Snowy Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Who'd be a mother! I've just packed 16 year old off on the bus to enrol for college. On his own. I know he was nervous as he had an upset tum and couldn't eat any breakfast (not like him at all!). He knows where he is going and it is a bus route he is used to, so why do I feel as if I should have taken him? Will the other 16 year olds be accompanied by anxious parents?? Will he enrol OK? Will he write everything down that he is supposed to find out about? Aaahhhhh! I won't feel settled until I know he is on the bus home again! (and this would normally be peppered with smilies but they are not working for me, so just insert lots of anxious looks and rolling eyes where appropriate ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Aww, I'm sure once he gets there and sees everyone else in the same boat he'll be fine. Probably even meet some new mates and go for a coffee or a coke. You'll be frantic until he gets home and when he walks in the door grinning, you'll feel a huge sense of relief!! You did the right think Snowy, hard though it was. He has to start sometime and now, right at the beginning, is the best time. For what it's worth, I would have done the same. Hang in there missus !! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Snowy, I am sure that he will be OK. We all worry about our kids whatever they are doing and I am sure that if he does forget to ask anything you can ring the college later. This situation is new for him but the college deals with this every year. He will probably have a great time when he gets there. Don't worry he will be fine! Hugs, Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 It's going to be good for him Snowy. If he feels you trust and believe in his capabilities that has to be good Buffie x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazygal Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 aw poor you. I think you've done the right thing- these days too many teenagers are ferried around by their parents and are not allowed any independence- I remember travelling the length of the country on the train by myself going to interview days for University when I was 17- these days parents seem to go along too- which doesnt seem fair on the teenager- I met loads of people doing the same thing as me, it just wouldn't have been the same with Mum and Dad tagging along. I wish you and your son well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hen Watch Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Ahhhh, he'll be fine and will be all the better for going alone and taking responsibility for his future. I still remember the first day I enrolled at college, a flurry of paperwork, catching the train etc. In those days your parents didn't take you anywhere. We had 1 old car and Dad took it to work every day so Mum and I got the bus/train everywhere. I know how you feel about not taking him though. I feel the same with my kids. I ferry them everywhere and I worry that they don't have anything like the freedom I had at that age when my Mum turfed my out to play in the fields and just expected me back at tea time. But that problem is all my own making. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Poor you! He'll be fine and probably proud of himself that he did it alone. All part of growing up If he forgets to do anything I'm sure it can be sorted out afterwards Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted August 22, 2008 Author Share Posted August 22, 2008 Thanks everyone for confirming I did the right thing Just had a call from him, he's on his way home. All done and dusted, no problems Mum, I'm a big boy, what on earth were you worrying about? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 There you go Buffie x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 But you're his mum, of course you worry, it's your job !! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Oh Snowy, you wouldnt be a good mum if you didnt worry a little. Glad all is fine and him signing on at college went ok. So, whats he signed up to do?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnieP Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Snowy, you're a great mum! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted August 22, 2008 Author Share Posted August 22, 2008 Aww, thanks! Em he's doing a performing musician course. Hoping to work with bands and possibly get work as a drummer himself eventually. When he got home he'd found out everything he needed to, and even made a new friend What a good boy! *sigh of relief* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Very cool indeed Snowy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 All that worry for nothing Snowy! Mum's never stop worrying though. You have given him the skills he needs. He knows what he wants in life and is bound to do well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jlo Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Pleased it all went ok. I honestly wonder whether, if I had known just how much I would worry about my kids or feel guilty about doing the wrong thing, I would have had them in the first place. You did exactly the right thing but I don't suppose it will be the last time that you are wondering whether that is the case Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChirpyChirpyCheepCheep Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 Thanks everyone for confirming I did the right thing Just had a call from him, he's on his way home. All done and dusted, no problems Mum, I'm a big boy, what on earth were you worrying about? Got a lump in my throat reading that! What are we like. . .? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Richard Posted August 22, 2008 Share Posted August 22, 2008 And I got all worried about our little boy when he started his new job recently. Bless him - it all went OK, but he is only 30. Seriously though its pretty good now, because I think he worries about us as much as we worry about him. Her indoors has been pretty ill recently and came out of hospital on Monday - the boy hasn't been off the phone since she came out and he is driving up from London, plus girlfriend, to spend the bank holiday weekend with the aged infirm and poorly. Only thing is, my cooking isn't up to four folk so he'll have to do some work in the kitchen as well as doing the sympathy bit with the boss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
