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[HarrisonFamily]

To cut a long story shortish.....

I have an Aunt with alzheimers....my Mum used to look after her but when she died I promised i would look after her as she had no-one else (except my sisters and brothers who my Mum had already worked out would not be alot of help ..... )

My Aunt was never a nice Aunt...she never liked children and she never understood why my Mum would have any....the good thing about the alzheimers is she is alot nicer.)

 

At present I am trying to sort out my Aunts finances, she lives at home with a cousin who moved in after my Mum died we have no idea who he is but he has kept the day to day care under control, my Aunt goes out alot...occasionally gets lost coming home but loves being out she also likes taking money out her bank accounts....

 

She has at least 4 banks all with more money than I have...All I want to do is set a limit on the accounts so that she cannot take it all out in one go and lose it, even though I have full power of attorney they will not do this.....I can take all the money out !!! but cannot stop her doing it....One bank managed to lock down her savings in a 2 year ISA , one said they could do nothing unless I take her savings book , the other has resulted in having to take 2 days off work, go to several branches be told.."the staff might not be trained properly " and get no where....so I am still trying to phone a local branch....Why can't they just give me a number rather than keep having to phone some one on the main number saying "you are not the account holder so we cannot help you" ......why is it OK to let an 85 old year old who does not know what day of the week it is to use £20 notes as tissues or fish food or whatever she does with it.....why is this cousin who we do not know buying a new car today ????

 

Why do I want to drink a large vodka

 

(If I did take the money out in my name my family would suddenly take an interest and it would turn even worse...)

 

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[The Dogmother]

I am sure that someone more qualified will be able to advise you, but could you transfer the money from all of them into one new account, over which you have sole control, and then give her cash as and when she needs it?

[Bramble]

Have PM'd you!!!!!!

[Alis girls]

I have no real advice - i recently found out my dad who has mild vascular dementia has one of theses funeral things which is suppose to pay for funeral costs but often fall short. he hasnt a clue and I suspect he probably has all sorts going on. DM's advice sounded reasonable. I hope you get it sorted - hugs Ali x

[HarrisonFamily]

I am sure that someone more qualified will be able to advise you, but could you transfer the money from all of them into one new account, over which you have sole control, and then give her cash as and when she needs it?

This would be ideal but I live 40 mins away so popping over is not so easy also I have already discovered my family are not very understanding where money is concerned, they haven't seen my Aunt in the 2years since my Mum died and do not understand how bad she is....

 

I'll head to the banks again and refuse to move until its resolved......its crazy that someone can pull out thousands of pounds but cannot tell you what day it is, I have the power to put her in a home, sell her house but not limit the money she can take out .....I feel my blood pressure lowering thanks to chocolate.....

[Egluntyne]

You need to sort out a lasting power of attorney. It will be a bit of a process organising it though.

[HarrisonFamily]

I have the Lasting Power Of Attorney all registered and in place but not helping much..........

[Space Chick]

It sounds like the bank staff don't understand the power of attorney. I had one for my Nan when she was not in a state to look aft her own finances... I never had any problems.

[Cinnamon]

As far as I can remember,& it may have changed since then,but when my Mum was unwell & had basically permanently lost the plot,it wasn't power of attorney that was needed,but something else.

I can't recall what it was called though - something like Guardianship,but not quite that word

[Alis girls]

Can I ask if your aunt has had an assessment by a memory clinic - probably sounds daft but if you had something in writing it might help. I have nothing in writing - my dads GP said he had vascular dementia, however many elderly even those with advanced dementia can be very convincing to someone who doents know them well. She is in danger of being abused by con artists and needs an assesment if not. I promised mum on her deathbed to look after dad, the guilt now I am struggling is paramount. I wish you well and hope you get it sorted. Ali x

[Sammiboo]

I sympathise completely.

 

My dads mum (doesnt earn the title grandma - thats another story) was put in a home last year after being in hospital as she had accidents at home proving she couldnt look after herself.

 

my dad doesnt have power of attorney, but her finances are of concern. i was helping my paernts sort through some of belongings, we found letters from a "friend" thanking her for a gifts and telling her the money will be used to help start a business and towards a deposit for a house. My "grandma" doesnt give money away easily, money means more to her than her family so for someone to get what i assume is thousands out of her is obviously concerning. So my dad is trying to sort her finances out similarly to you.

 

I wish you the best of luck, its not an easy situation to be in. I hate stuff like this with money as others dont see you are trying to help and think there are other motives...

[Cinnamon]

As far as I can remember,& it may have changed since then,but when my Mum was unwell & had basically permanently lost the plot,it wasn't power of attorney that was needed,but something else.

I can't recall what it was called though - something like Guardianship,but not quite that word

 

I think it was the Guardianship office I dealt with actually.

I do remember that they were helpful,but lots of assessments had to be done on my Mum & it all took an awfully long time.....I also remember them insisting she sign a documnet,when she couldn't even hold a pen,let alone write

[sadietoo]

As far as I can remember,& it may have changed since then,but when my Mum was unwell & had basically permanently lost the plot,it wasn't power of attorney that was needed,but something else.

I can't recall what it was called though - something like Guardianship,but not quite that word

 

I think it was the Guardianship office I dealt with actually.

I do remember that they were helpful,but lots of assessments had to be done on my Mum & it all took an awfully long time.....I also remember them insisting she sign a documnet,when she couldn't even hold a pen,let alone write

 

Cinnamon you get to be a receiver for Court of Protection (Guardianship office) if the person hasn't already completed an Enduring Power of Attorney (old form) or Lasting Power of Attorney (current form) whilst they still had the capacity to sign it. All powers of attorney report to the Guardianship office though...