fairy&cake Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Awwww i know how you feel. Things just get so much more complicated as your get older, dont they? Its rubbish! Im rubbish at advice, as i am also in a bit of a 'black hole' at the moment. All i can suggest is trying to get out in the sunshine if you can. And listening to some up lifting music when you feel like it . [this really helps me, sorry if i sound Arty-Farty ] I found out last week my Grandpapa has Prostrate and Bone cancer , aswell as his wife, my nan being termal ill , trying to get my head round that, looking after seth, no bathroom for 11 months , starting the business, and then i found out twoi nights ago, that Ross' dad has been told he might have throat cancer. Sometimes, youj feel like you cant go on, and its just so tough! [i dread think what life will be like sometimes when im 30 or 40, things seem to be complicated enough LOL] Its so hard to give advice, but the only thing that gets me through the hard times is The Cure, always puts a smile on my face. i hope that things get better, i really do. Its just so horrible when your down like this, it reminds me actually of when Nick my boyfriend died suddenly [heart attack in his sleep] i was only 17 1/2 and it really was awful. I found out on the Tuesday and had to sit my final A-Level exams the following 3 days. [i filled the papers with writing all about how much i missed him and was hurting, ] Luckily i was able to resit them and passed them all. Things will work out, and this will be a distant memory, right now it feels like minutes are hours, hours are days, and days are months. You WILL get through this tough time.... My thoughts are with you, xxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Sending you good wishes and virtual hugs. I have found this forum to be a great place to let off steam and a good distraction from daily life. On here there is usually a tale that puts life into perspective or makes you laugh or just acts as a pleasant diversion. Hope things look up soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little chickadee Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Just noticed this thread and am sending virtual hugs too. I know exactly what you mean about this place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Just want to add my best wishes too and a ((((hug))) Just to echo everyone one else that you will get through it and things will get better My dad died a little while ago and there have been problems with his estate, he had an ex wife and a home in Spain, but had in his last few years got back together with my mum. I have a very money orientated younger sister, so I will just leave things to her I won't post my good news on this thread as I don't want to hijack it, but I am very pleased today Take care of yourself and there is a light at the end of the tunnel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenlass Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Just want to add my good wishes for better times ahead. I think this forum is such a tonic and a nice place to get things off your chest. Even if friends and family are not able, for what ever reason, to lend a shoulder to cry on, or an ear to listen to you with, someone is always on here with a kind word or a funny story about the chickens and others things in their life to make you feel a little better and bring a smile to your face. Take each day as it comes over the next week or so and don't forget to be kind to yourself too as you have just lost a Mum [even if you weren't that close] just the same as your sister Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baby bears mum Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 I just wanted to add a hug and warm wishes for you. I think we learn to live with the things that happen to us rather than 'get over' them but we do get there eventually. One day at a time is all you can do. I also think we learn from our parents mistakes and hopefully our children learn from ours (and I make plenty so Eleanor is probably going to be perfect!!!!) and I would like to bet you are really close to your children. If you are feeling really down the best thing you can do is exercise (not in the gym all that lycra makes me feel worse! mind you if you saw me in it at least you'd get a laugh) - just go for a walk, maybe take your sister with you and if you walk quite quickly you won't be able to chat too much but at least you'll be together. I hope you feel better soon. You don't need to stop the World just slow it down a bit. Love Helen xxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted February 26, 2008 Author Share Posted February 26, 2008 Thank you everyone who has posted a reply to my initial ramble. I think I was having a bit of a down day yesterday, things don't seem so blue today. I know that I'll come out of this and be a stronger person, so much has happened to me already that I truly believe that everything, good and bad, happens for a reason and although I may not understand the reason at the time, it does eventually become clearer. My sister and I are ok, I think she's just waiting for the solicitor to produce a value of mum's estate then she'll think about what to do. At the end of the day she's my sister and I refuse to let Mum come between us as she tried to do when she was alive. Nothin I can do about Hubby's work except support him and find out when I can book myself and the kids in at Centre Parcs. I'm also considering taking them to Italy for a fortnight. My Italian isn't great but I'm sure I can manage. It might even do my self esteem some good as well! Anyway, thanks again, you guys are great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chelsea Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 just caught up with this thread. Glad you are feeling much more positive today, we all have our down days dont we? Sending you hugs and wishes. Everyone else has said what I wanted to say already , chin up, keep smiling and you will get through this. I totally agree with you about this forum, everyone on here is just great - all chicken owners are the loveliest people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theherd123 Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Just caught up too Everyone is entitled to down days - sometimes its just so hard to think positively isnt it? But at least you are feeling more upbeat today. Hugs and good vibes on their way to you xox Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlottechicken Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 I am so sorry to hear about the rough time you are having at present and just wanted to add my sympathies and hugs to everyone elses. I am sure that things will pick up for you soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clucky1 Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 You poor thing - BBBBBiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiGGGGgggggggggggg HUGS sending now. (I have just looked for a hug emoticon and there isn't one) - The idea of centerparks sounds good - all that fresh air and not having to cook. Keeping posting threads. I am a newbie to all this - but it definitly helps with all the "Ooops, word censored!" which life seems to throw at us all. Keep smiling Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goosey Lucy Posted March 16, 2008 Author Share Posted March 16, 2008 Thank you for all your kind words. I've been lurking again and occasionally posting. Life is still hectic. To bring my post up to date: Sis is still struggling but I'm trying to keep in touch. ES's eczema is vastly improved. It took 2 courses of anitbiotics and gallons of emollient cream and an antiseptic/antbacterial handwash (Hibiscrub) but hopefully we've turned the corner. Part-time job is going well. I have also had an interview for another job, based within the local Primary school and have been offered that after a rigorous interview. It's mostly what I've been doing voluntarily since before Christmas but it's good to be recognised (and paid). Less forum time tho Holiday is still not happening but we're planning on moving the US flights to December and going skiing instead. The boys are now having regular skiing lessons and loving it. OH is busy beyond belief but still doesn't mind if the house is untidy, dusty and in need of an attack by an army of vacuum-wielding cleaners. I took my 3 girls and eglu into Nursery last week for the day, it was fab to see their faces (and those of the other 400 children, peering over the fence from time to time.) I am now known as the chicken lady Yes some days are still hard but as I always knew, what doesn't killl us makes us stronger. I'll be entering Britain's Strongest Woman competition this year along with several other fellow omleteers I think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted March 16, 2008 Share Posted March 16, 2008 Very happy to hear that most things are looking up . Good news about the ezcema and the job and the OH (who sounds great ) and the school chicken visit . Shame about the holiday but at least you've got the skiing to look forward to. Hope things improve with your sister - good for you that you're making an effort. I hope she is too . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chelsea Posted March 16, 2008 Share Posted March 16, 2008 Nice to hear from you Lucy. Happy for you that things are a little easier. Take care xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted March 16, 2008 Share Posted March 16, 2008 Good to hear from you. Al the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
little chickadee Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 Hi - glad to hear you're feeling a bit more on top of things and that you've got the job at the primary school . Good luck for the future Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 Glad things are looking up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keanie Bean Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 Hello, I havent been here long, but just wanted to add my warmest wishes to you. I'm glad you seem to be having a better time of things now. When my dad died in 2000 at the age of 48 it was a real blow. I was very inhibited for a year and only spoke to my closest family in that time. The only thing I can say is just keep breathing one breath after the other, then one day while you not looking it will jst be a little easier to breathe. Time really is the greatest healer, you never ever forget the pain but it gives you the ability to get on with other things. Eventually you will enjoy it all again. Sarah.x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
