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YS of 10 in yr 5 has started sex ed today - needless to say non too impressed :lol: Stomped into house and announced it was "gross" - gave him a hug and he'd forgot about it :wink: Then ES big strapping 15 yr old mass of testosterone and a vested interest in the laydeees strolls in and says wickedly "howz the sex ed L?" Cue for YS to go into orbit.

He goes to a church school and the film is a very tame 70's job complete with smocks on the preggie ladies. Its a gentle introduction for the younger child. Just wondered what other peoples kids reactions were.

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Mine knew it all already......I made sure of that.

We have always had frank and open chats in this house,and I figured they were going to hear some rubbish in the playground anyhow,and were better armed with the facts.

 

I am afraid that they probably learnt very little at school sex-ed classes ,and were shocked by nothing :?

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Well L knew a bit but as an immature 10 I felt it better he got the basics and then we will go thro the "book" together when I feel he can concentrate enough to absorb something. Any questions are answered but I felt a little and often better than War and peace type of amounts. very different to ES who aksed a lot but I was pregnant so it was a good time. Cue for OH to disappear behind his newspaper :lol:

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:lol: ES has just had his talk in y6, and YS in Yr5 the basics.

 

ES has now eduacted YS about various things - but both already know about girls and periods etc, as I have always been open with them. Also, ES was clued in enough to ask if after my hysterectomy I would be bleed free :wink:

 

I am not sure if I would trust OH to have the chats with them - and as I work in a school with yr7-11, I am more privvy to what comes next :whistle:

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DS1 knew the basics but when the y6 talks came around he still came home announcing 'ugh- minging!'. All his friends seem to have reacted in similar fashion. I think they did a fair bit of blushing & giggling!

 

He's now at end of y7 but really not that interested. He asks the occasional question but no more. He has a book if he would rather read than ask, but is content for now knowing the basics. When that changes OH and I are readyto answer whatever questions arise!

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My DS is in Yr5 at the moment and anything to do with kissing, cuddling or heaven forbid nakedness is Gross, Eurgh, Minging etc.

 

However he made us roar the other day when he muttered something about sexual intercourse. I asked what he'd said and he turned round, completely straight faced and said in a very monotone voice

 

"Yes, sexual intercourse....................to express love or to conceive a child" and walked off.

 

We did wait until he was out of earshot before we fell about laughing - Bless him!!

 

Dawn x

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My son (Yr 6) is not remotely interested, when I mentioned the sex-ed at school he refused point blank to say a word :roll: we have a book he can look at whenever he wants and we have always said for him to ask anything he wants. I even pointed out I would rather he asked us and got the truth than listen to the rumours on the playground. He just pretends it doesn't exist. My daughter on the other hand was very interested when my niece got pregnant and she was 8. So we had the talk at a very basic level then, she read the book and is quite happy to ask questions although usually when her dad isn't around :wink:

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My YD who is in yr 6 is currently doing this at school. She is most embarrassed and wont talk to me about it :( I do keep trying to ask her what they have said, and she will tell me bits and pieces, but she's not keen. I have tried to be open with my kids about sex ed stuff, but as my parents never told me anything about it, I found it slightly difficult to know how to broach certain subjects. But despite feeling myself burn up when I talk about it, I keep on talking. It has got easier though.

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our primary school had a lesson for parents :lol:

 

It was actually a really good idea of the Head, she invited parents of different years into school so that they could be introduced to the lesson plans and materials used in their kids classes. She felt that if they were aware of what the kids were learning they would be both better able to respond appropriately to questioins as well as be reassured that the material is 'age appropriate' rather than the red-top rubbish that keeps being spouted about.

 

worked a treat for all the parents concerned and the first year she did it was also the first year there were no withdrawals from the classes. :clap:

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ES was telling his mates re his brother being very uninterested and apparently in his mates school 3 girls fainted when they saw the woman giving birth. I vaguely remember ES thinking she was producing a football when the babies head appeared. :roll: Oh the joys of growing up :lol:

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My two , one of each, had this pleasure in yr 6, and were unimpressed, but then we keep and live amongst animals, so.............

When Ds was about 13(pick yr age to suit yr child, I asked OH to do the "boy talk about everything ", he said for me to do it, until I casually pointed out that at no time had I ever been a teenage boy :lol: They had a long one sided chat in the car, as that way neither of them had to look at each other!!!

I "did" DS.. It was funny :lol:

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our primary school had a lesson for parents :lol:

 

It was actually a really good idea of the Head, she invited parents of different years into school so that they could be introduced to the lesson plans and materials used in their kids classes. She felt that if they were aware of what the kids were learning they would be both better able to respond appropriately to questioins as well as be reassured that the material is 'age appropriate' rather than the red-top rubbish that keeps being spouted about.

 

worked a treat for all the parents concerned and the first year she did it was also the first year there were no withdrawals from the classes. :clap:

 

That's a really good idea Laurie

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I attempted the talk with mine (both boys) now 22 and 19,at around year 5 /6 but at the same time bought a book called 'Living with a Willy' by Nick Fisher. Obviously it is aimed at one gender, but I have to say it ended up being the most 'thumbed' book on their shelves for years!

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I remember my parents being invited to school by the head when I was nine for the same 'lesson'. the whole idea was that they would then know exactly what the school was going to teach us, had seen the films etc. so that everybody was up to speed. I knew the basics by 5 but my mum was pregnant and just answered my questions when i asked them. The school told her off and apparently had her investigated in case she was abusing me!!

 

i'm glad to see that sex education is coming back to schools - maybe i'll see less pregnant 13 year olds at work!

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We had a Y6 boy who passed out last year at the very start of the sex ed talk, it was at the very basic part of simply naming the body parts!!!! Give a thought to the poor teacher who have to give these talks the range of knowledge is very varied from knowing nothing to knowing far too much. We are asked some very challenging questions, but by this time of the year we know our kids well enough.

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We had a Y6 boy who passed out last year at the very start of the sex ed talk, it was at the very basic part of simply naming the body parts!!!! Give a thought to the poor teacher who have to give these talks the range of knowledge is very varied from knowing nothing to knowing far too much. We are asked some very challenging questions, but by this time of the year we know our kids well enough.

 

 

I am with you there!!! I have to deliver the technicalities as a science teacher to year 7 and the SRE bit with gross pics as HoYear. (Year 10). My starting lines with Year 7 have always been: 'I don't care what you call yours but I expect you to know it's correct name and how it works and as an added bonus I am expecting you to know how the opposing bits work too.'

I am hoping that by doing this I will keep you away from trouble later.' :wink: So far I have never received any complaints :pray:

I now teach in a very high achieving all boys school and I have often been heard to mutter that we might as well change the school emblem to a willy as most of the boys are fixated on drawing them at every available opportunity. We get them on the field in the snow in winter, in the homework diary etc etc it's a HoY's lot to have to deal with this and try to encourage 'mature' behaviour. :roll: Sorry if I cause offence here mods none intended.

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I attempted the talk with mine (both boys) now 22 and 19,at around year 5 /6 but at the same time bought a book called 'Living with a Willy' by Nick Fisher. Obviously it is aimed at one gender, but I have to say it ended up being the most 'thumbed' book on their shelves for years!

 

I just looked this book up on Amazon, as I have 3 boys, it sounded useful :lol: Reading through the reviews it's amazing the differing viewpoints. Some had bought it for 10yr olds & thought it was great. Others had bought it for 14yr olds and thought it too explicit & wouldn't give it to them.

 

My eldest asked a few questions while I was pregnant with youngest. Mostly about how the baby's going to get out :anxious: I bought a book in readiness for further questions called 'Mummy Laid An Egg' :lol: Strangely he never asked how the baby actually got in to my tummy, so I haven't needed it yet, although he does come out with random questions now and again.

 

I've always worried how much to tell him. I'm happy for him to know the basics, but I wouldn't want him to go into school & tell his friends, in case their parents didn't want them to know.

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I felt fairly confident that neither one of mine would be leading the conversations on this topic, but at the same time I wanted them to feel that they had access to some knowledge either via me or a book etc. In my experience there are those that make out they know it all and those who listen and nod and then go and work it out for themselves and one or two who remain vulnerably clueless. We still have 'Mummy laid and egg'! I wonder now though if the internet provides answers we are not aware of! It's amazing to think that 12 years ago all we had in this house was a slow pc operated by a hamster :D

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Having asked a few mums of kids in YS's class the various reactions were - minging to manky . A few kids obvioulsy so stunned they hadnt even reminded mum they had had the lesson :think: YS and OH in the car the other day and YS said " i can't believe you and mum DID that" :roll: We have obviously gone down in his estimation. :lol:

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Even if they think it's gross now I bet it won't stop them doing it!

 

Mind you I don't think it goes far enough. One of my friends is involved with going into schools (not sure what year but certainly early teenage) talking about relationships, commitment and responsibility - something your average 'sex education' is sorely lacking! Interestingly though I did hear that the governement want to introduce something along those lines. With the UK having one of the highest teenage pregnancy (and disease) rates in Europe it is no surprise to find that our kids also get the least sex education. Perhaps it is beginning to dawn on the 'powers that be' that there might be a correlation!!

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Even if they think it's gross now I bet it won't stop them doing it!

 

Mind you I don't think it goes far enough. One of my friends is involved with going into schools (not sure what year but certainly early teenage) talking about relationships, commitment and responsibility - something your average 'sex education' is sorely lacking! Interestingly though I did hear that the governement want to introduce something along those lines. With the UK having one of the highest teenage pregnancy (and disease) rates in Europe it is no surprise to find that our kids also get the least sex education. Perhaps it is beginning to dawn on the 'powers that be' that there might be a correlation!!

Slightly indignant here!! :x Just the bold bit in pink really. I really do think this depends upon your institution. We certainly do not take this lightly. It is a significant part of PSHE in years 8 and 9 at my school. I should know as I am part of the delivery team! As I mentioned in an earlier post I actually deliver both aspects- technical (through science curriculum)and relationships through PHSE and my year head role.

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I think the teachers must feel so awkward talking about it :?

I remember watching a video of a woman giving birth when i was in year 6. We all thought it was absolutely disgusting. It is the only part of my sex ed. that I've talked to my mum about, who said 'eeuuuggghhhh' when I told her!

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Glad to hear it Ms Marple, but I think your fine institution might be in the minority. I'd like to be proved wrong though.

 

Watching the recent 'Sex education show' and the positive response from the pupils (i.e. they wanted more) involved just emphasised how necessary it is - we see the proof rather too often at work. I seriously doubt any of our 'Mothers Of Tomorrow (12 to 19)' have had any of that input at school.

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Our teacher at secondary school was unmarried (this was the 70's) and used to be bright red when she took sex ed - it didnt help that we were beastly and asked awkward questions just to see how far we could push her. :shameonu: Ashamed of myself now but if I knew then what I know now..... still what goes around comes around they say.

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