Ain't Nobody Here Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 Sorry, I'm here to let off steam as OH and I have had a huge row . (We never ever have rows .) Bear with me . My brother was due to take YS and my nephew to the rugby at Murrayfield this evening. Nephew was to stay the night so brother & girlfriend could go out. Brother's ex-wife changed the plans (we think) so nephew was no longer coming. We found this out on Wednesday. Brother asked OH if he'd like to go instead. OH said he was taking ES cycling but as kickoff was 5pm that should be OK. Sorted. YS got back yesterday from 2 weeks away hillwalking/camping etc so v. tired. Managed to go away cycling today with OH and ES though. Arrived back with little time to spare to get to the match. YS (not keen to go anyway) fell asleep. OH started ranting about how he hadn't wanted to go anyway and he wasn't going to force YS. Kept saying "what are we going to do about it?" I said "make a decision either way". He wouldn't and kept blaming me for organising it . Refused to phone my brother and explain. That was my job apparently. Even swore at me (never done that before ). I eventually persuaded a very sleepy YS to go so I dropped them off 10 minutes late. Tried to arrange when to pick them up but OH was sulking and said they'd get the bus (not an easy journey ). So how is it my fault when he was asked on Wed if he wanted to go? He said OK. He did grumble about it a bit but never once said to phone and say he'd changed his mind. The tickets cost £60 each but we're hoping brother got them free/cheap through his club . He was going to pay for YS's ticket but don't know about the extra one. *breathes out* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 *Huh* Happy Families eh? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 good grief (((hugs))) thought I'd get some hugs to you it sounds like you need them. sounds like OH felt a bit trapped and didnt know how to get out of it and as usual, the closest one kopps it cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackiepoppies Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 (edited) Oh ANH....sending you huge hugs If that's the only row you've had in xxxxxx number of years together, it must have come as a big shock to the system You have been soooo lucky I know all about the closest coppin' the blame all the time Jx Edit to say weh, hey my 1200th post Edited May 23, 2009 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted May 23, 2009 Author Share Posted May 23, 2009 ES came downstairs just now and said that he thinks it's his dad's fault . Pity I couldn't have got him onside during the argument . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 He's probably tired after cycling aswell, so couldn't be bothered. I don't think you are in the wrong ANH. He'll probably really enjoy himself and all will be fine when he get home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jlo Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 No - not your fault. I am sure that he will realise that he was acting a bit OTT and will apologise when he gets home! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 Oh dear - he has the Meldrew moments as well. Sounds like my OH sometimes. Join my club ANH! Thing is he will probably forget all about it while you stew. Hope it all ends up OK and I think you need a hug too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkysmum Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 Oh dear, sounds as if everyone's tired & stressed. Hope it was a good match (don't follow rugby, don't know who was playing and that everyone's happy now Ax Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chick wiggle Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 Sounds like bath with wine and chocolates moment to me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted May 23, 2009 Author Share Posted May 23, 2009 I got a phone call saying a lift home would be good. We got fish & chips on the way home and then watched some TV. Not sure if he's still sulking (hard to tell sometimes, he's the silent type!) but he's hardly said 2 words to me all evening. I'm behaving just as normal and haven't mentioned it apart from asking how the match went. I'll just sit it out . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkysmum Posted May 23, 2009 Share Posted May 23, 2009 Hope the fish'n'chips were good & that it's all sorted by now. I'd probably hold out for a bottle of red Ax Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dancing cloud Posted May 24, 2009 Share Posted May 24, 2009 Hope it's all better by now . It so clearly wasn't your fault, but then we're not always logical when cross. Did the fish 'n' chip therapy work? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted May 24, 2009 Author Share Posted May 24, 2009 I've married into a family of ostriches so "things" don't get mentioned. Bit difficult to talk with your head in the sand, I suppose . He's not mentioned it at all but is talking to me as much as he usually does (which isn't a lot - may explain why we don't have arguments ). Why do you think I spend so long on here . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted May 24, 2009 Share Posted May 24, 2009 Typical - he is probably too ashamed of himself to say sorry - I think you did the best thing by acting normally so he could see what a twit he was being. Never mind, at least it sounds as though all is well now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
