Lewis Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 Hope it all goes well for Ellie tomorrow, Laurie. Wonder if we can arrange for them to get the same train into New St for The Fed this year so no chasing round? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 YS didn't get picked for the Uni football team . There may be another trial on the 26th so maybe someone will actually watch him play that time . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pearls007 Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 I have had a text from ES - apparently I am a failure as a mother because I didn't pack an egg whisk. Now - should I pleased that he knows what a whisk is and knows how to use it - or bemused that he didn't just use a fork.........or just be happy that he is prepared to send me tongue in cheek texts! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 I'd go for the first option . I'm wondering if my YS knows what an egg is . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laurmurf Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 Hope it all goes well for Ellie tomorrow, Laurie. Wonder if we can arrange for them to get the same train into New St for The Fed this year so no chasing round? Funnily enough I have booked a 'spare' room in Stafford for any wandering students. I'm not collecting this year tho! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Dilemma . YS is home for the w/e for a hill race. I asked how he's managing with food etc and he says the kitchen is disgusting and the sink is always full of dirty dishes so he doesn't want to cook anything. He can't cook anyway and seems to be existing on cereal and soup and bananas. Another hall, where a friend from school and other people he's made friends with since arriving live, has a newly vacant room. It costs quite a bit more per week but has a private shower room and a kitchen twice the size of his, for far fewer people. He says he's not bothered either way (I think he's conscious it costs a lot more). So, do we move him so he's with the people he's made friends with or leave him where he is. It could be quite awkward moving out although it seems there's only a couple of them he's really made friends with, the others keep to themselves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chucky Mama Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Would he cook if the kitchen was better If he would and you/he can afford it I would shift him. If he is not going to use the better facilities and isn't bothered I would leave him where he is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 I agree. If he will be happier & will cook & you can manage,then move him. If he won't make use of the facilities,then don't bother. Personally,if it were my daughter,I would move her,but then again,I know she would cook. He may end up spending loads on take aways & fast food if he hasn't the kitchen space to cook in too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 He may end up spending loads on take aways & fast food if he hasn't the kitchen space to cook in too This is a very valid point, you may save the money on the room, but what are the hidden costs, I think that I would move him too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadietoo Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I'd encourage him to move too... especially as he already has friends in the new halls. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I'm quite keen for him to move, tbh, but I'll have to leave it to him to decide where he'd rather live! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lewis Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 Dropped my brother off at Nottingham yesterday afternoon and I'm going back to Aber in a min! Had ma hair cut, just finished packing, need to grab Sherlock the rabbit (and maybe the fish) and go! Roads and the weather are looking horrible Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 Best of luck for the new term and drive safely. All of ED's friends have now gone and she goes on Saturday, we have a 15 minute drop off slot for taking the car in, should be interesting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 Sorry, non uni mum with all this to come, loitering in trepidation ....15 min slot...how the heck does that work? I can't get a full shop unpacked at home in 15 mins sometimes, and I know where I'm taking everything I've had "empty nest syndrome" for a year, and half empty for 4 years as mine are at boarding school which has been very hard at times, at least I see them at weekends, tho' DS has announced he needs to stay in some weekends now as he has so much work in Yr11 , responsible boy ......I'm sure Uni in 2 years will send me off into a whole new place mentally Good luck all our students.... take care, don't overindulge (too much!) & try to remember you are expected to work some of the time And mummies.....(((((((((hugs)))))))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadietoo Posted September 24, 2012 Share Posted September 24, 2012 And mummies.....(((((((((hugs)))))))))) Oooh thanks really feel like I need that right now ! xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Pop in hun.....coffee machine takes seconds to heat up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laurmurf Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 On the road now taking hellymisscloud (YD) off to Lufbra. Bereft. So much worse then that first drop off at childminder; she'll never truly come home again. She's all growed up. Can I have a 'do over'? I want to wind back the clock 15 years and have another (better) go at this mummy business. I dont feel I got it quite right or enjoyed it as much as I should have at the time... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Know how you feel Laurie .....she'll be fine.....and take strength from the fact you have happy, healthy, confident children who you have prepared to spread their wings & take the next move Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaP Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 Firstly, good luck and best wishes to all those who have just started Uni and those returning and big hugs to everyone missing them I've not been on here much over the school holiday period but now that I've started to catch up I was so glad to see this thread and realise that I'm not the only one who has found them leaving difficult My DD left last Monday and I thought I'd be fine as this is the start of her 2nd year - thought I'd done all the blubbing last year when she left for the first time but boy was I wrong Feeling much better about it now but I was totally taken by surprise by how emotional I got Lisa P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I am worried about saying goodbye to mine over and over again, because it seems that it gets no easier year on year. I will have at least one of mine to say goodbye to every year for the next 8 years I was a bit shocked when I worked this out, i only have 3 children. It is ED's 19th birthday tomorrow and it will just be the two of us until 4pm, I am looking forward to having a day alone with her before she goes on Saturday. I think with the 15 minutes slot she has to register and be given her room number, we then have to throw everything out of the car at the side of the road and find somewhere else to park, before we help her in with everything. I am not looking forward to that bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 The admin team must be amazingly efficient is all I can say Enjoy your day tomorrow hunny x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chucky Mama Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 I am looking forward to seeing a Facebook photo of my ES not wearing a dress of some sort We were told there would be a drop off only thing for Halls and I got a bit stressed as it was Central London and wondered where the heck I would park but when we got there we were allowed to park up outside for as long as we liked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickendoodle Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 To all you empty nesters it does get better. My girls are now 25 & 26 and I really grieved when they left home, knowing that things would never be the same again. However We can now go on more expensive holidays with just 2 to pay for we can go to places that they would think were really un-cool we can eat things that they hate (we love liver and bacon-they both hate it!) the TV is not now showing Friends on a constant loop the washing machine use has gone down to about a quarter of what it was I can meet up with my daughters to go shopping, go to the cinema etc as 3 adults THEY buy ME a coffee (sometimes) I still really miss them BUT if they were still living at home at their ages I think I would wish that they would get their own places We have a brilliant relationship, different but still great I would love them to be children again (missing out some of the teen years) but we can't turn the clock back. I think a large part of the empty nest feelings is knowing that we are getting older. All the best to all of you who have children starting to spread their wings as after all that's what we want them to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 All the best to all of you who have children starting to spread their wings as after all that's what we want them to do. I couldn't agree more, I think that is why I am quite chilled about it all at the moment, I have always felt that my job as a parent is to produce a secure confident individual who is going to be able to give and take from life in equal measure. Above all else we all want our children to be happy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadietoo Posted September 26, 2012 Share Posted September 26, 2012 Pop in hun.....coffee machine takes seconds to heat up Sorry, only just caught back up with this...thanks just the offer makes me feel better !!x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
