BeckyBoo Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 .....I also now remember why I vowed NEVER to take all three at the same time to Sainsburys, I know why I'm glad when they have school, why I still enjoy going to work, I remember why baths once they're in bed are SUCH a treat for Mums, I know why gin is called Mothers ruin and why I stick to pink wine and lemonade, I remember WHY I like 5pm so much, because I can pour a glass without feeling like a lush, I can just about remember what silence is like (although I only remember for about half an hour before my eyelids start drooping, even if it's only 9pm ) and I remember why I like this forum so much, because I drop in and out (without feeling like a drop-out ) and it helps to keep me sane. Phew. What a day. Badly behaved, hyper, bored children will be the death of me. So for my tea I will be cooking the grand masterpiece, the piece de resisitance. Chips, mushy peas and egg, with bread and butter and pink wine and lemonade. It's the only cure for a day like today. BeckyBoo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 Aawwww you sound like a wonderful mother - especially with the lovel tea! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanessa Posted February 4, 2009 Share Posted February 4, 2009 I have days like this and I only have two children - a nice ice cooled can of coke gets me through the day!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fizzle Knit Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Can I come to yours for tea - egg and chips is one of my favourites! I've had quite a few of those shouty days too - my commiserations! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickvic Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 I think we can safely say nearly all of us have had days like this! I hate taking the children shopping too - they turn into little monsters Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poachedegg Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 That's why home delivery was invented! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ana's flock Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Yes... those days sound familiar too. I only have two boys but often I remind myself of Louise (the mother in the series Malcolm in the middle, you know?). Some days I have even ended up ho"Ooops, word censored!" with all the shouting. I've beem much more relaxed since I work - and thank Goddess for Ocado delivery - shopping with the boys was getting so stressful at one point I refused to go to the shops with them. Then I stopped 'caring' if they 'got lost' in the monster-sized Tesco (I went there rather than the other shops because at least the boys were 'contained'!). Then it was the matter of things dropped in the trolley, most of which I abandoned at checkout, but still, more stress trying to supervise their 'choices'... So... you see, you're one of a large community of stressed out mums. Well done for providing the comfort food - we do that too (more out of sheer tiredness on my part than anything else). Enjoy the baths, the drink and the silence. (Forget about the latter if you also share the house with needy siamese cats or cheerful lovebirds.) Good we've got this rock of sanity eh? (((Big hug))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groovychook Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Can I come to yours for tea - egg and chips is one of my favourites! Ooh, me too please! I lurve mushy peas! Deep breaths Ms. Boo!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freddie Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Sounds like a fairly normal day in most households!!!! Dont beat yrself up; we all swear we'll never yell at our darling offspring, but by 7.30am in this house... and by 7.40, well; mine have learnt a whole set of words not to used anywhere else!!!Bus goes at 7.55 from next village, 2 1/2 miles away. Is that my excuse?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Two little things keep me from going totally insane * 4 children = Supermarket delivery service (although I will pop in with 3yr old daughter for bits n pieces) * 8.00-8.30pm 3 children ZZzzzzzz = half glass vino 4 me & chillout in front TV before bed Lou X p.s. Oh...I thought of another...if things have been a little barmy here in the morning...I make myself a fried egg sarnie when I get back from the first school run...yummmmmmmy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutrix Farmers Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Egg and chips for tea after they had behaved badly???? You spoil them!! Hope the day got better after they had gone to bed! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yorkshire Pudding Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 I'm with you lot on this one - children and supermarkets are a BAD combination. When I have to do it, I give each one a list with about 15 items on and they have to help with the shop. When all items are in the trolley, they can choose one treat each, up to a set value (a comic or something similar) but ONLY if they haven't moaned/whinged/snuck anything extra into the trolley. This works well now they're both old enough to read - before that it was much harder. A well meaning lady once stopped me in the supermarket and told me that the whining child in my trolley would stop if I gave him a lolly . I told her rather snappily that he wasn't going to get a lolly to reinforce that kind of behaviour thank you. Grrr. I didn't mean to be rude, honest, but it really got to me. I never had to put up with a full-on supermarket tantrum, thank goodness, although I saw one Mum who had a small sign in her bag and propped it next to her raging 2 year old while she carried on shopping 3 yards away - it read 'Tantrum in progress. Please pass.' Shopping with OHs, now that's a different game altogether. He sneaks FAR more into the trolley than the kids ever could! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hen Watch Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Glad it's not just me then....... Although a few years passing has made the world of difference, with youngest now 8, we don't get supermarket tantrums any more thank goodness. But I remember those days well enough. 3 children in tow, all age 4 and under, guaranteed at least one would throw a wobbly the moment you enter a supermarket and stop the moment you exit. If you shout at them, everyone stares, if you ignore the behaviour, everyone stares..... just can't win. Big hugs and enjoy your egg and chips. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Becky, it's hardly surprising with all you're dealing with at the moment . You are a great mum (and obviously a superb cook ) so don't beat yourself up about it . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhapsody Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Lord I know how you feel. After 2 warnings my 16yo son used the F-word again while I was trying to sort out a (petty) argument between him and his brother. I just completely lost it (I think my head spun right around at one point) and with fingers clenching like the Boston Strangler bellowed at him to get out of the room or he would have to be identified by Dental Records. We are all currently in different rooms! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 I never had to put up with a full-on supermarket tantrum, thank goodness, although I saw one Mum who had a small sign in her bag and propped it next to her raging 2 year old while she carried on shopping 3 yards away - it read 'Tantrum in progress. Please pass.' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen & co. Posted February 5, 2009 Share Posted February 5, 2009 Brilliant I remember carrying one of mine out by the dungaree straps once, like a hand bag kicking and screaming as we went Karen x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutrix Farmers Posted February 6, 2009 Share Posted February 6, 2009 I never had to put up with a full-on supermarket tantrum, thank goodness, although I saw one Mum who had a small sign in her bag and propped it next to her raging 2 year old while she carried on shopping 3 yards away - it read 'Tantrum in progress. Please pass.' Fabulous Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 7, 2009 Share Posted February 7, 2009 Welcome to my world.......... I have a 9 year old with Aspergers (amoung other things) who I love to bits - but everything, everyday is like this!! I can't take him anywhere without him throwing a wobbler over something. He is totally egocentric and doesn't give a toss about the world about him and other peoples needs. So my sanity is only vaguely restored once he is in bed - which in the winter is earlier than he realises - I can't get away with it so much in the summer. The difference with most children is that they will grow out of this and as they get older you can reason with them a bit more! I have visions of trying to reason with an adult who will be taller and stronger than me in a few years time. Drive me to drink? - where's the driving? Lousie PS: thanky God for chickens and my allotment ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyBoo Posted February 7, 2009 Author Share Posted February 7, 2009 Oh Louise, I do feel for you, and everyone else who has children with special needs, someone I have known since her eldest was at mother and toddler with my eldest had a diagnosis for him last year of autism with all sorts of extras, and it's such a shame because he has a brain the size of a BUS and is a gorgeous little lad, he just cannot cope and even as a toddler would stand in front of his Mum and literally just scream. She has the patience of a saint and he now has a younger sister but I frequently wonder how she does it. Anyway, I know it should make me count my blessings, and it does, we have had a lovely day today, they have behaved (just about ) all the way round Woking, AND they came with me WITHOUT a fight to walk the dog, which is worthy of a note on the calendar as I usually have to bribe, trick or drag one of them out! Hope everyone gets some good "me" time this weekend, off to throw my muckies in the bath BeckyBoo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 7, 2009 Share Posted February 7, 2009 I'm so pleased you and your children have had a lovely normal day together. I hope bathtime and bedtime go smoothly and everyone goes to bed happily. xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted February 7, 2009 Share Posted February 7, 2009 Glad you've had a better day Becky. I guess it's just the way of things with kids isn't it? Some good days, some bad days. We had a few shouts today - poor kids - everything they touched today seems to have disintegrated at their hands. I'm not in the least bit materialistic or houseproud, but there is only so much devastation I can take Never mind - a glass of red is now working it's magic! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackgold Posted February 7, 2009 Share Posted February 7, 2009 Sorry but i dont rmember those days. My kids are 29 and nearly 28. I always tried to stay consistant when they were small but i think i was lucky and they were always good friends as babies and are very close now. When I had my daughter was son was only 13 months so it was hard at the beginning but it does get easier honest. Enjoy your dinner and spoil yourself. love Sue xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
