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[ajm200]

Just been out and bought a new car but although I should be over the moon I'm feeling a bit glum.

 

I love my current car, a cabriolet, I set my heart on it and saved every penny so that I could buy it cash. It's been my pride and joy for the past 4 years but we have simply outgrown it and have to get something practical...

 

I worked out what we could afford and decided on the spec. and reluctantly went to buy it. We've been dealing with a lovely guy up until today when we met the world's most pushy salesman. He kept tellling us that we didn't want the car we'd chosen but another model. Even after I politely told him that we'd done our research and would like him to respect our decision his response was "of course I respect your decision but you haven't considered all the options, the xxxx would be far better" argghhhh. He kept on and had my OH questioning our decision until I was close to tears and took my son for a walk outside...

 

The fact that I left the showroom meant the saleman panicked and gave us a substantial discount so my OH went with our original decision. I should be very happy but now my OH is still questioning what we've done hours later and I'm wishing we hadn't bothered.

[Olly]

if it's any consolation, I have NEVER bought a new car without exactly that heart-sinking feeling afterwards, it's such a huge investment and you want to get it right.

 

I hate car-salesmen (and women) with a vengeance but actually it sounds as if you did quite well - the 'walking away' tactic always pays off! You've bought what you had researched and wanted, at a discount - and once you've got it, you will get used to driving it and be really happy with it. Bear in mind that you'll never see the salesman again after you pick it up!

 

Just keep reminding your OH of the discount that YOU 'negotiated'!

[jess]

Perhaps your sinking feelings are partially attributed to "grieving" for the loss of your old car? Even though it is a car with no emotions it was still a part of your life, and you could just be longing for that old way of life?

 

x

[Egg Lou]

if it's any consolation, I have NEVER bought a new car without exactly that heart-sinking feeling afterwards, it's such a huge investment and you want to get it right.

 

I hate car-salesmen (and women) with a vengeance but actually it sounds as if you did quite well - the 'walking away' tactic always pays off! You've bought what you had researched and wanted, at a discount - and once you've got it, you will get used to driving it and be really happy with it. Bear in mind that you'll never see the salesman again after you pick it up!

 

Just keep reminding your OH of the discount that YOU 'negotiated'!

 

All car sales men/women?? I've been involved with car sales for 9 years only with prestige brands and have never ever pushed anyone into buying a vehicle that they do not want.. it is usually the second most expensive purchase you will make so very important it is right.. I only get the "buzz" when the customer is delighted! I no longer have the direct contact now but would still be unhappy if any of our Sales Execs pushed towards a car the customer clearly did not want.

 

With regard to feeling regretful, remember you can change you mind over the next few days and should get a full refund providing the car has not been ordered specifically for you ( at which point you may lose your deposit). This applies to brand news cars as the Dealer may have a different contract for a used or nearly new vehicle.

[Keanie Bean]

Sound like sound advice from Egg Lou, find out how long you have to return it, and sleep on it. If you still dont like it then take it back. Dont commit to such a large financial outgoing if your not sure.

 

Sarah.x

[Egg Lou]

Opps sorry forgot to add.. once the car is registered to you it is too late to cancel! Unless the Dealer can get DVLA to de register.. which they can do with good reason so if you feel this strongly then do push!

[Egluntyne]

Perhaps your sinking feelings are partially attributed to "grieving" for the loss of your old car?

I can understand that .

 

When I changed cars a 18 months ago, my feeling of excitement at having a new car were overshadowed by be unexpectedly really missing my old car.

 

My view is that a car a car is just inanimate objects designed to get us from A to B, but I had become strangely attached to my old one.

 

It took me a month or two to get over the odd feeling of nostalgia it every time I got into the new one.

 

Maybe that is all it is with you.

 

I like my new one very much now I have to say.

[Snowy]

I agree with Egluntine - my dream car was written off, and despite the next car being slightly better for us (both specification and economically) I really grieved for my old car! Sad isn't it but be reassured you aren't alone!

[Olly]

Apologies, EggLou - didn't meant to insult you. Maybe it's different when you're buying at the 'prestige' end of the market! I bought a new car last year and had the following:

 

One dealer just ignored everything I said (I wanted a diesel car, and a smaller model) - insisted on showing me petrol, family saloon cars similar to the one I was selling. I began to wonder if I was speaking the same language at one point - he totally ignored everything I said!

 

Another dealer kept me waiting 30 minutes without a seat or an offer of a cup of coffee, while they retrieved the car that I'd made an appointment to test-drive - "Ooops, word censored!"ody had made a record of the appointment so it was trapped behind several others. The saleswoman talked non-stop throughout the test drive, and then said 'Well, you obviously want it so let's talk about figures'. That made me furious - I hadn't made a decision at that point, was just making polite responses to her incessant chatter. After another 20 mins while she disappeared to talk to her manager I gave up and walked out.

 

The car I did eventually buy was misdescribed by the salesman, he told me it had features installed which in fact weren't there. Sorry if this sounds like a rant, but my personal experience has not been good. Buying a new car should be fun but it's something I have come to dread.

[Egg Lou]

No problem Olly

 

It sounds like you have good grounds for your opinion, TBH there are Sales people like that in every brand regardless of whether prestige or not! I have seen a few in my time but just wanted to explain that we are not all the same and there are a good few out there too

[Cate in NZ]

Perhaps your sinking feelings are partially attributed to "grieving" for the loss of your old car?

I can understand that .

 

When I changed cars a 18 months ago, my feeling of excitement at having a new car were overshadowed by be unexpectedly really missing my old car.

 

My view is that a car a car is just inanimate objects designed to get us from A to B, but I had become strangely attached to my old one.

 

 

I agree with you.

 

Until very recently I owned a Vauxhall Astra convertible, and I loved that car. Since being quite young I'd dreamed of owning a convertible, for no logical reason, I simply wanted one . It took me several years of hard saving but 4 years ago I finally managed to walk into the showroom and buy my dream car outright with my money, and I was so proud of that car. But it was impractical, only 3 doors, a bit low for MIL to get into etc, so we decided to sell it in the UK rather than export it to the other side of the world. Now I regret that massively, the buyers paid me significantly less than it was worth realising I think that I had very few options, and the cars over here are a let down. Either brand new and very expensive (and hubby won't consider that option) or donkey's years old.....seriously I've just not seen any 2-3 year old second hand cars over here, hubby is currently negotiating on a 12 year old Mazda....it doesn't excite me at all . And they're all Japanese imports, and almost all automatics....I really, really dislike driving automatics.....oh, well I'll get used to it I suppose

 

Sorry about the ramble, I do hope that you are happy with your new car, once you've settled down to it a bit and got used to it. It is the spec and everything sensible that you decided that you needed, but it sounds like it's a practical family car, not a pull at your heartstrings car. Sometimes though we have to go for the sensible option. Well done on getting the discount and sorry that you feel so flat

[Louise]

I still miss my old MX5 and Herbie went to pastures new 18 months ago

 

He was wildly impractical but I loved him

[sparkleeeeee]

we are looking for a new car at the moment as the c-max isnt big enough for us when the twins arrive. Because we have been trapsing around with two todders i tow, none of the salemen want to spend much time with us and we get varing responses as to wether we can turn the front airbag off/miles to the gallon/cost to tax etc.

it has been a bit of a task as we need 6 seats but also room for a double buggy and a double carrycot. some of those HUGE people carriers have such small boot space when the seats are in and i dont want to slide a muddy buggy in the footwells. i will really miss the c-max when it goes as i love it to bits and its cheap to tax, insure and drive. everything we have looked at has looked cheaper and will cost alot more to buy and run. if i could fit an extra seat in the c-max i would be over the moon. the cars we have on the shortlist are the honda and fiat that both have three seats in the front and three in the rear and a fairly big boot. they are both about the size of the c-max in length. BUT the honda has cream velvet on the insides of the doors (not very child friendly) and the fiat has fabric on the dash and on the doors (it is darker). that will be such a pain to clean.

 

we have had car salesmen showing us really small cars that dont have enough seats or petrol ones and i have to keep saying 'diesel and at least 6 seats!!!!' they are so quiet at the moment they dont care about wasting your time as long as they look busy. Now could e the time to get a good deal though.

[Mutrix Farmers]

So how much extra commission was he going to get by selling you an alternative car???

 

Men and cars are pathetic. Like you, I went to buy a car knowing exactly what I wanted and I came out with it. When OH replced his car, salesman only had to mention an extra this and a something slightly differneet that and he couldn't make up his mind. So I did it for him and said no thanks we'll have what we came in for in the first place. Men and children can't do choices!!

 

As Egluntine said it is just a metal box with 4 wheels, and you have got what you researched so it can't be that bad.

[ajm200]

sparkleeeeee

 

If you love you c-max, what about the s-max. Isn't it the 7 seater verson of the ford people carrier?

[superjules]

I'm hoplessly nostalgic and sentimental about cars. I still miss my Honda CRX I sold over 10 years ago, so i understand your pain. You've done your research though, so if it fits your requirements you'll come to accept it, even if you don't love it as much as your old car. Some cars are more easy to get excited over than others.

 

OH is talking about changing my lovely teeny-weeny-but-very-practical car (baby merc) that I can fit in the tiniest of parking spaces, so he can go and get something sporty that he wants - leaving me with his big estate car (3 feet longer than mine!). Not on your nelly mister!

[chocchick]

Maybe the car is tainted with your bad experience with the salesman i.e. you associate the bad feelings with the new purchase.

I feel slightly queasy when I think how much I spent on my car even though it is about the right value based on a website. I don't like haggling for cars and wondering if I could have got more off.

[sparkleeeeee]

sparkleeeeee

 

If you love you c-max, what about the s-max. Isn't it the 7 seater verson of the ford people carrier?

 

yes we did have a look at one, (it was very hard to find one to view) but it doesnt have enough room for the buggy as we neeed to keep one of the seats in the back.

[ajm200]

We did look at the Honda FRV. It's a 6 seater with a boot rather than seats in the boot.

 

It does seem practical and has the option for adding a roof box for all the extra stuff that you need when you take a young family on holiday.

 

We ended up deciding on a normal estate car and will look into 5/6 seater options in a year or tow

[Guest]

I chose a Toyota Previa purely because it has the largest boot space. The older models were absolutely brilliant, with 8 seats. I now have a newer one and the boot space is a little smaller and it only has 7 seats. Toyota don't make them anymore

 

Re car salesmen, I don't have a lot of experience, but I always go knowing my own mind. You need to be strong.

 

My brother is a car salesman and has been for 20 years now. He is always the top salesman in his area. Until recently he sold more Motability cars than anyone else in the country. That is because he is not pushy, and not at all your traditional clichéd salesman. When he worked for Ford, he would frequently tell customers to buy a Rover as it would be better for them. He is so honest that customers trust him and come back every time they change their cars. He now works in Inverness (but I don't know what make he sells ) so if anyone needs a new car up there . . .

[deejmum]

We also have a Toyota previa, it has eight seats (4 years old) and loads of boot space if you organise the seats well. We love it and the sliding doors are wonderful in car parks.

 

You can get new ones from abroad but not here for some reason!

[Snowy]

We have a Grand Espace - one of the last of the old models, '52 reg. We can get all our camping gear in it, even with all the 7 seats in it still (albeit folded down), and no roof box or trailer needed! I could definitely get a huge buggy in it with the 7 seats all occupied.

 

The newer Grand Espaces have got nowhere near the same amount of space