dippy bird Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Yay!! so glad that it's working out for you! Even my OH was worried about you! There is NO excuse for a man bullying a woman,no matter what! My ex bullied me,which is why is now my EX! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hilda-and-evadne Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 However, I think that this bashing of her OH is unfair. I have tried to view things from his side.... So Omleteers, how about we cut this poor bloke some slack whilst he realises that chickens are actually fab Well, I held back before saying anything but I don't agree. Why kick Eggregiousness when she is down? she has done nothing to "deserve" the incredibly hostile and babyish over-reaction by her husband: shouting, bullying and deliberately oppressive not-speaking/ silences (I remember those silences, they could go on for a week). Would not he have been included in the "big family decision to keep additional pets", if he were not this sort of person who unfairly uses the spouse's power of the veto? There is no excuse for his behaviour. I am not going to comment any further on this. Good luck, Eggregiousness, your OH is setting an execrable example to the children but YOUR example will help ensure that your daughters are not walked over and made utterly miserable by petty husbands in years to come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Falkor Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 So Omleteers, how about we cut this poor bloke some slack whilst he realises that chickens are actually fab here here! We all know he will fall in love with them....in fact it sounds like it is starting already! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom123 Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 However, I think that this bashing of her OH is unfair. I have tried to view things from his side.... So Omleteers, how about we cut this poor bloke some slack whilst he realises that chickens are actually fab Well, I held back before saying anything but I don't agree. Why kick Eggregiousness when she is down? she has done nothing to "deserve" the incredibly hostile and babyish over-reaction by her husband: shouting, bullying and deliberately oppressive not-speaking/ silences (I remember those silences, they could go on for a week). Would not he have been included in the "big family decision to keep additional pets", if he were not this sort of person who unfairly uses the spouse's power of the veto? There is no excuse for his behaviour. I am not going to comment any further on this. Good luck, Eggregiousness, your OH is setting an execrable example to the children but YOUR example will help ensure that your daughters are not walked over and made utterly miserable by petty husbands in years to come. I totally agree. If he is not there most weeks then why can't she do what she wants? If you ask me, I think it is a tad selfish as he's not there BUT she isn't aloud anything to keep her 'company' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dogmother Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Glad to hear that you're OK. He'll come round, never fear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 If you ask me, I think it is a tad selfish as he's not there BUT she isn't aloud anything to keep her 'company' Tom, maybe he has no choice but to be away from home with work and would much rather be at home or at least working closer to home. I have only just read this thread and going back to the beginning the point was made that he didn't want chickens. He obviously had his reasons but maybe a cleverly planned discussion might have been the way to go and his agreement won in time. Personally, if my DH was adamant that he didn't want a pet/pets then I wouldn't go ahead even if I thought he would come around eventually. Maybe there's something else bothering him and the chicken purchasing wasn't really the problem? I'm sure it will all work out in the end, it's just a shame that it's been a painful journey so far. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom123 Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 I'm totally understand that. My dad works away 4 days every week in france so I see what you are saying however I would have thought that he wants his wife to be happy as he can't be there all the time. My dad let me and my mum get a dog for 'company' as he thought it wasn't very nice for us to not see him. Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 You have a lovely dad Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom123 Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 He's alright But how could you resist this... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Aww, "Ooops, word censored!"ody could . He's gorgeous . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 He's alright But how could you resist this... I think your dad could do with a shave Tom but he is a handsome chap! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom123 Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 I don't think my dad would like that Being called a Labradoodle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ain't Nobody Here Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 @ Clootie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clootie Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 I don't think my dad would like that Being called a Labradoodle Yeah but I bet he's just as cuddly ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom123 Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Ewww No Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henriette Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Such a relief that everything seems to be working out in the eggregiousness household and henhold It can only get better, mark my words! I would delay the cockerel for a wee while though. Chicken Shirl!! Love the labradoodle Tom123 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eggregiousness Posted October 8, 2009 Author Share Posted October 8, 2009 (edited) I love your dog Tom! I am beginning to feel uncomfortable about some of the comments being made. The truth is never straightforward and keeps changing depending on where you are standing. Suffice to say he helped me put the coop on its leg today without a single complaint and is rather impressed with it (more than he is with the chickens that's for sure ) I have made him his favourite pie for tea It's back to work for me this evening. I feel OK but my voice is almost inaudible - aftermath of all the coughing - hope the patients aren't scared of me! Hugs to all Pogs Edited October 8, 2009 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Falkor Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 I have made him his favourite pie for tea Always a winner in my house too! Glad things are going well! Em x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cooks Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 I am glad things are going well also, little steps.... but his favourite pie probably just covered at least 3 of them at once Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Tilytinkle Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Sorry, been bit distracted haven't been online much. Probs just a mid life crisis or something sniffle sniffle - yuk sorry to hear about the flu - Bless you, hope you're well on the mend. Flu - ha you obviously didn't have 'man flu' or you'd be still bleating & still in bed!!! Glad the girlies are slowly- but surely - winning over your man. Ms Tillywouldntevendaresayhowinsaneshehasbeenonlyin3days Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chicken Shirl Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Such a relief that everything seems to be working out in the eggregiousness household and henhold It can only get better, mark my words! I would delay the cockerel for a wee while though. Chicken Shirl!! Love the labradoodle Tom123 Just a little joke Hen. Honest Glad he helped with the pole thing though "Eggs" (just had to shorten that a bit) Hmmmmmmmmmmm the pie sounds good. What is his favourite pie by the way.... Still sending {hugs} just in case they are needed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valkyrie Posted October 8, 2009 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Glad it looks like a happy ending - I hoped it would be, but I wasn't sure. I know my OH wouldn't want a cat - although I did ask if we could adopt Paolas - NO! Hmm. Never mind, in the future, next house - ve haf der vays! But it will have to be negotiated and agreed by both of us. The rats - well we already had two, and like chickens, two are never enough - plus I was out for a bit of revenge for something trivial that he did and I can't even remember now - so a bit out of order on my part. He never accepted the two extra girls - he only would have the first girl running up his sleeves (she was on her own in a pet shop when we were looking for them and she was only a baby - her friend was added shortly after from a rescue place). Still, at least you are up and running around on here again. Nasty germs! Clootie you are a naughty lady! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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eggregiousness Posted October 18, 2009 Author Share Posted October 18, 2009 A quick update to let you know that things are back to normal round here Husband has been fussing about my health and has forgotten that he hates chickens . I can see them all being friends one day - never thought I'd say that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chook n Boo Mum Posted October 18, 2009 Share Posted October 18, 2009 That's great news.........not that you've been poorly, just that he's thawing towards the feathered ones Sha x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
