David

[dancing cloud]

Now I freely admit I'm not up to date on modern etiquette, but an invite to a leaving do that sets out an amount per head to be paid up front to attend, just seems wrong. Wrong .

 

The person leaving was very high-up in the organisation and could almost certainly afford a sausage roll or two. If he really could not afford to feed everyone, invite fewer people!

 

Is it just me? Am I simply behind the times? You can tell me the truth, I trust you

 

In case you had any doubts, I have regretfully declined the gracious (not) invitation.

[Leicester_H]

I agree with you. If it was a 'lowly' worker, I might expect peers to pull together to put on a leaving do but I would never expect to be asked for money by the person leaving.

 

H

[soapdragon]

B***dy cheek

 

I can imagine a group of friendly colleagues getting together for a meal to 'see someone off' in a casual evening out sort of way and have been to similar where you are, of course, expected to pay your way. But to be invited and told you will have to pay....I wouldn't cough up...I'd splutter.

[Willow]

Wow I'd have declined as well, I've been to informal leaving dos at nearest pub where everyone pays their own way but then it's been up to us how much we spend.

 

To my surprise when I left my last contract my colleagues wanted to go to the pub for lunch for my leaving do and we all paid for our own lunch and drink. I'm hoping the reason they wanted a leaving do was they were sad to see me go, come to think of it maybe it was a celebration

[mullethunter]

I think that's disgusting. Would definitely say no.

[Charlottechicken]

No, no, no!

 

That is just plain wrong!

[chooksRCute]

cheeky Blighter! when you choose to leave you should be grateful that some are sorry to see you go and wish to send you off with a token of their time and if you're lucky a bunch of flowers

[Olly]

No. When I left my job last year I organised drinks - luckily someone else was leaving at the same time as me, so we shared our drinks do - and WE paid the bill, it was quite a lot but I'd been there 17 years and it was expected etiquette.

 

As someone said above, if it was a case of all going out for a meal together then I'd expect to pay my way but I definitely wouldn't expect to shell out for a leaving 'do' - especially being asked up front! I expect that makes the decision about whether to go or not quite easy .... Are you expected to contribute to a leaving present, too?

[gavclojak]

Funny enough we are have a leaving do for one of our girls tomorrow, the boss is stopping for a drink but has already told me to pay for everyone's dinner/drinks and he will reimburse me.

[soapdragon]

Funny enough we are have a leaving do for one of our girls tomorrow, the boss is stopping for a drink but has already told me to pay for everyone's dinner/drinks and he will reimburse me.

 

Wow, what a great boss! He really knows how to value and motivate his team If only there were more like him.....sigh

[gavclojak]

Funny enough we are have a leaving do for one of our girls tomorrow, the boss is stopping for a drink but has already told me to pay for everyone's dinner/drinks and he will reimburse me.

 

Wow, what a great boss! He really knows how to value and motivate his team If only there were more like him.....sigh

 

He is, we go out for dinner every few months, we can choose where we go and he pays for everything including copious amounts of alcohol!!!