Mel (& Paul) Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 Have no daughters - but alot of my Mums jewellery will need to be handed on through siblings and their children, so need to specify certain things. Those sort of things can cause more arguments than anything - so it is must to specify things! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 And don't leave your house to your cat. It will be overturned. Oh.......i need to change the will then! OH & I really need to make a will but its one of those things you never get round to! We must do it soon!!! As long as im buried with Fred my teddy bear i dont think i will mind! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 What if Fred wants a life of partying on the money you are leaving him Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 You mean you don't want to be buried with OH, Emma???? Mel, you're on a roll tonight - how many bottles have you had from the mini-bar? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 None! I am just on a high from shutting Tim Boring and Dim up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Has anyone got an opinion on those will packs you can get in Smiths? I am having trouble persuading The Hubby to take time out to visit the Solicitor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bellekatz Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 And how do you decide who to leave your kids to? OH has a sister about 20 miles away, but her kdis are now grown up and apart from her there is no other family close by and the kids would hate to leave school/friends etc? Do I approach friends and see how they would feel? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 I've heard that the wills from WHSmiths are very good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 What if Fred wants a life of partying on the money you are leaving him Hmmm i think as my teddy bear he has seen enough of me partying (& the after effects) to last him 10 life times so i really dont think he will mind! You mean you don't want to be buried with OH, Emma???? Im planning on going first so i dont think he'd want to! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 And how do you decide who to leave your kids to? OH has a sister about 20 miles away, but her kdis are now grown up and apart from her there is no other family close by and the kids would hate to leave school/friends etc? Do I approach friends and see how they would feel? That's a really difficult one. If i ever felt that my Dad wasn't up to the job, the next choice is my best friend. She also has a young son, her and her husband are godparents to my youngest. We have the same approach to discipline and she treats my children exactly as she treats her own. We have discussed it and she knows she could 'inherit' them. I am down to inherit hers if anything should happen to them. It's also about how they will be brought up - we are both Christians so the children would have that continuity. Not an easy decision though by any means - we are fortunate, they also have an older, half sister with children who I would be happy to leave them too. She just lives further away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geoid Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 What if Fred wants a life of partying on the money you are leaving him Hmmm i think as my teddy bear he has seen enough of me partying (& the after effects) to last him 10 life times so i really dont think he will mind! Im planning on going first so i dont think he'd want to! Yoi could always leave your money to another Fred Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Martin B Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 Will anybody be leaving anything to anybody on the forum? If I decease, Lesley and Carl are welcome to Lesley and Carly! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted September 9, 2007 Share Posted September 9, 2007 What if Fred wants a life of partying on the money you are leaving him Hmmm i think as my teddy bear he has seen enough of me partying (& the after effects) to last him 10 life times so i really dont think he will mind! Im planning on going first so i dont think he'd want to! Yoi could always leave your money to another Fred I think one is pushing ones luck Fred!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 What if Fred wants a life of partying on the money you are leaving him Hmmm i think as my teddy bear he has seen enough of me partying (& the after effects) to last him 10 life times so i really dont think he will mind! Im planning on going first so i dont think he'd want to! Yoi could always leave your money to another Fred I thought that's what the plan was anyway - I obviously missed something Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Will anybody be leaving anything to anybody on the forum? If I decease, Lesley and Carl are welcome to Lesley and Carly! That's fine Martin - always room for two more........and a purple Eglu ....of course, if Carl and I should have a sudden accident............guess how many chickens you'll have? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Can I have the piggies Lesley? ...and the sheep, quail, cows.... but NOT the turkeys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popcorn Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Well, I might as well put my request in then seeing as it's the flavour of the thread at the moment. Can I have the tractor and the electric fencing please Lesley This is something we've talked and talked and talked about since having Stefan. We can't decide who to name as legal guardians for Stefan. My brother would be ideal....loves children, younger than me, has a fantastic soon to be wife and loves the outdoors. My only issue is the distance. It would mean a huge upheaval for Stefan. Loosing his parents would be enough in itself without having to move schools, leave family and friends behind etc. We thought the alternative wasn't an option - leaving him to Darren's parents - but what Snowy said has really got me thinking. Giving the will a yearly update might solve the issue for a while and allow us to do the will with peace of mind that it's the best option. Darren's Mum is a child minder, and is VERY fit and active (she beat me at jogging on Ssturday and she's 57! - must get back to the gym) and Stefan adores her, so she would be the perfect choice at the minute. We've already approached a solicitor and have been given a fee of £140. Does that seem steep to you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 I did mine ages ago Gina,, but it was only £60 then - it may have gone up since then, but I'd shop around. I must renew mine too, but it would mean trying to get time out of work to see theh solicitor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 We use a company of solicitors who specialise in wills - they came out to see us and took down all our details, prepared the will and sent it to us. They hold it for us and send us a form every year to note any changes. Then they redo the will and send it to us again. Costs us £40 a year that goes out as an automatic direct debit. Can't remember what the initial fee was but can find out if anyone is interested. PM me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popcorn Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Pm on the way...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 That sounds like a good deal Snowy - do you know if they have offices round here? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 They are based in Peterborough but seem to happy to travel most places (not exactly that close to Leicester). No other offices as far as i know Clare. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Thanks for that Snowy, I will get in touch with the solicitors that did my current will and see what they charge Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 We've already approached a solicitor and have been given a fee of £140. Does that seem steep to you? I wouldn't say that was steep - you might get a cheaper quote, but if you think of it as probably 2 hours of work, that sounds about right. Don't forget that they'll be able to advise on Inheritance Tax, whether to divide jointly-owned property and appointing guardians for minor children etc. and will usually store your will safely without charge for you. The deal that Snowy's got sounds interesting, but bear in mind that most people only update their will every ten years or so, so you could have paid out £400 over that time and not really needed to change it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 10, 2007 Share Posted September 10, 2007 Blimey - I have just been quoted £300 - £600, depending on how much work was involved If anyone can recommend a specialist solicitor around here,I would be grateful Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
