Mel (& Paul) Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 ok rant coming on We had friends over last night for a meal and (as you would expect from me!) the conversation turned to chickens, then free range meat, and then on to doing your bit for the environment. I could quite understand when they said that with three children they could not afford free range meat (after all they do have a 4x4 and a Mercedes A Class to run........) but when I suggested that perhaps they cut down on the meat and eat more vegetables it all got a bit heated and there was a suggestion that I am a weirdo - wait for it - not becuase of that but becuase I can afford organic / free range because I dont have children Large glass of wine quickly knocked back and a desperate grinding of brain gears to see if I could change the subject before I decked them one..... And their attitude to doing more "green" things is they dont give a (well I wont use the word she used..........) So I told them I would ring their children and tell them that Paul and I cared more about them because we were doing our bit for the future - even if we were weirdos and didnt have children. More wine knocked back and Paul holding me back......... Not sure when we might get invited back over to their house.......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Oh Mel, I can just picture it They were horribly wrong to suggest that you were strange for not having children. That is a very personal decision, & they just should not have gone there at all. Shocking bad manners when you are a guest at someones home. As for not giving a **** about green issues,well too many people think like that & it does make me wonder why they are having children if they are not prepared to make the world a better place for them. Its simple responsibility & some are just too self possesed or uneducated on green issues to see that. I take it they enjoyed the organic veggie filled meal you lovingly prepared for them? Was the wine organic too? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnieP Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Mel! Who are these people??? I hate it when we get the line about being weird because we don't have children...... (image not helped by lack of TV, presence of dogs, donkeys and chooks, but hey)! People always presume its because you can't have them rather than because you have CHOSEN not to. Makes my blood boil. We have even been called selfish for this! Regarding being environmentally friendly, that attitude really does stink, and I think you showed great restraint in not hitting them! My suggestion? ermmm.... HIT THEM NEXT TIME!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 I HATE people with that kind of attitude! We have 3 children, struggle some months to make ends meet, but ALWAYS make the effort to be be more 'green', and see it as our job to educate the children to live a greener life. It's part of being a responsible parent isn't it? Feed your children the best you possibly can, while making as little negative impact on the environment as possible. I'd of punched her......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 Glad to know I am not weird (well not totally!!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Glad to know I am not weird (well not totally!!) Well, I wouldn't go that far....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 Oh Well I am not beautifull I am not academically brilliant I cant sing So I might as well be "weird chicken woman" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chicken on a mission Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Mel, you have a PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 I'm with everyone on that front, (deck her next time!) As for lifestyle choices, well they are our personal choice and what anyone else thinks about the way we eat have or bring up children, it all impacts on the planet we live on, surely it's up to all of us to do our bit, perhaps you should suggested she gets rid of the gas guzzlers and you may stop recycling karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 Mel, you have a PM Thanks Thalia - have just replied Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 I take it they enjoyed the organic veggie filled meal you lovingly prepared for them? Was the wine organic too? Not the wine - that's one thing we dont often get - although there is more choice now. But all the meat, veggies, chocolate mousse, cheese etc., was all organic or British. Next time they can have baked beans on toast. In their own house By themselves Without out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cate in NZ Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Mel, I'm with you on this one, but regardless of anything else I simply can't believe that they were so rude to you when they were your guests. People like that really, really get my goat..... and make me realise how wonderful chickens are Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 I hate people who won't even try to be just a little bit green because they can't be bothered. I'll come and help you hit them next time, Mel . As for lifestyle, don't they realise that it's a free choice? We don't all HAVE to have children, do we. It would be really nice if some of the people who had them would actually look after the poor little things though.... Rant coming...in the Nesting Box! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 oh goodie - I like a good rant - off to the nesting box Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley-Jean Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 They may have been your guests Mel, but they certainly were not your friends to behave like that at your table. Ditch'em Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 Thanks guys I have to say I was feeling more than a little down after the conversation - and cross with myself for getting so upset (and NO it wasnt because of the wine ) But being here made me realise that there are plenty of good people out there. I'm going to carry on ensuring I do as much as I can for animal welfare / child welfare / environment etc. And I WILL stick to my principals whatever - and continue to respect those who have different ideals Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chicken on a mission Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Bingo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melcotton Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 good on you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 I'll drink to that (yes, I KNOW I'll drink to ANYTHING ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 Well done Mel - great restraint shown. How old are their children? - once at school, a lot of children are being taught 'green values' - hopefully they will be nagged to death by their children at soem stage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted May 28, 2006 Author Share Posted May 28, 2006 18, 14 and 12. I dont get the impression they are terribly green - too many 4x4 cars, ready meals from the supermarkets and throw away culture Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chicken on a mission Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 18, 14 and 12. I dont get the impression they are terribly green - too many 4x4 cars, ready meals from the supermarkets and throw away culture Sounds like how this household used to be. There is hope for us all yet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lesley Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 I was hoping they might be younger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda Posted May 28, 2006 Share Posted May 28, 2006 I HATE people with that kind of attitude! We have 3 children, struggle some months to make ends meet, but ALWAYS make the effort to be be more 'green', and see it as our job to educate the children to live a greener life. It's part of being a responsible parent isn't it? Feed your children the best you possibly can, while making as little negative impact on the environment as possible. I'd of punched her......... Shona, you echo my sentiments entirely. Some people just don't care a jot, do they? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted May 29, 2006 Author Share Posted May 29, 2006 I was hoping they might be younger nah, its just their parents that act like babies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...