scarlettohara Posted July 10, 2011 Author Share Posted July 10, 2011 Will do, I have noted that I need Form H too. An adjournment would be good as could have new solicitor in place hopefully and not have to do everything in a rush plus I haven't had his questionnaire so could use that as a reason. Bet he would object though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beach chick Posted July 12, 2011 Share Posted July 12, 2011 it sounds like a complete nightmare, but also as if you are getting on top of it. hope the new solicitor comes up with the goods - and I agree ex should release cash to pay for essential maintenance to your home. will your mum go with you on the day? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted July 12, 2011 Author Share Posted July 12, 2011 it sounds like a complete nightmare, but also as if you are getting on top of it. hope the new solicitor comes up with the goods - and I agree ex should release cash to pay for essential maintenance to your home.will your mum go with you on the day? I'd rather take my dog My mum is fairly mad You aren't actually allowed to take relatives, haven't checked about pets though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 Take a chicken, that should sway the judge in your favour. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted July 13, 2011 Share Posted July 13, 2011 Actually taking your mum might help - judge would think poor lass - nasty ex and mad mum this girl has a lot to put up with - seriously good luck - will keep everything crossed for you hugs Ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted July 13, 2011 Author Share Posted July 13, 2011 The good news is I have an appointment to see new solicitor tomorrow for £80 for as long as I like - so I'd thought I'd move in with him, he is young (well younger than me) and has long hair and likes surfing. Can't go wrong really Seriously though will ask him to try and get an adjournment so I can regroup and take his advice. Oh and I thought I would take Squeak and her 4 sabelpoot chicks into court Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted July 14, 2011 Share Posted July 14, 2011 Sara still think mad mum might swing it for you esp if the judge is sympathetic. A couple of appealing chucks and a doe eyed doggy might too. I remember a pick of Fi Fi? - have I got the right name - a stunner if I remember rightly. Anyway joking aside good luck Ali x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted July 15, 2011 Author Share Posted July 15, 2011 (edited) Got an adjournment to I'm going to forget about it for 2 weeks now and enjoy my day at Tasha's tomorrow Thank you for all your kind words, encouragement and help Edited July 26, 2011 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 10 days ago I made an appointment to see a legal aid solicitor in St Albans on 1st Aug. Today at 4.30 pm I received a phone call to see they would be cancelling the appointment as there is a conflict of interest involving my ex. As far as I am aware he has never used a solicitor in St Albans - recently or when we were married. To say I am angry is an understatement I think it would have been more professional to let me know when I orginally made the appointment, as they asked his name then not at this late stage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluekarin Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Oh my word, how incredibly frustrating for you. I'd be flaming too. Maybe someone at the practise knows your husband, rather than him having used them before? They should have said earlier though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowberry Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Mmm, they may have moved practices recently from his solicitors... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 I think someone has told him which solicitors I was going to use and somehow he has influenced them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Space Chick Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 I can't say what I want to say on a family forum Sara Everything I have heard about your ex makes me seethe with anger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 I've just changed all my passwords for about the 5th time as my fb account and hotmail have been hacked into before, don't see any other way he could have found out - I didn't even tell the boys who I was seeing as didn't want to put them in an awkward position - not that they speak to him anyway. Debs - you and be both, I'm going to bed early and taking a sleeping tablet otherwise I'll go mad thinking about it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WitchHazel Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 That's really frustrating Ask them what the conflict of interest is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Olly Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 I'm sorry that this has happened, but It is very unlikely that there's anything sinister in this. It's quite possible that someone at the new firm has worked elsewhere and come across your husband. It's not likely that he could have 'influenced' them, how on earth would he be able to do that? Solicitors don't turn down clients lightly, but you'd have been even more upset if you'd been to see the firm and then discovered that someone working there had some knowledge of him/his affairs. There are a few Legal Aid solicitors in the St Albans area, why not ring the firm you were going to see, and ask them if they can suggest someone else? I can understand that you're upset, but don't let this put you off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tweety Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Wise words from Olly. I really wouldn't read anything into the latest development, there will be a good reason why the solicitors can't act for you and it is better to find out now rather than later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alis girls Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Oh Sara so sorry - big hug - I think the above advice is good. Someone there may have come across your ex. Hope you get it sorted. easy to feel victimised esp as you've been thro so much. Love Ali - chin up girl xxxxxxxxxxxxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted July 26, 2011 Author Share Posted July 26, 2011 (edited) I've had a good nights sleep and feel a lot better. I only mentioned the influencing part because my neighbour's daughter found that her ex had been to every legal aid practice in St Albans and surrounding areas to that she couldn't then use them Thanks again for good advice and encouragement Edited July 26, 2011 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Just wondering ... is there the slightest possibility that he could be reading this thread and spiking your guns? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlettohara Posted July 26, 2011 Author Share Posted July 26, 2011 Just wondering ... is there the slightest possibility that he could be reading this thread and spiking your guns? Yes which is why I changed all my passwords again, I won't be putting any specific details on here anymore. The solicitor above is already acting for me so now known to him/his solicitor. I don't think he can get into my laptop as it is new and there is no connection to his, but I found out after he left that he and some others had hacked into a friends account so I will be very careful what I say from now on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperwife Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 oh my word not a nice person this is he ((((hugs)))) cathy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Just wondering ... is there the slightest possibility that he could be reading this thread and spiking your guns? Yes which is why I changed all my passwords again, I won't be putting any specific details on here anymore. The solicitor above is already acting for me so now known to him/his solicitor. I don't think he can get into my laptop as it is new and there is no connection to his, but I found out after he left that he and some others had hacked into a friends account so I will be very careful what I say from now on Cripes. Did your friends inform the police? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 He doesn't need your passwords..........he can come on here as a guest......he knows your username & avatar, sorry hunny he doesn't need to be a computer genius to follow your threads As far as I know, from my experience, if you decided to change your name etc though, it will change on these threads too, so he'll still be able to follow you...... big {{hugs}} hunny, Sha x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 He doesn't need your passwords..........he can come on here as a guest......he knows your username & avatar, sorry hunny he doesn't need to be a computer genius to follow your threads Good point Sha! He may even have joined the forum. It might be best to just let particular friends know specific info and updates by pm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
