tara Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 When we moved into our house 4 years ago. There was a few days that l parked my car outside my neighbours house oppisite but the old lady asked if we could park outside our own house which l thought l pay my road tax so should be able to park where l want.Anyway l said ok thats fine and ive never parked there again.But over the years shes had her family park out side my house and her hair dresser.This morning the kids are driving me mad im forgetting things im having to go here there and every where today baby crying when l was in post office he was hungry and 5 year old asking me questions so l could not hear the lady behing the counter.I came back home to find the hair dressers car outside my house for l thought ive had enough its one rule them them and one for another.So parked my car right up the end of hers and went indoors l saw them watching me from her kitchen window.So with in minutes she went and got into her car l went out side and asked her not to park there and l got told she pays her road tax so she can park where she wants.I ended up shouting that so do l and l live here .I came in shaking and feeling like ive said my piece.Afder all l have a heavy carry tot to carry a bad back and im fed up with 1 rule for 1 and 1 for another.The lady across the road has got to know that she should be fair and not use my space if l cant use hers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 Tara, when you bought your house did it come with a dedicated parking space outside? If so then you could (if you wanted) report any cars parked there for obstruction If not then I am afraid that you can't do anything about people parking outside your house,however annoying & inconvenient it is. It doesn't seem fair, especially as you went out of your way to do as your neighbour asked & move your car, but unless it is a private parking space there isn't much you can do except maybe put a sign up or leave cones outside your house when you are out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starboyhull Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 We used to have that with someone down our old street, they would park anywhere but if anyone parked near their house, they would complain.......Its very annoying, but I bet you feel better for giving her a peice of your mind....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tara Posted August 8, 2007 Author Share Posted August 8, 2007 There is no parking lines or anything of that kind.But if l asked some one please dont park out side my house then l would not leave some comming in to my house to park my car out side there house.Another thing is that theres never a problem parking out side my house every one has there own drive but us.Also she could of parked outside the ladys house she was visiting.The old lady should say park over here as she has kids to get out.I mean its not much to ask as if l parked my car over there she would not like it.The road is empty so why outside my house.I think what gets to me is that she asked us not to park her side.Double standards Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ladylucan Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 Hiya Tara, have a cup of tea, give your babies a cuddle, and go treat the chickens, I know what is was like for parking, we had the same problem as we used to live round the corner from GIllingham Football Ground, and weekends were an absolute nightmare. without the hassle of during the week, Chin up Hun, xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 Poor you Tara, parking is a nightmare isn't it? As has been said, not a lot can be done unfortunately. We have the same issue especially at school times I can't get anywhere near my house and that IS a problem if both little ones are asleep in the car and I have to get them out. Thankfully it isn't often but it's not surprising that tempers get frayed occasionally! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 You are right...she should treat you with the same courtesy that she expects from you. But unfortunately, if it is a public road, then a fully taxed and insured car can be parked anywhere....but that cuts both ways. Try not to let it escalate into a battle royal with her family etc. I can appreciate why you are so upset . As you say, some people do have one rule for themselves and another for everyone else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foreveryoung Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 yep deff double standards! She dosent want you to park out front of her house as she wants to be nosy! (Ive known Tara for a while lol ) I would park out front of her house just to get my point well and truely across!!! but then that will most likely start a huge fude(sp?) and we dont really want that! what can i say! xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Frugal Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 Oh Tara, you have my sympathies. We have a shared drive for 4 houses and we always park in our own space and have even gravelled our front lawn to double as a car space but our neighbours still park selfishly and block us in so we have to go and knock on their door and ask them to move so we can get out . I know just how angry you must feel but I agree with Egluntine that you shouldn't let it become a neighbourhood dispute. Maybe if you go round and talk to the lady calmly and explain how difficult it is for you with the children if she lets her visitors park where your car should be, the penny might drop and she might be more considerate towards you. Good luck and a huge hug from a fellow parking problem sufferer . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tara Posted August 8, 2007 Author Share Posted August 8, 2007 Thankyou all for your support l have been feeling a bit down just latley my baby is only 10 weeks old.So l think at times im finding it hard with 2 now my son crys alot and today he started his first injections and when my daughter is demanding well l just find it difficult as l feel im being pulled in all different directions.Most of the time im ok but hormones are playing up.Spending time with my chickens helps as its away from it all a good distraction. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel (& Paul) Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 oh you poor thing Tara - you really sound fed up! At least you have your chickens and the forum here to keep you sane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ladylucan Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 Oh Tara, you have got my email if you want a natter, and we can always get together for a cuppa, Dont suffer alone, it does help to talk, and we are all here to listen xx Remember you are not alone x And the chickens are also great listeners as well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah 2 Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 Try not to expect too much from yourself. It takes a while to get into a new routine with two. Infact it's been 10 months for me and I'm still trying to get into a routine. It's definitely harder in the holidays when all the activities and playgroups shut down. It will get easier, especially when you get more sleep. Things will look different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Couperman Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 We have a similar problem with parking, we have a shared drive which works well between us and our neighbours as they dont have a car. Next door doesn't mind us parking on their bit as it looks like they are home when they aren't. and if they need to use their spot they tell us. It can be embarrasing though if they need to be in the garage and we aren't around, so we tend not to do it unless we can't get parked in the street. However someone in a red moron mobile cannot resist parking directly opposite our drive. He is visiting someone somewhere but it makes getting out a real nightmare! I have often thought of following him home and blocking him in to see how he likes it! Then I usually calm down and just let his tyres down instead.(only joking) Kev, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foreveryoung Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 I usually calm down and just let his tyres down instead.(only joking) Kev, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starboyhull Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 haha Always thought that would be so funny to do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Man Banned Posted August 8, 2007 Share Posted August 8, 2007 I bet Couperman isn't joking you know We have a problem in the street with one of our neighbours - he sells cars with his two sons but they do it from home, and most weeks they have a stock of about 5-6 cars and park them outside on the only bit of road - opposite our house! Ok so we have two cars and the caravan on the drive out of the way but I have the work car too and need to plonk it somewhere, usually, as tonight, it's half on the road and half in the tree out the front A xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted August 9, 2007 Share Posted August 9, 2007 Oh Tara, *hugs* to you. I fully sympathise with you over your parking problems,especially with a newborn- I don't think that people realise just how HEAVY those carry baby car seats are, & then there's the changing bag to lug, and your 5 year old to make sure that she doesn't run into the road as you are walking, yak-like, to your house When you are feeling calmer it might be an idea to have a quiet word with your neighbour, or if you are not feeling up to it ask your other half to do so for you. Pregnancy hormones are little monkeys, & the sleep deprivation is very debilitating, so don't be hard on yourself- at least you managed to get out of the house with two littlies yesterday, & that's an achievement in itself I thought that having my second child left me feeling like I was on the moon, life ws still going on around me but I was far removed from it ( maybe I'm still like that!) From my experience I have found that approaching a problem with care & thought & being polite to people when venting my point of view works for me- it may not solve the problem of parking (though I really hope it does) if you talk to your neighbour about it, but it will get the aggro off your chest & relieve you of the tension inside which you don't deserve. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Egluntyne Posted August 9, 2007 Share Posted August 9, 2007 Wise words form Jules. Why not invite the neighbour over for a cup of tea and a chat. (Give her a few eggs!) She would be very unreasonable not to sympathise with your situation, after all she is a woman and I am assuming she's a mother too so ought to understand how difficult it can be with two little ones. I'm sure physical exhaustion and sleep deprivation are making you feel a bit low anyway. Why not shop online for a while? It will relieve you of a major task until you are feeling up to it. I've not yet recovered fully from the birth of my youngest......he'll be 18 in October! Just kidding! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathy C Posted August 9, 2007 Share Posted August 9, 2007 We have a problem in the street with one of our neighbours - he sells cars with his two sons but they do it from home, and most weeks they have a stock of about 5-6 cars and park them outside on the only bit of road - opposite our house! Some people are so inconsiderate. Sometimes however you can get your own back...... An old neighbour used to "do up" cars in our tiny road. They used to cause parking havoc for everbody. One day it got on our nerves that a wreck had been left untouched for months, that we phoned the police about the "abandoned" vehicle. They put a sicker on it, but he still didn't touch it, and it was eventually towed away. The day before we moved house we had another neighbour's skip outside our house (which she apologised for) and another old wreck from 'im next door. Fortunately for us the tax had run out, so we shopped him for that, just in time for it to be towed away and the removers were able to park. I don't think he ever realised it was us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chocchick Posted August 9, 2007 Share Posted August 9, 2007 I have been following this. I get worked up about things like this, e.g. having to alter my gate as it opens outwards because of a petty neighbour complaining to the council. I think you were very brave and the neighbour was so hypocritical. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted August 15, 2007 Share Posted August 15, 2007 How have you been getting on, Tara? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tara Posted August 15, 2007 Author Share Posted August 15, 2007 We have not really seen each other l have not looked over been to busy with the new baby and my 5 year old.I wont be nasty l think l have calmed down now.But l hope the women wont park my side again the carry tot is heavy enogh with out struggling even futher with it plus shopping. green cube comming soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
