baby bears mum Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 Baby Bear is away on an adventure trip with the school to Llangranog - doing bungee trampolining, quad biking, skiing etc. (OMG am sooooo worried). Her teacher rang on Sunday to ask if I could go with them because one of the teachers had had to pull out. OH on stag weekend and had his phone switched off so spoke to Baby Bear who sooooooooo didn't want me to go. She's been on these things with the school before but OH has always gone as well (we're these idiots who help the school out whenever needed ) and she wanted to go by herself (I think she wants to prove to herself she can do it by herself and "I am 11 now and need to stretch myself Mummmm" ). I know she will be fine and I know I had to say no and give her some space but boy it's hard. Just the start of things to come I should imagine. Anyway moan over. Sorry I know it's trivial especially compared with what some of you are going through. Thanks for "listening". Love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tessa the Duchess Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 It's really hard letting them go isn't it But she will love you even more for giving her a taste of freedom, and think how much you will boost her confidence The first time I let my 10 year old son go to the shop on his own, I followed him, at a discreet distance, all the way there and all the way back Now you will just have to spend your time looking forward to having her back Tessa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baby bears mum Posted April 8, 2008 Author Share Posted April 8, 2008 Thanks Tessa. You're absolutely right of course. Am just being a bit of a wuss really She's off to High School in September so will have to make the most of my 'little' girl now. (have got a locked cupboard all ready for when she discovers boys!!!!!!! ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 It is hard letting them go off on residential trips, especially at 11. Both my boys have done it now and I spent the time they were away worrying myself stupid about them and yet they came home, dirty but full of beans and had the most marvellous time. They need the opportunity to be a little bit grown up without us sometimes but it really is hard to let them go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bracken Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 I find it so hard letting mine be independent,even at 16 and 14. I think that no matter what age they are,they're still your babies and its instinctual to just want to keep looking after them,no matter what? Try not to worry(which is often easier said than done),get a glass out and have adrink(or bottle) of wine with me. She'll be fine,they always are. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ajm200 Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 It's lovely to watch your babies grow up but at the same time it's must be so hard to let them go. Thankfully, I've got a while before i have to deal with that - even the first day of school is a long way off. I do feel for you. She'll be fine and will be full of excitement at the prospect of being treated like a big girl. I know its hard not to worry and wonder what she's up to but you can look forward to hearing about her adventures when she gets back Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baby bears mum Posted April 8, 2008 Author Share Posted April 8, 2008 Thanks Kate. I think I'm feeling it a bit more because we had a car accident last year. I was driving and Eleanor was in the back when we were hit quite hard from behind. Eleanor wasn't hurt (although does complain about her back occassionaly) and I had a bad whiplash which has laid me up ever since (still having physio ) Have felt guilty ever since even though it wasn't my fault. OH says its because I like to be in control and make sure everything is OK and this proved that I can't be in control of everything (don't think he was being horrible ). I'm sure she will be bouncing when she comes back and absolutely full of it. Have just been reading another post where someone is taking up horse riding as a hobby (good for them I say) - think maybe I need to get a life!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Webmuppet Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 It is hard. Little Miss Webmuppet goes and stays at a friend of ours for a week in the summer and the house is so quiet and tidy without her ( she usually goes when I have the worst week of shifts in the summer). Its so weird turning up at a pre-arranged place to hand her over and going home without her. She has a fantastic time and gets spoilt rotten. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 She'll soon be home, soap still in its wrapper, toothpaste tube unopened, exhausted and having had a wonderful time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 I heard about a little boy who had been on a residential trip for 4 days who was so proud to come home and tell everyone that he'd been wearing the same pair of underpants the whole time he'd been away . Bet they were nice and comfy by the time he came home . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baby bears mum Posted April 8, 2008 Author Share Posted April 8, 2008 She'll be just like her Dad then Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 Nice . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freddie Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 Yep, my 12yr old boy sees no need at all to introduce himself to water and soap. WE HAVE REACHED THE STAGE WHERE i HAVE SAID THAT i DO LOVE him, BUT NOT HOW HE'S BEGINNING TO SMELL... i ALMOST WISH HE'D "CLICK" THE GIRL THING, AS THEN, ALLEDGEDLY, i'LL NOT BE ABLE TO GET HIM OUT THE BATHROOM!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 I believe one of my responsibilites as a mum is to prepare my children for living independently of me and OH. However it's easier said than done. ES (nearly went for his first sleepover with a friend during the Easter holidays. I was so proud of him yet it was odd not having some time with him once YS was in bed. I am also a mum who helps out with trips and will take a step back if ever either of them doesn't want me around any more. But you have my sympathies. As someone else said earlier, she'll love you all the more for letting her go on her own. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 Yep, my 12yr old boy sees no need at all to introduce himself to water and soap. WE HAVE REACHED THE STAGE WHERE i HAVE SAID THAT i DO LOVE him, BUT NOT HOW HE'S BEGINNING TO SMELL...i ALMOST WISH HE'D "CLICK" THE GIRL THING, AS THEN, ALLEDGEDLY, i'LL NOT BE ABLE TO GET HIM OUT THE BATHROOM!! I have a 14 year old boy with a similar aversion to soap and toothpaste . Boys! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freddie Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 Two more yrs of the "no wash "policy?? oh Lordy!! At least with the windsurfing he smells of rubber and feet.... Nice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 You gotta love them, haven't you . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 (edited) My ten year old has been away at his nanas during the Easter holidays, and he packed his bags himself. Needless to say, underpants and socks were not on his mind when he packed, and when my mother-in-law asked what he planned to wear for a fortnight, he rolled his eyes at her and said 'the ones I've got on nana'. When she pointed out that they'd get a bit smelly, and that it wouldn;t be very nice to put manky pants back on after a shower, his only comment was 'That's ok, I can go a week without a shower'. Edited April 8, 2008 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ana's flock Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 Yup, that's about right with mine too... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 Boys! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 It does get better - honest! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helly Welly Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 DD (age was away for her first residential during the holidays, four days in Northampton with the choir. Funnily enough, i've never had a problem with 'letting go'. Its not that i don't love her but i never worry as she's sooo independent anyway. She's also fairly sensible and as long as i trust the adults she is with, i just feel happy for her to be having these experiences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedusA Posted April 8, 2008 Share Posted April 8, 2008 I struggled with the letting go too. I tried to hide it and appear confident and cool about it, but inside I was a wreck until my little girl came home again. S he's 23 now, but I do still worry if she says she'll be home at such and such time and isn't. She knows she has to text me now and let me know she's OK, or I'll worry. Your daughter will have a great time and come back full of it all, you see if I'm not right! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
