Mr Rhode Island Red Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 My sister recently got engaged to her boyfriend. And now with the wedding preparations getting underway, I was dreading the moment where the names of the people doing speeches would arrive. Since our father is deceased (RIP). We knew that either me or one of my two brothers would be left with the task of the father of the bride speech. And sure as my name is Mr Rhode Island Red, I was picked I was wondering if anybody reading this would be able to tell me how to go about writing this...thing. Kind of, what to include, what kind of a theme or undertone to use, what kind of a length, who to thank etc. I'm well used to public speaking, as I was on several debate teams in my schooldays, but when it comes to this kind of speech format, I'm lost. Many thanks, Mr Rhode Island Red Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willow Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Whatever you do remember to say how beautiful the bride looks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kinsk Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Whatever you do remember to say how beautiful the bride looks That's the grooms line The opening line of the father of the bride speech is normally to welcome everyone and wish them a good afternoon/evening. Maybe it would be nice to say something about your father and how proud he would have been. Something about how the bride and groom met? Any funny anecdotes about your sister as she was growing up - be nice Traditionally the father of the bride only really thanks the guests for coming, the groom thanks his best man and ushers and it's the best mans job to thank the bridesmaids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatieB Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 There is a book for your exact situation but sorry I don't have the name. However I'm sure a quick google or visit to Waterstones would reveal it. The reason I know this is my DH gave his neice away as the father of the bride was deceased in relatively tragic circumstances. The book was fab, it didnt give the speech but set out what should be included and how to address certain things i.e. abscent relatives. I remember his speech was great and he isnt a natural speaker at all. I hope that helps and good luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 This may help you http://www.easyweddings.com.au/MarriageCelebrant/Articles/father_of_the_bride_speech.asp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadietoo Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Here's how not to do it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merlina Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 What everyone else said And remember that people are most grateful for the shortest speeches! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted July 27, 2012 Share Posted July 27, 2012 Occasionally I've heard funny stories included about the suitability of the groom or first impressions of him. Not as rude/embarrassing as the sort of stories you tend to get in the best man speech though! Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted July 27, 2012 Share Posted July 27, 2012 I didn't have speeches. I don't like them. When I told my dad, who is a quiet man he also became a very happy man. I just wanted everyone to have as relaxing a day as possible. Does the bride want them? Sometimes people just think they should and haven't thought about not having speeches. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lillybettybabs Posted July 27, 2012 Share Posted July 27, 2012 My dad wrote a letter from my horse which made me cry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
