fortunately I work at their school so they were brought to me. I checked my texts and found out he is in Gambia until Sunday evening.

 

My magic freezer has stopped refilling itself, my oven appears broken, the laundry is multiplying, my vaccum cleaner has not worked it's magic and my sheets are not freshly changes. DH it seems does such a lot when I'm at work.

 

I have had to call in all sorts of favours to get the kids to all their activities especially music exams this week. What woud I do without my lovely friends? How I appreciate them and my DH!!

 

DS needs to be at football at 9.30, an early start to get him there too and time to get two reluctant girls up to take him. Then another early start on Sunday to get DS to choir. Lie ins? What are they?

 

I am tired now and will think about all those jobs to do tomorrow.

[redhotchick]

I can relate to this. My brother in law has started working away Mon to Friday.

The logistics of getting 2 girls to school and all the various (multiple!) after school activities, together with a full time job, is very difficult. Thank goodness my sister has good friends and neighbours!

 

On top of the usual stuff my lovely nieces have been in the chorus this week at the Opera House in Manchester (Turandot and Aida). Lots of rehearsals and running them to the theatre involved! My poor sister!

[AJuff]

Yes I can sympathise with her week sounds very familiar.

 

I have a welcome break this morning as I asked the football coach is he would take DS to and from the game and he was happy to. So here I am wasting time on the forum . . when there's jobs to do!!!

 

I also have another dilemma. DS is a very good football player which is why he's selected to play for his team every week and is never rested. A few weeks ago his school chose him as one of their top players to go to the Newcastle Development training team. Of course they have asked him to play for their team too!! They choose their youth squad looking for potential players from there. However it's on a Sunday morning and DS is a beautiful chorister. I hate football and have certainly not encouraged him to play at all. He know this and accepts that we all have things we like and don't like to do. He jokes that the day I come and watch him is the day he'll come and hear me sing in a concert!!!!

 

So do I give him the choice or decline it on his behalf? I feel more dorrs are open to him through singing and bring him into a better social circle than football ever will.

[jackiepoppies]

Hi Ajuff

 

How old is he?

 

It is very difficult to make decisions like this on our childrens behalf. What may seem best for you, may not be the right choice for him.

 

I think you need to discuss both options without trying to influence him and then let him make an informed decision.

 

That way you will not be 'blamed ' if he chooses the wrong path.

 

Is there an alternative choir he could join and do both

 

Loads of luck,

 

Jx

[AJuff]

He's 9. I spoke to him about it after lunch and he just grinned at me asking what it really meant. He then told me his new school which he starts in September has an excellent football team and he'd rather do that as then he could still sing!!! And here's me worrying about it all!!