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[poachedegg]

My older brother is 45 and would probably have been diagnosed with slight learning difficulties if those kind of diagnoses had been around - however he lives on his own, holds down a warehouse job and drives a car.......

 

Unfortunately our dog had to be put to sleep on Friday and was very upsetting to us. As I give my brother eggs, I invited him round to collect the eggs and for a sandwich this lunch time - he walked into the kitchen, where Ruby would usually be in her bed next to the radiator and said " so you're dogless now then?" He didn't mention her name or her passing again!!

 

.....I JUST WANT TO SHOUT AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGGGH

 

Thanks

x

[chick wiggle]

Oh dear, I am sorry, men, brothers and just people in general can be so insensitive sometimes. It does make you want to fume. Im so sorry you lost your dog I know only too well how devastating this can be. We had to have our beloved dog PTS last year and still I miss her and every now and again, if theres a funny little noise in the house, for a split second I think its her.

It takes time and lots of tears but eventually you will remember her with love and happy memories.

 

Lots of hugs

X

[Alis girls]

I am not a patient person and would have retorted " carry on like this mate and you'll be sisterless" Honestly - you must just ignore him, you have support on here. MEN

[Joojoo]

I'm so sorry that you've lost Ruby you must be so very upset at the moment. I know when I've lost one of my cats in the past, that it leaves such a big big hole in your heart when they've gone

 

With regards to your brothers comments, I seriously wonder about people sometimes. You wouldn't believe the remarks mine has made in the last 5 weeks. The latest was "at least Ashley got to see your new car". I won't tell you what I wanted to say in reply. That was quite a "nice" one for him. One of them was so very very very insensitive, and upset/hurt me beyond belief I know he is trying to make me feel/see something positive because of everything that has happened, in his own way, but it really does not help. This is all from a very intelligent man who is very caring and would do anything for anyone. I'm sure if he realised how upset and hurt they have made me feel he would be horrified but how on earth do you point that out to someone? I'm sure your brother didn't mean it in the way it came out. As you say you think he may also have learning difficulties which must contribute in some way. Unfortunately, I also think men in particular, find it difficult to verbalise something and can end up saying the wrong thing then.

 

Try not to let it get to you. I know it's easier said than done, from my own experiences. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, some people just don't think before they open their mouths.

 

RIP little Ruby xxxx

[Happy-Mama]

sorry to hear of your loss

[poachedegg]

Thanks guys!

 

I know he probably didn't mean it, but even for him it was a little Sometimes I just need to vocalise things to get them out of my head and I find you lot a willing and helpful ear!

 

Joojoo it's lovely to see you back on here and feel humbled that you'd replied about your experiences that you had with inappropriate comments about Ash and that our loss is nothing compared to yours.

[Joojoo]

Thanks guys!

 

I know he probably didn't mean it, but even for him it was a little Sometimes I just need to vocalise things to get them out of my head and I find you lot a willing and helpful ear!

 

Joojoo it's lovely to see you back on here and feel humbled that you'd replied about your experiences that you had with inappropriate comments about Ash and that our loss is nothing compared to yours.

 

Thank you hunni. I've felt a little more able to pop up in conversations the last couple of days

 

I know what you mean about it being incomparable with what's happened happened here but she is still a big loss to you and she was a big part of your family. So you're still grieving for her and it will take you time to get through that.

 

xx

[Cinnamon]

Men

 

My brother had my mums ashes interred last year,asked my sister & Dad to go along,but didn't tell me or my step father.

He also regularly has family get togethers which I never am told about.......I just see the photos on Facebook.

 

I would be angrier, if I didn't think he was such a sad case

[Beauty-Box]

Sorry about your little dog. I'm sure some people's mouths are too ahead of their brain. It was, however very insensitive of him. Losing a pet is very difficult, because they are part of your family. I'm also saddened to see Joojoo has had the same sort of insensitive behaviour. My mum and dad had a baby boy, who sadly died at a few hours old. Someone actually told them it wasn't too bad because they had two more children at home and they didn't really know him because he was only a baby!

[Space Chick]

My mum and dad had a baby boy, who sadly died at a few hours old. Someone actually told them it wasn't too bad because they had two more children at home and they didn't really know him because he was only a baby!

 

That happened twice to my parents, I had a sister that died at 8 weeks (when I was 3), then they had another daughter, my fab sister who is 31 now, and then a little boy that died during childbirth. For my sister and my brother comments were made to my parents about how at least they had me and then me and my sister so it wasn't that bad

 

I also have a friend that engages her mouth before thinking. We really fell out when Martha died, as she was all "well its just a chicken" and "did you eat it" and I was at pains to point out she was not an "it" she was a "she" and very very much a loved pet and that I was far more sensitive and caring when her dog died

 

Some people

 

BTW - Great to see you JooJoo

[Valkyrie]

Brothers are pretty low on my ratings after recent activities with my mum! Don't mention computers.

Sorry to hear about Ruby though.