BeckyBoo Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 (edited) Hi there, dilemma! I've wanted a dog for ages, have had them before although not since before the kids were born. OH has also had dogs before but was saying he didn't want another as he was so upset when his last one died. Then he started saying he wanted to wait til smallest boy was 5 as he can be a bit of a nightmare. Now, someone at work has a litter of pups, they're dog de Bordeaux crossess, mostly DDB I think and she isn't asking an awlful lot of money as they're not pure bred. We've already got a cat and 7 chooks, three kids me and OH, I only work part time so apart form normal things like going to the supermarket any animals are hardly left alone here. We walk to school twice a day, have woods next to our house etc etc I think it would be FANTASTIC and it's fate that they've come along now. OH however has stamped his feet and said "NO DOG!" because a) he doesn't want it pooing in the garden (?) b) what if there's a day I can't take it for a walk (?) c) we've got enough going on I can hardly keep up with the housework as it is (That's not exactly how he put it but you'd probably want to decapitate him if I told you the real arrogant Victorian husband statement he actually made - I still do!) d) we're broke (doesn't stop him going to the pub every night after work for an hour and smoking every day when I go nowhere and do nothing except work and look after the kids) In fact all he's made me want to do now is go and buy the ****** thing when all I wanted to do was go and see the pups with the mum and dad and think about it. I really really resent the fact that I feel like I'm having to "ask permission" and all it's done is make me want to do the exact OPPOSITE of what he wants! I HATE being told what to do! Any ideas? I really want a dog altho I was seriously considering all the pros and cons cos we are a busy family, HELP! Mrs B Edited September 10, 2007 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beauty-Box Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I'm in the same situation as you. Me and the kids would love to get a dog, but my hubby says NO! He thinks it's too much of a bind. I am a housewife, so am in most of the time. We have one cat and two chickens. We live near woods too and I would love to take a dog on long walks. The more he says no the more I want one! It's so frustrating!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bellekatz Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I had that response too but am now waiting for my homecheck for a rescue dog. He eventually agreed because i was like a dog with a bone - everything was answered with " well it would be different if we had a dog" and " if we had a dog we would be able to............." so eventually he got sick of hearing it and said yes! The gentle art of feminine persuasion ( dont give up until you have your own way ) always works for me in the end Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 It took me 2 years to persuade OH that we needed a dog Eventually he gave in, and we had only had Holly for 18 months from a rescue home, and he thought another would encourage her to play and become more confident, so now we have 2 Guess who does all the evening walks too Hang on in there, it will happen eventually karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 Mrs B, im shocked you let a man 'tell' you could cant do things. You work Hard, as a working Mother, you have 3 children and a hub to look after ! You deserve a doggie friend who you can have fun with. Lets face it a dog doesnt moan like men do, or get drunk! just go get one and bring it home, Take the kids to the '' super market'' and say 'Dogs were on Sale, the children wanted him'' tee hee hee but seriously, dont take "Ooops, word censored!" off a man. especially a man who drinks ever day at the pub when your broke! go get the doggie woggie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I think that everyone in the family should want any animal that they are considering buying,& the entire family needs to make the decision as a unit. If there is any doubt then maybe a bit of gentle persuasion? I am no dog lover but I let The Hubby get another Staffie when our old one died,but then again she does go to work with him every day. He adores she & him adores her right back! The dog & I tolerate each others presence in the house To be honest,I would hate it if she were at home all the time,as I really don't enjoy the company of dogs. But as dogs go,Millie isn't too bad,I suppose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prongs Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 my dad wont let me have nothing, he hates animals Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 Your old man sounds a pain. We had dogs from when we were first married, 30+ years ago. We always had two at any one time and we had Scottish Terriers for yonks and then some wire haired fox terriers. It was lovely. But now we are dogless - our last one died last year. And, altho I miss her, its really super not being tied down. But then again, there's nothing to make me go for walks! Dogs are expensive - vets, food etc. - but great company, they always love you when you are alone and down. They need you, which is great (unlike cats; independant snooty creatures). They do take a chunk of work and a fair dollop of your time. It costs if you have to put them in kennels if you go away. Mind you, if OH is as bad as you say, perhaps you should replace him with a dog. I've never yet met a dog that smokes. Smoking, now that is expensive - not only the fags but the health problems that it causes. Nasty disgusting habit (not that I'm narrow minded or anything you understand ...) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 my dad wont let me have nothing, he hates animals Aww, now that really does make me feel sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 Don't ask me-I'm a cat person and afraid of dogs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helenp Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 We got a husky 3 weeks ago, to go with my 2 cats, Jason the dog & the hens!! She is adorable, alittle mad, but settling in really well, We are moving into a new house with 3 acres of land in the coming weeks, so that was the clincher in getting her. I just researched the breed & OH came round & now admits he loves her. Just keep hinting, maybe even get some piccies of the puppies & just leave them laying around, that works Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xChicken04x Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I would LOVE a dog!!! Unfortunatly its a big No No!!!! I love my 2 cats to bits but they dont do much and dont really love you like a dog would. We rescued a stray cat called Gavin last year and as soon as he found my neighbors house and decided he liked their food better he was off (although he has moved house to another road since) , unlike a dog, they stick by you. I have never had a dog but i know i would love keeping one (or 2 or 3 or 4......and maybe a few puppies aswell) xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basset Posted September 8, 2007 Share Posted September 8, 2007 I hope you can persuade your OH to agree to a puppy. We got our puppy in December, and I find the mix of children and a puppy can be quite stressful at times!! - so it makes sense to have everyone in the family in (at least semi-)agreement, to prevent any extra stress and resentment. You'll have to use your superior female powers to charm and persuade him!! Good Luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted September 9, 2007 Author Share Posted September 9, 2007 Well, we're not going to get it, I went to see them yesterday and they were absolutely gorgeous, I really like a little (well, not that little, Dog de Bordeaux x English Mastiff) fawn coloured dog who was just so playful and friendly, both the parents were laid back and friendly, it seems ideal. But OH is being such an a**e about the whole thing and you're right, I can't bring a dog in if one person in the house doesn't want it. So as usual I'll have to just get on and not do what I want. (feeling a bit sorry for myself, nothings quite right in Mrs Bertie-land at the minute.) I'm off to finish cleaning out my hens, that always makes me feel better, the sun is out and I've got to ring the lady who had the dogs to tell her I'n not having one now. Stupid how the littlest things can upset you Mrs B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xChicken04x Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Right, thats it!!!! Do not take no for an answer!!!! Sulk untill you get what you want!!!! If that fails say to your OH if he doesnt give up smoking and drinking then you can have a dog. HA!! (unless of course you smoke and drink, then that wont work and i'll think of somthing else) xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 What about fostering rescue dogs? Or looking after a dog for a friend who goes on holiday? That way you can all see what it's really like to look after them. they are expensive and do need a lot of time - walking, feeding, grooming, training - but they give a lot back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basset Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Just wanted to send you a big hug to cheer you up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 the Man is the head of the house, But the woman is the neck, and we can tunr it anyway we want. Make the Dog ideas, seem to be his idea. quoted from Big Fat Greek Wedding. Try and make it his idea. Hope it works! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chelsea Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 I wouldnt get a dog unless I had enough time to devote to it. Our german shepherd comes everywhere with us....holidays, hotels, in the car etc etc. I dont believe in having a dog and shutting it in all the time. ( like my sister) - my sister has her dog purely for "having a dog" and they do not devote enough time walking it, playing, giving it attention and they expect us to look after it when she goes away! Dogs use up a lot of your time, so if you have a lot on your plate it probably isnt a good idea. We havent been abroad on holiday for 11 years because we dont want to leave our baby or put her in kennels so she comes on holiday with us!!! Thats what dogs do to you !! Sorry your feeling down Mrs B hugs xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted September 9, 2007 Author Share Posted September 9, 2007 Just to say I've had dogs before so I have some idea what I'm letting myself in for. I only work evenings, I don't start til 5pm and finish at 2am so I'm home all day, if I ever start earlier (once a fortnight it's at 2.30pm) my childcare is done by my mum at home so again, dog not left home alone. I walk to school every day so that's two walks every day never mind the back garden and the woods beside the house. We go camping, the last site we went to which we've already made plans to go back to in Weymouth allows dogs as does Weymouth beach so no problem there. Any time we couldnt take hound anywhere my dad is 10 doors up my in-laws are two streets away and I have a dog trainer who owns two crufts winners 8 houses away so could get expert advice on socialising my dawg. It's caused huge rows this weekend so I guess I should give in and say no, but the only reason OH really can come up with is he doesn't want poo in the back garden (he's already got the hump cos of the poo from the chooks) but with three small kids and visiting smallies I would poo pick obviously. He just says that with middle daughter now starting school it will just be me and smallest boy at home, he reckons we should have some calm and a puppy will cause chaos. So how do the rest of the world manage then with kids and dogs? He just wants me to be able to spend more time doing housework which I will NOT be doing, I'm not doing housework every minute I'm not at work, if I've got free time with smallest boy we'll be going out places. I STILL want a dog. Mrs B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 hmmmm, in my opinion hes being spiteful. If hes allowed to drink and smoke why shouldnt you be allowed something? smoking and drinking hasa finacial impact as well as a social impact on all of you. if i were you id say '' im getting a dog on *th of November / Decembe''r and see what he says Prehaps he will loosen up, Does he like to be in control alll the time? It could be that he just wants to be in control and be the controller. I hope that is not the case! Mrs B , with all respect it sounds like your more than capable than looking after a doggie. I think by what youve said it'd be a great addition to your family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted September 10, 2007 Author Share Posted September 10, 2007 Oh yeah,oh yeah, I'd like to say I won him over with my superior charm, wit and intellect but in the end I just said, "Well I want one, it'll be nothing to do with you, it's coming on Wednesday!!!" And he blomin said, "Oh alright then, but there'd better be no poo!" So, not telling the kids, going to tell them they're getting a surprise on Wednesday, altho it might have to be Thursday as I'm doing a bit of overtime on Wednsday night and I need to be here the first night. I AM SO EXCITED!! PLUS have just had a pm from Adrian who is rehousing his two chooks and I think (hope) I might be getting them too!! 9 chickens, a cat a dog three kids and a grumpy husband! Not forgetting a very VERY excited Mrs Bertie!! What a household!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisa33 Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Woohoo!! You tell him. I love my Jasdog and wouldn't without him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Woo hooooo!!!! Well done you! At least he knows when he's beaten - treat him gently tonight and he'll forget he ever disagreed in the first place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Oh yeh Oh yeh Oh yeh!!!!!!!!! WOOP!!!!! I knew you'd win him over! Fancy trying to get Ross to let me have a Smeg fridge>>>????? Whats sex is it? ANd what will its name be? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
