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[Snowy]

Obviously the right decision was made CM! I missed the first half of the debate, but that would have been one of my concerns - 14 is too young to be that far away without the right parental support (as well as the expense! )

Good for your daughter

[Karen & co.]

Glad things have worked out, I do wonder why so many adults think it's OK to give their childrens' friends alcohol My eldest 2 have both distanced themselves by choice from one or two of their oldest friends who seem to enjoy getting very drunk regularly Well done to your daughter for being so sensible

 

Karen x

[Chucky Mama]

What really annoys me is that the girls would have been quite happy with pop. They are not remotely interested in alcohol yet. I hope that they don't know feel that this should be the norm for their parties. DD said that she wouldn't have had more that a sip even if I said she was allowed more as it tasted so much like pop she would rather have Vimto. That's my girl - oh and the parents went out for half of the evening and left them to it

[Lewis]

Right decision made then

 

I've been away with friends + friends have come with us, but only in the UK, not Fflorida!

I think its right, its a family place for you all to go to together.

 

The drink this is a hard one too, when I was younger my mom would phone my best friends mom (he's got older brothers) + they'd chit chat about it and decide what we could have before the told us - saves the having to ask your parents.

I think people with older kids are more relaxed about it as they've been through it before and so know what they can + can't have.

[chickenanne]

IMO 14 is too young to be given anchol at a sleepover. I do remember having a small glass of wine diltued with water at Christmas lunch when I was probably about that age, but that's different - Christmas is a bigger deal than a sleepover after all! Also was with food and familly.

If I were you I'd be pretty angry, unless the freinds mother wasn't the one who insisted on her phoning you for permission first it's pretty unreasonable.

[Yorkshire Pudding]

I agree, you've done the right thing, and well done to your daughter who obviously has her head screwed on right!

 

We allow DS1 (nearly 11) to have tiny tastes of our drinks (beer and wine), and yesterday he had his first glass of diluted wine at a family meal - but I would never even consider offering alcohol to his friends and would be furious if their parents offered it to him.

[chickencam]

You made the right choice for your daughter. She is obviously very sensible.

 

I will allow my elder daughter (16) to drink alcohol at home and my DS who is 14 next week is allowed a small glass of something on special occasions. My youngest doesn't like alcohol and has no interest in it.

 

I wouldn't be happy if any of them were given alcohol at a friend's party without the host having a chat with me about it first.

[Janty]

I'd go mental if someone gave my son alcohol at a sleepover.

We also give him a small glass of wine if (and it is a big if) we have some from time to time but would never give it to his friends. He was offered a glass of champagne by a family friend at Lowestoft Town's football match on Saturday (when they gained promotion) but the man had already checked with hubby. Son had a sip and chucked the rest as he said that it tasted disgusting.

[Happy chickens!]

Definitely the right decision then!

 

Personal rant here, what is the point of alcopops other than to get those who don't like alcohol drunk?! They disguise the taste and as your DD says why not drink pop? (Very sensible girl). Now I like plenty of alcoholic beveridges (hic), but wouldn't want to ever encourage someone to get drunk just for the sake of it, I enjoy my wine etc and would happily drink it without the alcohol if it would taste as good.

[chelsea]

Phew CM - bet you're relieved eh?

 

Sounds like you have a sensible girl there with a good head on young shoulders!

[Chucky Mama]

Personal rant here, what is the point of alcopops other than to get those who don't like alcohol drunk

This is exactly what I said - what was the point. They were having a girly party and sleeping in a tent. I told her that the point of alcopops was to hide the taste of the alcohol in pop so that young people could get drunk and go clubbing. They were not intending to get drunk or go clubbing therefore it was pointless. She thought so too, had a sip and said 'tastes like pop so I might as well drink pop '.

[Guest]

Phew sounds like the initial attraction was more the chance to go to Florida! Jet set opportunity etc of impressionable youngster. But I would only have let mine go to with a very good friend/family but my OH would have not allowed .Its a long flight and a long way if she got unhappy etc. My sisters children went to Florida with good school friends etc and had a ball. So your daughter sounds a sensible realistic young lady.

 

Re the alcohol a few weeks back my 14 year old went to an organised birthday party(one of his first and was interrogated by us parents etc and assured it was the hosts parents in attendance etc) and when my OH went to collect him some of the school chums were very drunk! I would have been furious if it had been our son.

But again if the parents had asked you if one drink was allowed as it was a special celebration ie you knew them really well(again to trust them etc), in their own home I would have said ok, but they dont sound so great do they .

 

I bet you are so glad she never went, she will have many years of travelling in the future to explore far lands

 

indie

[The Dogmother]

I've only just caught up on this latest installment - thank goodness that you have such a sensible daughter, Rachel.

 

I was brought up, like other Italian children, drinkng the odd small glass of very watered down wine at meals, but I don't drink now. Rosie is well aware of the problems caused by drinking at any age; she's allowed the odd sip of Phil's drink after asking me first but doesn't much like it TBH.

 

What on earth was the mother thinking by offering alcohol to underage children anyway, let alone without even consulting the parents first?