The Dogmother Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 .... the neighbour has gone away, and left her wayward 15 year old at home; she and a friend have had a group of lads round all day, and it got a bit noisy, but not too bad. Now there seem to be more arriving, and I think it's going to get a bit Magaluf I am surprised that L has gone away without letting me know (she usually does) or even asking the girl's dad to keep an eye. Rosie knows the girl from school (she's a couple of years below R) and has begged me not to get involved. I said that I'll just send the lurchers in to sort it out if it all gets a bit hairy. Ear plugs tonight I think................. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 I hope they see sense and keep any noise to a reasonable level. If not...release those hounds! (And yourself of course, I'm sure they wouldn't mess with you, DM!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Who leaves a 15 year old on their own? I won't leave my 16 year old overnight unless one of her older siblings are staying. Hope that it isn't too noisy or messy DM. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gavclojak Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 I feel your pain DM " the Russians" next door were out all day yesterday and the kids were " home alone" One son spent an hour pushing one of our adjoining fence panels to the side an the vocalising when he spotted the hens. I Will have to say something but it's very hard as he had downs and they don't speak English very well. Ti then spotted a kid hanging out of bedroom three standing on the rain canopy of the door below!!! She looked about twelve from what I could see so I shouted...."Oye pack it up and get in before I tell your parents" I am not sure she understood what I said but by my tone she knew it wasn't good. I have to say they are really good parents and I'm sure they would be furious if they knew. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 I can't imagine leaving a child so young alone overnight. That's such a small amount of age. There are so many things that they might feel confused about and if she's not being sensible about who knows she's on her own it's also quite dangerous. I remember several rape cases of young women home alone. I think I was very strict and although I trusted my kids, I only trusted them up to a point. Teens especially don't always look before they leap and in my opinion need consistent guidance from older people whether they want it or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 I can't imagine leaving a child so young alone overnight. That's such a small amount of age. There are so many things that they might feel confused about and if she's not being sensible about who knows she's on her own it's also quite dangerous. I remember several rape cases of young women home alone. I think I was very strict and although I trusted my kids, I only trusted them up to a point. Teens especially don't always look before they leap and in my opinion need consistent guidance from older people whether they want it or not. Couldn't agree more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 My thoughts exactly guys! This girl is inclined to be wayward anyway, as teens can be. There was still noise at 3.30am, although less of it, and no loud music at any time, just loads of running around, shrieking, banging and crashing; I think there will be damage to explain to her mum There wasn't any noise that I heard, which rang alarm bells with me, and I was listening out for facebook hordes turning up. I am not best pleased, as neither me nor the hounds got a good night's sleep; Ruby is my guard dog, and will grumble if she hears anything untoward. The mother is recently separated/divorced, has this daughter, and two young boys who stay with their dad most weekends. Methinks that mum has a new chap, and likes to go away with him, I also think that daughter was supposed to be staying with aunt/friend. I shan't mention it to the mother as I don't want to get involved, but I am sure that she will notice that something went on, and I will explain when asked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kinsk Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 When some friends of ours got divorced the wife moved into a house just round the corner from what was the family home. If one parent was going away for the night they'd say they were going to stay with the other but didn't. Parents fault for not communicating with each other. I think 15 is too young to be left alone overnight, and proven so with all the people there last night. Seems she got away without incident but things like that can turn ugly so quickly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 Hope you sleep better tonight. Anyone remember the BT I think it was ad where they had a party and had to get French Polishers in to fix mark on table and then the camera swung round to the immaculate room all cleaned up and the portrait on the wall with a tache on the face of the woman. Any mum will notice - they will miss something they forgot to clean etc they always do cos they forget we mums know everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 Yellow pages I think but should be a warning to all parents, give them an inch and they will take a mile I am fortunate that I have very responsible older children and the youngest who has wayward tendencies still has plenty of respect for us, but we do keep plenty of boundaries around her. I find that although they winge teens like the security of boundaries, it shows that we care, and they like bring able to blame the parents to get out of awkward situations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 There was a line in a sitcom I liked and used to use. If they showed displeasure when I was 'going on' I would remind them that I was their mum and it was my job to bring them up properly and to the best of my ability. I would also tell them that I wasn't going to stop any time soon - I haven't yet, even if they just ruffle my hair when I get cross now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 I've been there with Rosie too, it can be very hard work, but the main thing is to keep communicating, making signs through the glass as it were. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 Well, the last of the stragglers left around lunchtime. I was very tempted to sound and air horn through the letterbox so they'd all understand how tired i am! Mum has arrived back, but I haven't heard anything, so not sure if she's found any damage, or perhaps knew about the party. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 With a 15 year old? Clearing up after a mega party? Er, bet her mum definitely knows! I think there's only been one party in our road - people divorced and moved out years ago, but although we were all notified (it was for a 16 year old) and it was supervised, the mum proudly announced that there would be alcohol - because they'd smuggle it in anyway! SIL had a party when her folks were away (I think we were married so OH wasn't at home at that time) and then word got round and she had big guys turning up and she got really scared as they took over. She called the police and they were removed. Of course the vomit and stuff had to be explained to parents when they got home. EWWW!!!! Even though DS has lovely friends, I know they like too much alcohol, so he was never allowed to stay on his own (or with DD for that matter). One of his friends was a vicar's daughter. Now I wouldn't mind her staying any time - she cleaned up the kitchen and tidied up after everyone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 My youngest does this when she goes to sleep overs. I get told by impressed parents that she can come again. If only they could see the way she lives at home. Let's put it this way Kim and Aggie would have a field day Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted May 11, 2015 Author Share Posted May 11, 2015 sounds like my Madam! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Yes, must admit DD has been arming herself with my bathroom cleaners - Viacal and Limelite to clean the boyfriend's bathroom. Lots of limescale on his shower screen. She makes a good impression with his folks too - but get her to wash up after she's "created" in the kitchen is like asking for the moon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
