Janepie33 Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 DD has now graduated and has returned home to live. 4, sometimes 5 adults in a small terraced house can sometimes feel a bit cramped. Now I don't mind shopping and cooking for everyone. I don't really mind doing the mountains of washing. I Do mind doing most of the housework and washing up. And I rather mind DD swanning out of the house just as I arrive (having lounged around with a friend all day while I was working hard) wearing my new Monsoon top, clutching my (prepaid) Oyster Card and leaving behind a pile of dirty dishes!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadietoo Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 I so agree about the housework and washing up... My DD has been at home all day today, whilst I have been at work. I returned to find the dishwasher which was loaded and switched on last night hadn't been unloaded....however she has been busy she tells me...she did a load of washing, (which I had to remind her to take out of the machine and peg out.. (hot and glorious sunshine here) ..instead of which it is draped on an airer in our conservatory.... )....and breathe..feel better for letting that out and I will miss her when she moves out to start her first teaching post next month Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted July 23, 2013 Share Posted July 23, 2013 Oh, I sympathise (apart from the wearing of my tops as I have 2 boys ). Mine have been back from Uni for the hols but thankfully will be away again in a month or so . YS seems to spend the whole day sleeping and then most of the night on his PC or watching TV . He never does a thing unless I specifically tell him to. I'm watching to see if he's growing an inch a day which would explain why he's so tired. I suspect it's boredom and laziness . ES is a bit more housetrained and is actually a joy to have around. Sadly, he's not around that much as he's half moved back to his Uni flat . I pity you if this is (semi)-permanent . Methinks a few ground rules are in order? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janepie33 Posted July 23, 2013 Author Share Posted July 23, 2013 I pity you if this is (semi)-permanent . Methinks a few ground rules are in order? Permanent! DS finished Uni last year and has had a job since January - long hours, hard work, he doesn't like it much - and he tidies up after himself and helps around the house even if I haven't asked him to. DD on the other hand, thinks she is still a student and moans if I ask her to do things around the house and then DS & OH moan at me because she is not doing anything! I have succumbed and ordered a new dishwasher (our old one broke before Christmas and wasn't replaced as the 3 of us happily managed with just a washing up bowl). Dishwasher arrives on Thursday and DD has assured me that she will unpack dishes when clean (a job I REALLY hate!). Watch this space.................... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 Here I see my future, ED is back from uni after her first year, she can be helpful if she wants to be, but most of the time she just eats us out of house and home, eating all of the things that she can't afford when she is away, fresh orange juice and my expensive nuts that I treat myself too. She rolls her eyes and gets spikey every time we ask her do do something and expects us to take her with us when we go for a quick drink after an evening allotment visit, which we don't do because she is not keen on the allotment visit first, but is more than happy to eat the veg. She was away the weekend before last and YD, OH and myself spend two hours shelling peas to make soup out of, she then came back and ate most of the soup, but got stroppy when we asked to pod the next much smaller batch of peas to make more soup. DS is very lazy and keep very unsociable hours when not at school, he hates the lack of routine of the holidays but still moans when I try to impose a structure on him. YD is lovely but again only when she wants to be or wants something, she has no money at the moment and we came back last night to find that she had done some ironing for us. I don't mind paying her for doing some jobs so long as she does her normal chores without moaning. Ah the joys of family life I am dying to see how my BIL & SIL's children turn out, because neither of them does anything around the house anyway, so their children don't even have a good example. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 I am really looking forward to my eldest coming home next week, & she is only here for a month before she moves into her new final year house. My youngest moved out a few weeks ago, so it will be great to have someone here again. What I am NOT looking forward to is having to trawl up there next week & empty her current house, then move it all into her new house She is pretty good at helping out around the house,thank goodness, & we have the added bonus of a house & pet sitter here while we go on holiday to Greece. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patricia W Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 For those of you out there still suffering - my experience is that they become human again in their late 20's...... My youngest DD is now 33 and a real joy. The other 3 x DS are actually very helpful and can be useful for those odd jobs (moving cubes etc ) that OH has become deaf to! So hang on in there. It does get better.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janepie33 Posted July 24, 2013 Author Share Posted July 24, 2013 For those of you out there still suffering - my experience is that they become human again in their late 20's...... My youngest DD is now 33 and a real joy. The other 3 x DS are actually very helpful and can be useful for those odd jobs (moving cubes etc ) that OH has become deaf to! So hang on in there. It does get better.... Thanks. I will try to remember that. Another episode today. I'd been in from work for an hour when DD arrived home and rushed upstairs. "Hello" I called out to empty space. "Hello. I need a shower and then I'm going straight out" came the muffled reply. I am ashamed to say that I then gave her a lift into town, with the loan of my (pre paid) Oyster card!! Hmmmmmm! Things have to change around here! I have to add, that DD and I get on very well together and spend our time going to the cinema, theatre and fringe shows. (Guess who pays though!!) and we generally have fun. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted July 24, 2013 Share Posted July 24, 2013 Been there. They do leave eventually, the art is encouraging them not to come back Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickendoodle Posted July 25, 2013 Share Posted July 25, 2013 Whan ours finally left we moved from a 4 bed house to a 2 bed bungalow which is pretty good discouragement! Having said that, my ED lived with us for 6 months last year to save some money for a flat and she was a joy to have around (she is 27). She certainly was not a joy in her teens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
