Lesley Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 When Carl and I married , the planning was more about what we DIDN'T want as well We kept it small and hand made nearly everything. My 20 something son gave me away although my father is still alive, I also have a step-father and I didn't want to offend either..........my sister married the following year and chose to have both Dad and SF taking part. I find that at any wedding I attend I am wound up by the fact that some poor soul has to spend most of the ceremony and reception worrying about making speeches (I know that is probably just me ! ) so we decided not to have any! My son-in law proposed the toast right at the beginning of the reception and then everyone could relax and enjoy themselves. Congratulations - I'm sure you'll have a wonderful day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavenders_Blue Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 Ugh, you're right about the speeches Lesley. We also decided not to have any speeches at our wedding, hubby was going to stand up and say thank yous to all those who had been involved and that was it. My dad on the other hand had different ideas and declared that as the father of the bride it was his right to make a speech and he was going to do so despite the fact that we didn't want any speeches. I was But then that was just one of several things that I didn't really want at my wedding (including the venue and style of reception!) so what did one little speech matter? We'll be 6 years married next month, and I've already decided that when we get to 10 years I'm going to have a party to celebrate and plan it exactly how I want it with no interfering parents! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j00lz_12366 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 this is a possible..the turkish room-for the ceremony http://www.victoriabaths.org.uk/venue-hire/weddings-and-ceremonies/?mdid=74#main-image-hold trying to organise having a look around! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scubababe Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Congratulations. When we got married nearly 7 years ago we decided to do things on a shoestring...I blew that outta the water when I found my wedding dress After that I just went for it big style and had the fairy tale wedding. It is my 1st marriage and 2nd for OH. We did do the stationary which I thoughly enjoyed designing. Friends of mine got married at the register office with family only and had a party in the evening...fantastic day!! They got married in jeans and tee-shirts and had posh frocks for the evening do. Honeymoon was camping in wales. as everyone else has said...it is your day and do it your way. I'm currently wedding co-ordinator for my friend. Hers is on a shoestring and I'll be doing her stationary, cake, favours & photography. A friend is a DJ and were currently looking at venues. Unfortunately she is Italian and has a BIG family so numbers is a big issue. I wish you all the best as you plan your day...all exciting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quickcluck Posted June 25, 2012 Share Posted June 25, 2012 Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful dress! I got married 2yrs ago. It wad teeny tiny. We just had very close family and friends only 16 in all. We went to a lovely restaurant afterwards. We wanted it really relaxed so we made some favours, made all the bows to go on the backs of chairs and made napkin rings etc..... Then we all ordered what ever we wanted from menu so no grumbling about for food or who sat with who lol..... We had a truely lovely day. We got married at 2pm and we were in our hotel room sipping champagne by 8pm..... Bliss. Everyone brought cameras so we had lots of lovely pics to choose from... It was the best day.... Yours will be your best day whatever you choose to do..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Webmuppet Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 Mr W and I got married at a hotel, while we were having the pics done the staff re-arranged the room for a buffet. No formal stuff at all. I did a quick speech to say thank you to everyone for coming and the pressies. My boss at the time delivered me to the hotel in his Jag - he volunteered in exchange for a piece of cake and a glass of bubbly! We didn't have an evening do. Just 22 guests, immediate family, a few friends and my boss. We left the hotel by 5pm for the airport. We even got a refund from the hotel as we didn't consume as much fizzy wine as they had anticipated! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cranfield Kate Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 my wedding was tiny in comparison with most - just 20 of us. we did it at the local registry office and then all went to a restaurant that closed for us. if you do things on a weekday and don't bother with flowers and fancy cars and things like that, you can do it on the cheap but keep it nice. a local restaurant would probably be delighted to have you on an otherwise quiet midweek afternoon/evening, especially if you do a set menu and get everyone to choose their food in advance so its easy. our invites were done at a local print shop and were just a nice pic of us. instead of a cake we had a pile of nice cheeses decorated with fruit and flowers. we didn't have a photographer but just asked everyone to take loads of pics and let us have them on disc afterwards. just don't tell any suppliers you do use that its for a wedding or they'll charge you double! and congratulations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Isobel Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 I'm a churchwarden at our tiny little ancient village church. Someone from the village is getting married in 3 weeks and she has made no plans except to turn up with her chap and their friends and family and wed. She is bringing some flowers from her garden on the day, and we will ring the bells, and I'm sure she's picked her dress, but the whole thing is a fuss-free event with one point and one only!! I am so impressed. You can tip thousands into a wedding but you are no more married than someone who walks down the lane to the church and says "I do!". I am certainly going to drop this into conversation with my daughter!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekyPekins Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 Firstly, huge congratulations! I got married last August and, for the size and type of wedding, managed everything on a pretty low budget (we were buying a house, so had other things to spend our money on!). I had to get creative for some things - e.g I had badges as buttonholes - and I made LOTS e.g my bouquet, invitations, table names, bunting etc... For wedding stuff, you can't beat eBay and Etsy I had afternoon tea as the meal and I also got married on a Thursday - you might be surprised how much you can negotiate off the quoted price of venue, photographer, caterer if you don't get married on a Saturday! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scubababe Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 one of the posts triggered memories of my friends wedding. She got married in a registry office in the ball gown she was wearing when they met. We all walked to the chinese restaurant and were entertained by the owner who was an Elvis impersonator, then we all walked to the station, got on a train and went to a hotel in London where they had booked into for the night. Few drinks in the bar, the bride & groom departed and we 'eventually' went home. Cracking day...full of laughs and NO fancy cars, flowers, cakes etc! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j00lz_12366 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 Thanks for all the fantastic ideas!!! These weddings all sound lovely! We have spoken to the family member who has close links to the church and she says it's a def possibility-it's not actually a Christian church and they have carried out many 'cross faith' services before-not that we are but we don't want an overly religious service. She has asked us to email her with what our thoughts are for the service and she will approach the minister-however he will not be there til aug/sept-current minister is leaving, but the 'new' one is a returning minister so she already knows him and he is quite open minded which may help. The definite plus side to having it there is that there is the village hall/old school room right next door so we could do afterwards next door! It would be lovely to have the ceremony there as historically Daves family have many links to the church. Also, it's v close to the airport so it would mean we could slip away for a couple of days easily! Here's hoping!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavenders_Blue Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Well that just sounds perfect! Fingers crossed that your plans all come together for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 For wedding stuff, you can't beat eBay and Etsy ....and don't forget Folksy - the British version of Etsy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scubababe Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Sounds like it's all starting to come together Have fun planning Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheekyPekins Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 For wedding stuff, you can't beat eBay and Etsy ....and don't forget Folksy - the British version of Etsy! Very true Lesley - I can't believe I forgot to mention Folksy.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j00lz_12366 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 I really hope so! Me and daughter had an experiment t weekend with some old china tea cups and artificial flowers-peonies and similar..and i like the look as a table decoration...its looking like a very old fashioned 'afternoon tea' type party (with champagne) is on the cards..followed by a few days away for us! will carry on muttering here if thats ok! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luvachicken Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Talking of peonies - we went to a wedding where the table decorations were just a simple selection of sweet peas in little vases. They were beautiful and the brides father grew them himself - that would keep a bit of cost down for you. Congratulations on getting engaged too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j00lz_12366 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 Thanks for all the lovely replies and ideas! I made a huge mistake and had a look on folksy... !! I am loving the ideas of flowers in jars and tea cups on the tables, simple things we can do ourselves is the name of the game!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coppers Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 A few pics of ED's wedding Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 Wow - I love that 'cheese'cake! and the cupcake tier as well - what a great idea! Is that you looking very smart in red and navy? Great pictures. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coppers Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 Thankyou. Yes that is me. We had afternoon tea in the day and hog roast and bbq in the evening.The cheese cake was part of the evening food and was very popular served with home made chutney (a wedding present) and crackers. There was a bit of a birdcage theme going on as you can see. It was a lovely day. We were very lucky with the weather as it had rained all morning and the sun started to shine at about 1 o'clock just before we had to set off. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j00lz_12366 Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 What wonderful picture, it looks like you all had a lovely day! Looks kind of similar to what i'm hoping for, i'll keep looking at the pics for inspiration i bet! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luvachicken Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 I LOVE that cheesecake. You have given me a brilliant idea for one day when my daughter gets married. She is a real fan of Sylvanians - even aged 21 as she is now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrsankanu Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 hi first congratulations, weddings as i found can get very stressful and costly as i found out.! but can be kept down easily enough. i ended up with a lovely ivory dress that was an ex rental sale but never actually worn so it was reduced from £1000 or so to the ex rental price of £300 plus sale so for 250 ! the only thing is i wish i had done my alterations. anyway, back to the point. I've just returned from cornwall and visited a lovely place called st michaels mount if i was to marry again which i won't I'm still happy with hubby!lol for now thats where id have it if i could look into it its breath taking the leaflets and brochures do it no justice until your there who needs passports! enjoy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
