iar fach goch Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Yet again, have been quiet for a while, life is just soooo busy, and have had a health scare, which thankfully turned out alright, but it has been a stressful couple of months. I got the all clear last week and this week won 4 tickets to go and see Bon Jovi tonight! It's my birthday this weekend as well, so I feel as if things are now looking up after a tough year. Hooray! As I have four tickets, the obvious choice was my twin sister and her partner, as she is also obviously celebrating her birthday this weekend and is a huge fan. Yes, they would love to come, but no word of thanks, and I foolishly thought that they would drive as I had provided them with the free tickets. Was I wrong to assume that they would be happy to do this? I spoke to her late last night after getting in from a course and she is expecting us to drive. My OH who is normally quite laid back, has now said that if they're not willing to drive, then he's not willing to give them the tickets, as he is sick and tired of their greedy, selfish attitude. I hate confrontations and don't want all this to ruin what should be a special weekend! We're due to leave at two and I have no idea what's happening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patsylabrador Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Tell them all that you are going to go & have an amazing time, & tell everyone else your conditions, which are mainly everyone has an amazing time too. Deal with any issues another time. Things balance out eventually, I guess that's karma. Most importantly you twins enjoy your day together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leicester_H Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Hi Unless you discussed/mentioned who would drive, if I was in her position, I might have thought the invite was 'please join us at this concert...' and I probably would have assumed that you'd arranged everything. In hindsight (a great thing!) perhaps 'I'll supply the tickets if you drive' should have been the offer ?? Whats done is done - don't let it spoil your night out. H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yvonne Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 I'm with you on this, I live in a rural area and nights out always involve driving and I've been amazed how some people are quite happy to let someone else arrange a lovely night out and not think to offer to drive in return. I'm afraid I don't have any good advice to offer as I have actually stopped seeing a couple of neighbours because of this, is there anyone you both know who could subtly mention that you were really hoping they would drive ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Henchanted Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 I agree that with hindsight you would have been better stating the terms (ie as you got the tickets will they drive you), when you made the offer. But I absolutely understand your frustration as you would have liked your sister to offer to drive without you having to ask, (my OH is a twin and over the years he has been very generous to his brother, who btw couldn't even be bothered to come to our wedding - families-hey?) If it is really bothering you and your DH, and you can't bring this up calmly with your sister then perhaps consider inventing a fault with your car as an excuse, or think of some reason you and your husband can't drive and ask them how they will get to the concert now, and can they pick you up instead ? Best wishes for your birthday Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowberry Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 I hope all is sorted now & you have a great time at the concert & great birthdays! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leicester_H Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 How was it ?? H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iar fach goch Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Well.......as both I and sister's lovely OH were at home I gave him a call and he offered to drive if need be, as after all they wouldn't be going at all if it wasn't for me! He said she was the one who said we should drive, much as I love her she has always been the bossy/strong one and I have always been the quiet twin, or the mug/doormat as I have also been called. I just don't like arguments! So, we made it to Manchester, picked up our winning tickets and went to the concert, which was AMAZING!!!!! It rained all night, everyone got soaked to the skin, including the gorgeous Jon, but we all had a FAB time! And she said THANKYOU! But I have learned a lesson NEVER to assume anything and ALWAYS sort things out with sister's OH rather than her! Will post photos later if I remember how! Am listening to their show live from Hyde Park at the moment! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leicester_H Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Glad it all worked out well in the end. H Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
