The Dogmother Posted October 11, 2007 Share Posted October 11, 2007 One day, when I'm not dependant on the pay cheque, I'd like to emergency foster babies - I was offered it once, but can't afford to do it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted October 11, 2007 Author Share Posted October 11, 2007 Itll happen! we were told we'd never have a baby! And look what happened Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 2 years between my girls, which was perfect. And they both slept through from about 10 weeks too But, the very week Cleo was born,Devon fell right into the terrible twos........& her terrible twos were REALLY REALLY TERRIBLE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 The reason I have 7 years between my boys is that I like having a good night's sleep... I have posted before that I LOVE MY BED!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 I would say GO FOR IT. You clearly love children and having them all together would let you get on with your life once the kids have grown (although maybe you dont' want that - that's me talking). Personally I wouldn't have had another one for anything. I love James to bits but I totally can't relate to small children - give me teenagers any day (I build very strong relationships with the kids I teach, they share their problems with me and I help them when things are tough I think it's because I help them make light of things rather than just sympathise). But you definately should and it is easier when you are younger and more energetic! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Oops I wandered into a baby thread hens, kittens and pups I can help you with but sorry not babies Right I'll be off then BBx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted October 12, 2007 Author Share Posted October 12, 2007 argh! I lay awake thinking about this all morning from 2am. Ross said we should get pregnant '' right now'' but i dont feel ready yet. Im going to get Seths 1st birthday over with, and see what the new year brings. Thanks for all the replies, its nice to think im not mad. And Penguin- i dont want to get all the children out of the way within a few years! This is also something that scares me, being 22 and knowing theres a possibility i might not have anymore. :( Gosh! Im so excited im shaking! That must be a good sign! I am also thinking about the Bed situation Jules!!! I do love sleep! Im sure itd be ok though! This time round im going to make lots of other things different. And cook in advance about 200 home made cottage pies , shephards pies, etc etc etc! So i am more prepapared with meals etc. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted October 12, 2007 Author Share Posted October 12, 2007 Oops I wandered into a baby thread hens, kittens and pups I can help you with but sorry not babies Right I'll be off then BBx Not all people are Babies. I dont really go gooey over puppies. Im sure seth as a baby dressed as a chick could sway you? lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 I doubt it Laura, Buffster doesn't do babies.. older children are ok though - she and Rosie are like a coven when they get together. Pengy, let me borrow James anytime - he's a poppet. I love littlies and teenagers too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted October 12, 2007 Author Share Posted October 12, 2007 Buffster! i like that ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buffie Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 I was being a bit playful. All my mothering instincts have been directed towards animals but I can understand your feelings. I go broody don't I Clare. I do like babies, you just get set in your ways when you haven't had any and move through life as a 'double act'. Children, well we get on very well Oh and in my work the fact I've not had children seems to make me quite , I can see both sides so that's been a bonus. Yes Rosie and myself create mischief when we get together BBx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aunty e Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 My sister fell pregnant with her second baby (by accident) at exactly the same age as you, with her first sone 10 months old. Now both of her babies were prem (she has an incompetent cervix poor love) and were tricky babies, with difficulty feeding and frequent trips to the hospital with asthma, but she found it a complete and utter nightmare. In the end, she couldn't cope and had a mini breakdown (she had split with her partner, so was on her own, which you wouldn't be). She then lost custody of her boys, and moved away and sadly very rarely gets to see them three years later. Her's is a horror story I'm afraid, and I'm not suggesting it would be like that for you, I just thought I'd be the voice of doom as I know how hard the broodiness hits. I'd have a baby right now if I could. But I shall have to make do with kittens for a couple more years until we're out of debt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted October 12, 2007 Author Share Posted October 12, 2007 oh my gosh, how awful for her. That is so sad. I really couldnt imagine going through what she did. Poor honey, Luckily , i have seth to distract me from my broodiness, and were off to West Mids Safari Park on Sunday [weather permitting] so i shall just have to look at the baby lion cubs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aunty e Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Ooooh! baby lions! Sooo cute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted October 12, 2007 Author Share Posted October 12, 2007 theres also baby giraffes. i thought itd be too cold for them this time of year! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 We managed the same age gap each time, 2yrs 7mnths ( 1 day different ) looks like fantastic planning but it just happened that way It worked out ok, my first has never slept well and still doesn't at 14, my second could sleep for England 14 hours a night no problem, so long infact that my milk supply dried up when he was 7mths old because he wasn't feeding at night which apparently is when the milk supply for next day is sorted out. He also smiled all the time and was a really easy baby. My third was more like my first. If they wake up ill in the night I am reminded of those sleepless nights and thank my lucky stars that they were over in about 6 yrs and now I can go back to being like middle child and sleeping for England I think that you are right to wait until the new year then take what nature gives you. Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChookieCaz Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 We have two lovely children. I was thirty when I got pregnant the first time, so my age has affected some of what we have done, It wasn't a good idea to wait too long before another pregnancy, but we couldn't be too quick because of the size of house. Our second bedroom was only big enough for a single bed and a cot, but not much space between the two. And what if we'd had twins again! We moved and now have another child, with room for more, but my age is against that. You are still young enough to have choices, close together, a gap or combination, depending on how many children you wish to have. If you have your children close together, they probably won't remember life before the younger one, but if you have a bigger gap, the older one may like to help you with looking after the younger one and understand that there will be a lot of changes due to the little one. Also, the older one can sometimes teach things to the younger one quicker than yourself. For us, the thing that comes to mind is potty-training rather then mischief! One age gap I wanted to avoid was 2 3/4 years, because of my brother and me, due to the jealousy problem. However, that is the very gap between our girls. My Father-In-Law would recommend not having too big a gap; he had to wait until he was about 8 or 9 years old for his much wanted sister. By that time, the older child may have models, games, etc, that they don't want a baby to mess up. As for sleeping through the night, I suspect there are a lot of factors affecting that. Our older girl was five years old and started school when she started going through the night regularly, however our younger one had long since been going through regularly, from around 2 to 3 months old. Just shows how different each child is. Why do you need to get rid of your lovely push-chair? There must be some way around the transport thing. On holiday, we used a buggy and push-chair as there were two of us to push. At home when not using the car, I started by using an old-fashioned style of pram with a toddler seat. Oher times, We used a baby-carrier/sling and push-chair or buggy. I stopped having my older one in the sling when her shoes hurt my knees! Some parents use buggy-boards attached to the push-chair. You may need flexibility with your push-chair/buggy situation for your different needs which we had. Sorry that this is now so long. Before I go, one book I found helpful is by Libby Purves, "How Not to be a Perfect Mother". It was not only funny, but actually practical and sometimes more so than the official guides that you get given when you have a new baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted October 12, 2007 Author Share Posted October 12, 2007 awww thanks Caroline. My main worry if im honest is not being able to look after Seth and the new baby, and having to let my mil look after Seth. [i would die! '' a tot of whisky in the milk is no harm to get them off the sleep'' - THAT at 2 weeks old! I guess thats just my main worry. And i also worry about Seth not being able to understand about the new baby. But he is very briight. I guess i will just know when the times right. caroline, my Bugaboo pram is fantastic, and even though it cost a small fortune , its so worth it. Its the Gecko one in Red. I wanted a sling desperately when seth was born, but ross wouldnt let me ''incase i fell over '' i think the 2nd baby will be a sling baby though. And hopefuly seth will be walking around alot by then anyway! xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickencam Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 That is one good thing about not waiting too long for baby number 2. I hate to see children older than about two and a half in pushchairs. We had a buggy board for longer walks but otherwise the older child had to walk and in the case of my son that was to school and back (about 3/4 mile round trip ) straight away. There is a mother at our local primary who still brings her child who is in reception to school in her buggy sometimes and I know for a fact that she has no illnesses or disabilities Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jules. Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 My mum made a comment last week (which is very unusual for her) about Ethan being in his buggy alot- he will be 4 in January It's a half mile to playschool in the morning, but when I collect him the distance is more like a mile as I have to go around to the mail entrance, & not down the gated path. I take the buggy to collect him in, because he is tired after playing all morning. He wanted to go there in his buggy today, I kept him occupied all the way by asking him questions about what little boys can't do (like make apple crumble!), & how big boys like him don't need their pram. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmandaR Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 Just caught up on this thread today. It really is a personal choice for a couple as to whether it is a good time to have another child...or not. If it helps, I had two children at aged 21, 10 months apart. We wanted them close together but didn't anticipate that it would happen quite so quickly. Yes, there were tough times but I think with parenting in general, you find a way of muddling through. I wouldn't go back in time and change the age gap between my two for the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 I have three children, and another on the way. There is a gap of 19 months between Duncan and Owen, 4 years between Owen and Caitlin, and then there will be 5 years between Caitlin and the new baby. The thing is, you've just turned 21, so have plenty of time to expand your family (I'm 36 and still producing!) while you are still relatively young! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairy&cake Posted October 12, 2007 Author Share Posted October 12, 2007 I would like 5 children eventually. But i think you can only have 3 c-sections. itd be dangerous for me to have a normal birth. Anyway! I just wanted to say thanks for all the messages,. xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkleeeeee Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 ohhh fairy&cake.... you will not need to sell your bugaboo, i have a bugaboo board on mine with a booseater and my little boy loves it he has been using it over a year, even harriet who is 20months and small can use it fine. i sold my origional navy bug to buy a phil and teds when i was expecting harriet and regretted it from day one. the age gap is 17 months between my two and even though it is hard work as hubbie works 7 day weeks and our house has been a building site for the last two years, i wouldnt change my children for the world. they play nicely and are very close, it is really nice to see. it does get easier as they get older. i bought a bugaboo cameleon with the booseater and then changed it to the bugaboo frog which i prefered. I had a double as well for times when they both needed to be strapped in, in fact i have almost tried all the best rated doubles. i only have the bug and a single mountain buggy now as we havent needed a double for ages. now the teacher in me will say wait a while so that your new baby will be born after sept 1st. it will cost a year more at nursery but you cant beat being eldest in the year and having a good headstart. my little boy will be the eldest in the year and my little girl is a half year baby. if you have the option to plan like i did, these things can be important. i have added a photo in my album of the booseater taken in jan 07, harriet was just 12 months and edward was 2 and 5 months (29months). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowy Posted October 12, 2007 Share Posted October 12, 2007 I think the buggy boards are a great idea aren't they. Dan was 23 months when Matthew was born and he loved the sit on buggy board I got - meant he could run off steam when he needed to and have a ride when he felt tired. I did borrow a double buggy for the very rare occasions I needed to have him strapped in securely though! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
