Tiggy Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 how are you today Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 erm, okay I suppose, had a bad day with dad. We've been given some "Dozic" to try and keep him calm. Things are just getting worse, he's hardly eating and he look so thin he just reminds me of a concentration camp victim. We think he'll have to go into a nursing home so we're all very upset at the mo. Don't know what I'd do without my hubbie, he's a total rock. Thanks for asking though, it was very sweet of you xxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted October 23, 2008 Share Posted October 23, 2008 Poet, I am so sorry, that must be such a hard decision for you. Sending you some virtual hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna_0 Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Hugs from over here too xxx -Barbara -Margot Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 thank you xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Sorry to hear your dad's not so good. Big hugs from me. Keep your chin up hunx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 thanks Lynda, it's horrible watching someone you love just fade away and seeing what it's doing to mum is so hard too. Mum and me just sat there, hugging each other and crying last night. Nothing can prepare you for this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
..lay a little egg for me Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 My heart goes out to you Poet. My mum was in a coma for a week before she died and we spent every day at her bedside, and before my sister died we had to watch her fading away and getting more and more confused. It is awful. It was after my parents died that I developed the panic attacks, so I'm sure your stressful situation is contributing to your panic attacks. Don't be too hard on yourself re the attacks, it is hardly surprising that your subconscious is feeling very vulnerable in the circumstances. Lots of ((((hugs)))) coming your way x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedusA Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Sorry you are having to make this decision, Poet. Must be awful for you and your mum. I remember all the trauma you had earlier when your dad had his surgery. I had assumed he was on the mend. Obviously I was wrong. *hugs* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plum Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Hello Poet, Sorry to hear things still bad with your dad. Feel for you. These sort of steps are really, really hard. Hugs. x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 you really are lovely people you know! xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missuscluck Posted October 24, 2008 Share Posted October 24, 2008 Justine, Caroline is right your panic attacks are bound to be worse because of all the stress you are under so dont give yourself a hard time over it all. Really am sorry things arnt going so well. Its so hard for you all. Love and hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 Justine, I've just caught up with your thread. Well done on your achievement - I'm so pleased for you that you managed it . I'm really sorry to hear about your Dad though. I, too, had thought things had perhaps settled down for you all. You know I've had the same situation with my Dad but I have to say, he's doing fine in his nursing home. The decision was taken out of our hands at the very start, though, so in some ways it was easy for us. I hope things work out OK. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fur 'n' Feathers Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 Poet, we've just heard the Radio 4 Sunday Appeal, which was by Lady Taverner (Sir John Taverner's wife) for the Marfan's Trust. We hadn't realised Sir John Taverner suffers from this syndrome. They have 2 children with Marfans also. It was a really informative appeal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 thanks Lynda and vicki. xxxxx Poet, we've just heard the Radio 4 Sunday Appeal, which was by Lady Taverner (Sir John Taverner's wife) for the Marfan's Trust. We hadn't realised Sir John Taverner suffers from this syndrome. They have 2 children with Marfans also. It was a really informative appeal. Thanks, wonder if I can find it on a 'listen again' link somewhere Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 Justine, you may well have found it by now, but in case you haven't .... http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/religion/radio4appeal.shtml I'm just off to listen to it myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 oh my word that's put the wind up me, I'm 38! However, I do have fairly regular echo cardiagrams done to detect any signs of valve problems and/or aorta problems. I dread the day they may say to me I need surgery. I'd better make a donation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 Have to admit it made me sit up too . (I was trying to remember how old you are .) Fingers crossed that the fact that you have been diagnosed and are being treated for it as best you can will keep you from needing surgery. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fur 'n' Feathers Posted October 28, 2008 Share Posted October 28, 2008 Take heart Poet - Sir John Taverner is in his 60's! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pistachio Posted October 29, 2008 Share Posted October 29, 2008 It's great that you have the chickens and are intending to go on the course. You are obviously getting good attention in terms of medication and drs advice. I would recommend getting on that waiting list for cognitive behavioural therapy while you keep looking for other help. Sure, you would hope to be better within two years but at least you are on the list and it might go quicker than you think. Although CBT is known to be excellent for anxiety related problems, the most important thing in counselling is the relationship you build up with a properly qualified therapist. If you are able I would forget about the waiting list and go to the BACP (British association of counsellors and psychotherapists) website and find a counsellor near you. I don't know your area of the country well, but it's worth looking for low cost counselling agencies. I know of these in the Gloucestershire area but I don't know what is available for you. Although CBT is often recommended for anxiety related problems you would be able to do good work with any qualified professional with either a Person Centred approach or a Psychodynamic approach or Gestalt or Humanistic or whatever they label themselves. The most important thing is that you feel comfortable with them and happy with your relationship with them - ie you can be yourself and feel accepted and not judged - and that they are qualified and know what they are doing. Good luck with this one. I've seen people get through. There is hope Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
