freespiritbutterfly Posted January 5, 2010 Share Posted January 5, 2010 Ok sorry for separate post but haven't figure out how to update the last post so apologies for that first. Ok Well me and "the guy" are unfortunatly no more . We are still friends well i think we are I mean today he pinned me to the floor (jokingly) and covered me with snow and he kept throwing snowballs at me. Anyway what happend i hear you asking lol wel, things were going good.I found out he liked me for over a year before he asked me out. I met his closest mates and he took me rock climbing which is his main thing he does. We shared the same ideas i.e travelling to same places etc etc. But like to me it didn't feel like I was his girlfriend and I never classed myself as his gf till his sister introduced me as his gf when we went out to her friends firework party. Anywho the thing that sort of finished it was on the 21st of Dec 09 i txt him asking him if he wanted to see me (I had said the previous week I probably wouldn't be able to see him because I would be working late at work etc) as I was finishing work on time so if he wasn't busy did he want to see me. That was the txt I sent him. He then came into the shop showing me and my boss what he had got up to out the back (we had had snow). He showed us a video of him doing doughnuts on his motobike. I asked him if he was gonna txt me back because he still hadn't done that. So when he got back to his shop I got a txt saying "don't know, my legs are sort of dead from the weekend" which I thought was just an excuse (what do you think) as he had just shown me what he had been up to?? So I txt him back saying anyone would think you didn't want to see me. And that was the last of it till the following day. I simply just txt him saying "I think we need to talk.Don't worry won't take long. So when your not busy can you pencil me in lol". The following night we met up (the worst night to ever because it started to snow really heavy around 6pm and we didnt finish work till half 7pm and I had never drivin in snow before and no road was gritted GRRR)We had quite a friendly convo going before i got down to bussiness and asked him if I was his friend of Gf. He said why I ask that. So I told him that I just didnt feel like I was his gf. He said he didn't know what he wanted he was just happy having fun cos he's 21.Which I get but what made me giggle was that he said he had seen that all his closest mates had changed since having their Gf's and he didnt want to change. Which I told him I wasn't looking for serious but ok whatever. So yeah basically we've split. But I had to lie to my mom before we actually aplit because she kept going on and on so I told her I'd actually split with him in Nov 09. Everyone else knew I was with him still even my nan. I know I shouldn't of lied to her and I know all you moms on here aren't gonna be happy with me but but but she split up me and my ex so I was determind she wasn't going to do it again and when she started going on again I knew I had to do something. Sorry for such a long post and sorry for not doing it sooner, but you are all updated to the very present now :)Oh and sorry for any spelling mistakes too. Emma x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted January 5, 2010 Share Posted January 5, 2010 Oh..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted January 5, 2010 Share Posted January 5, 2010 Never mind Emma, your Mr Right will be out there in time Thanks for the update though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clur Posted January 5, 2010 Share Posted January 5, 2010 Give it a few weeks and it'll be back on Snow fights is like pulling pigtails in the schoolyard isn't it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted January 5, 2010 Share Posted January 5, 2010 Hi Emma. At least you can still be friends - he obviously still likes you otherwise he wouldn't be messing around with you in the snow. Just enjoy the friendship, see any potential Mr Rights and see what comes from there. You are both very young - have fun. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigmommasally Posted January 5, 2010 Share Posted January 5, 2010 Oh No Boys can be so stupid at times! But you have your brilliant holiday to NZ to look forward to and maybe when you come back all worldly wise he will have come to his senses and be begging you to go back out with him - of course by then you may well not want him back as a BF. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seagazer Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 Oh what a shame but you could keep him as a friend and you never know what might happen in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 boys can be rather silly cometimes - snow brings out the child in most people it seems that he has "lost" quite a few friends to "girlfriends" and is on the recieving end - so doesnt see the "commitment" part of it - or the fun you can have in a relationship if he actually spoke to his friends he would probably be rather jealous of them the right boy/man is out there for you (I was 26 when I met kev) dont worry, enjoy life cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 sorry to hear this, I agree with the others and would add he does seem a rather young 21 so give him chance to find out whatever he wants to and who knows what will happen in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freespiritbutterfly Posted January 12, 2010 Author Share Posted January 12, 2010 My boss now thinks he still likes me and because he has played me up with the snow she thinks he was flirting? From first thing this morning my boss kept quizzing me about "him"asking if i still like him etc anyway, ive still got his number and because i was stupidly cold; i rang him and asked for a lift home. Aided and abetted by my boss because she went round to his shop earlier today and talked him into helping her bring our rather large bin down the ally. (I had tried when he drove up the drive and just laughed his head off at me cos i was just slipping over and not moving the bin, he then started throwing snow at me again)She got talking to him and asked him what happend betweetn us and he said it was because i was travelling. To which my boss replied " 10 days in Nz thats all" and she told him that i did still have a thing for him to which apprently he went red, then my boss changed subject. Whats everyone thinking on this?? I'm a little confuzed. God and they say females are complecated lol tut!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted January 12, 2010 Share Posted January 12, 2010 sounds like he is interested to me (are you interested?? ) it also sounds like he wanted to give you "free reign" in NZ - incase you met anyone else whilst out there but, its down to you! - if you want to go for it, then do, if you want to "treat him mean - keep him keen" then go for that also cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scramble Posted January 12, 2010 Share Posted January 12, 2010 I think he likes you but he's quite shy and maybe that's just why he can only express his feelings through snow Basically , I would just see how things play out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted January 12, 2010 Share Posted January 12, 2010 Well this is an intriguing turn of events. I'd go with the flow and see what happens Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenNutter Posted January 12, 2010 Share Posted January 12, 2010 Well my DS who is 16 split up with his (first serious)girlfriend a month or so ago, and after wailing and gnashing of teeth, they carried on being 'just friends' in exactly the same way you describe. Personally i couldn't see any difference between that and when they were 'going out', so when they announced 6 weeks later that they were going out again, i told them that we all knew, and that they were obviously the last to know! He'll be back! He has probably just had some mickey taking from his mates about wedding bells. Just go with the flow and see what happens! shame you split up before Xmas, i would love to know what he would have bought you for a Xmas pressy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fluffyknickers Posted January 12, 2010 Share Posted January 12, 2010 Personally I don't think he knows what he wants. Play it cool and he will come running and then the ball will be in your court to decide what you want. Michelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted January 13, 2010 Share Posted January 13, 2010 Just continue to be friends - that's how my OH and I started. We're still friends (apart from the odd gnashing of teeth ). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A chickychickychick-ENN!! Posted January 13, 2010 Share Posted January 13, 2010 Boys sometimes get freaked by events like xmas and valentines. The whole 'what to buy' thing makes them worry- is this gift too friend, is that gift too girlfriend? It tends to be because they're not entirely sure of where they want to be in terms of a relationship, even if they really like the person. Give it time, stay friends, see what happens. He sounds shy and maybe a bit immature. Keep it friendly and see if it's what you both want later. There may be someone else out there who won't muck you around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C&T Posted January 13, 2010 Share Posted January 13, 2010 My OH used to "dump" girlfriends before Christmas, to save the whole pressie thing - whether he liked them or not I only found this out recently - silly so and so!! He has got better now!! Go with the flow! Sounds like he still likes you.... Perhaps he thought you were going travelling for months rather than a a couple of weeks, so didn't want to take it any further for the moment? Men can be funny things!! (But I am sure a few men on here would say the same about us too!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
