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[Helly Welly]

i just wish i could afford to

 

I heard noises out the front just now, so i went to have a look from the kitchen window. I found three boys, of primary schoolage, had been in my garden, taken the ca"Ooops, word censored!"ch,put it on the dustbin and then pressed the 'check signal' button. Now this button tends to stick so it was wailng like a banshee. Of course they pegged it straight away and i can't chase after them so i was just left fuming.

 

To get into my front garden, you have to come right round to the front door as it's fenced off at the front. The dustbin is on the other side of the fence, right by the pavement so they'd had some nerve, going all the way round and back.

 

TBH it's just the latest in a long list of trouble in this street. One of our delightful (not) teenage neighbours passed us this morning and called DD a gypo, because she was wearong a summer hat

 

We had eggs thrown at our house for asking neighbours to turn down the music. We continually get abuse thrown at us in the street.

 

And what have we done to deserve this? Nothing, we ust keep ourselves to ourselves. We moved to this street 7 years ago because it was all we could afford at the time. Now we can't afford to move just for the sake of it, the dream is to bu some land and build our own house.

 

It's pointless going to the parents, they pay lip service to our complaints but then nothing changes. The police won't do anything and the council just say "keep a record". However, the incidents tend to be well spaced out and are often committed by kids who either don't live here or, as today, we don't even know.

 

I feel so helpless, and being disabled, i find i'm feeling more and more vulnerable.

 

I know not all kids are like this, but in my area they are and i just don't know what to do any more

[MadMitch]

Its horrible that you have to put up with things like that. I don't know what it is with people these days they just don't have any respect for anything.

You could always sell up and move to West Wales like we did last November. We certainly have a better quality of life here than we ever did in England although petrol/diesel is a bit dearer here.

Plus property prices are alot cheaper and you could probably get your land as well.

[Louise]

That would be my solution too relocate to a cheaper area where you can get what you want

 

What is it that keeps you in the area

[Helly Welly]

School, lack of funds for move and we've just been too busy with other things to look for land. We actually do like our house and we'd struggle to find another garden this big locally.

 

I suppose it's just a case of getting on and doing it. The thought of having a mortgage is pretty horrible too, we were fortunate in that a relative paid off the mortage on this house.

 

DD is dead set against moving, she'd miss her friends and her choir too much. Since joining the choir she's become so much more responsible and out-going and i would hate to begrudge her that.

 

Part of me says, why should we be forced out, this is our home and we've done nothing to deserve this treatment. I guess there's no easy answer but thanks for listening to me rant

[fairy&cake]

Hey honey. As a mother of a disabled little boy , and having a disabled DH i know how your feeling.

 

I know how hard it is, and how fustrating it is. My next door neighbours had a garden party on Saturday and loads of kids started shouting abuse at them and they even stole a fence panel!

 

We live in a very very nice area, and we still get horrid children misbehaving.

 

It happens everywhere unfortunatly.

 

My advice would be:

 

Get nice 1.5 metre wrought [sp?] iron fencing, with a nice big gate thats iron too [possiby on runner wheels] and fence your whole property in. I know it might cost £3k - £8k BUT- they wouldnt be able to get into your house or garden and you'd be safe!

 

We are having it done, and so are our neighbours.

 

Sounds a bit extreme but you can get lovely pretty fences now like this:

 

http://www.herculesironworks.com/railings.html

 

I KNOW its not your responsability to stop them getting on your garden , its the parents but they obviously dont care.

 

Send them the bill after if you decide to get it done, and see what they say

[Seagazer]

It is a horrible situation to be in. My sister and her family moved last year after living with daily battles with gangs of teenagers. It ended with her husband being taken to the police station as he had gone out to protect a woman neighbour who was being mistreated by the yobs. As he tried to get the yob to let go of the woman, he lost his footing and fell on the yob. Of course all his mates started yelling, "we're going to get you for assault". The police were very embarrassed about having to take him to the station. Fortunately it got thrown out of court.

 

Their lives were made hell though in the meantime, they were always stressed. Since they have moved (down to the coast) they look so much better, I think it was the best thing they could have done.

[Keanie Bean]

That sounds like a horrid situation to be in, your home is supposed to be the place you feel safest in, but you clearly do not. This is a constant stress on your life. The best thing is make a descision either way and then make it happen. I'm sure you could overcome any hurdles if you want to move and if you want to stay making your home a mini fortress sounds like a good option.

 

I hope things look better soon for you.

 

 

Sarah.x

[Snowy]

Poor you Helly It' is difficult when you have the children to consider though isn't it? I would sell up and move to a derelict barn in France tomorrow, the little ones would be fine, but the 16 year old is just applying for college so the timing is bad for him. One day the time will be right though!

[chickenanne]

That's awful; I do think it does happen almost everywhere now though - we used to live in a village of about 1,000 houses and still got loads of hassle from kids, as did plenty of other people. It's very difficult to know how to deal with it: I do think once you get stressed about it it's almost impossible to calm down. I used to end up standing out in the street in my dressing gown yelling at teenagers, like some kind of psycho fishwife type - obviously that didn't help!

I think your options are to move somewhere nicer or go for the enourmous fences option or report it to the police every time it happens, keep a log for the council, and stay put.

[Leicester_H]

How horrible. I don't have children so don't really know what I'm talking about but ....

*I* would seriously have to consider moving. I doubt it will get better and you have a long time left there.

Why not have a look at what you could afford in a 'nicer' area, not too far away (so not too bad for your children and easier to research) and what kind of mortgage you would need to bridge teh gap. Doesn't commit you to anything.

You might find something nice or you might decide its really not worth it - but then at least you'd have really made a desision rather than just gone along with it all.

Sorry not much help, just though I'd add my bit, H

 

PS Oadby's nice (!) , safe (!!) but a bit 'uninteresting' (we used to live in Market Bosworth) - good schools though - you're welcometo vistit Chikki &Boo !!

[MedusA]

I really sympathise. It's awful to live somewhere you are not happy.

 

My poor old Mum, who is 77, lives in a group of elderly people's bungalows, but she is right on the end, so the front of her bungalow faces onto a street that is a "school route". She is always getting rubbish thrown in to her garden and her flowers get beheaded. Kids even push each other over onto her shrubbery and flatten it. If she says anything, she gets a mouthful of bad language back. She even contacted the school and was told that outside of school premises, it wasn't their responsibility!

 

I think it's just indicative of the lack of respect for other people that is so prevalent today, sadly.

[Popcorn]

Oh Helen, you have my sympathies. Do you know Braunstone Gate in Leicester? In 1998 we bought a terrace just off the Hinckley Road on Tyndale Street. At the time non of the bars and cafe's were there and we loved it. It was a great little community and most of the residents were of a similar age to us. We had a lovely life there.

 

When the trend to turn the old shops into bars started in 2000, we started to suffer. Noise levels were horrific after chucking out time. We even had one guy trying to put a key in our front door, he was so drunk he thought he lived there. Even after opening the door and explaining he still tried to wrestle Darren out of the way.

 

Then it got worse as people were selling up and landlords were buying the terraces to rent to students. In 2004 we lost both of our long term neighbours, who had become very close friends of ours by that time, to roudy students.

 

We had the same old thing with environmental health on a weekly basis, calls to the police etc, and nothing changed.

 

It was a living nightmare in the end. We'd been happy there for 6 years and we were gutted. We loved the house.

 

At the time we had no money as Darren had decided to go to university, so had lost a wage completely. I really do know what you're going though. Keep in mind that you will be able to move one day, it's not forever where you are. We eventually moved up near Western Park. Much happier now.

 

Best of luck with it.

[kaylis1980]

She even contacted the school and was told that outside of school premises, it wasn't their responsibility!

 

thats discusting! when i was at secondary school we would stuff our ties and blazers in our bags as our headteacher used to say *whatever you do in my shcool uniform is my business* A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G!!!! and i was a smoker lol

[Guest]

She even contacted the school and was told that outside of school premises, it wasn't their responsibility!

 

that's a disgusting attitude. They could at least tell have words with the kids at assembly or something!?

 

DH's parents have a shop and they always have kids in causing trouble, they have cctv so they can contact the school, the school can identify them from the cctv and then their parents can be contacted.

 

If my parents were going through this I'd be livid and wouldn't let it lie at being told by the school that it's nothing to do with them but your circumstances aren't mine so i'm not presuming to tell you to do the same.

 

Can your mum put up some sort of wall/fence/railings or if the property is council or housing authority run, can they not do something?

[Yorkshire Pudding]

Our school is regularly contacted if the students cause trouble on their way to or from school. If the kids can be identified (and it's a small community so they usually give names) we do tackle them in school and contact parents.

 

Our attitude is the same as Kaylis1980's headmistress - they're in our uniform so it IS our business!

[MedusA]

She even contacted the school and was told that outside of school premises, it wasn't their responsibility!

 

that's a disgusting attitude. They could at least tell have words with the kids at assembly or something!?

 

DH's parents have a shop and they always have kids in causing trouble, they have cctv so they can contact the school, the school can identify them from the cctv and then their parents can be contacted.

 

If my parents were going through this I'd be livid and wouldn't let it lie at being told by the school that it's nothing to do with them but your circumstances aren't mine so i'm not presuming to tell you to do the same.

 

Can your mum put up some sort of wall/fence/railings or if the property is council or housing authority run, can they not do something?

 

I was totally disgusted too. In my day that would never have been the case! Mum can't put up any fencing, as it's a housing association property and the rules are strictly "open plan" at the front. Even if she did, the kids would probably flatten that too. I offered to go and see the head teacher, but Mum didn't want me to push it further, in case there were reprisals. There is "nothing to do" in the town and the kids are all bored rigid as they seem unable to make their own (non-offensive) entertainment these days. *sigh*

 

I am continuing to keep an eye on the situation, and will pursue it further if things don't get any better. Thank you for the support.

[Helly Welly]

"There's nothing to do" always seems to be the excuse for petty hooliganism, but when i was a kid i didn't have much to do in my town. I still didn't go around causing havoc because i was brought up to respect my elders, respect other people's property and generally be a good citizen.

 

Why is it so different nowadays?

 

More people need to stand up for their rights. I know its scary with the thought that anyone could have a knife or whatever, and yo should always weigh up the situation, but i remember that i didn't cause trouble because any adult would tell you off and make sure your parents found out.

[Janty]

Were the children in Helly Welly's garden in school uniform though? If they weren't then there is actually very little that the school can do.

 

I do agree though that if they were in uniform, the school should have words. We would at our school.

[Helly Welly]

I don't even know who they were Janty

 

Things have quietened down again, i've mended fences with the girl next door who'd been blaring music out that resulting in the egg incident. I also said hello to another neighbour that i don't normally speak too.

 

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